That Guy!


It was 1974 when I moved to New York City - I was 17 years old and had just graduated high school.

I always dreamed and somehow knew, that I would one day live there.

Earlier that year, I auditioned for The American Academy of Dramatics Arts and had been accepted.

And thanks to my wonderful parents, they agreed to pay for my schooling and all living expenses for four years, as if I were attending college.

They knew that I had no interest in getting a college education, but rather, wanted to go directly into the heart and soul of theater…and BE an actor.

So in the Fall of 1974...I kissed my parents good-bye, got on Delta Airlines…and began my new adventure in the Big Apple.

New York City during the 70’s was mind-blowing. It was like being given the keys to a 24-hour a day candy store, and told that you could eat as much as you want.

And thank God…for as free as I am about experiencing things, I also have a part of me that’s conservative and cautious.

So I was very selective about what type of candy I ate…and how much.

However…you better believe I DID have fun!

I felt like a male Marlo Thomas in the TV show, That Girl, with my starry eyes and mouth wide open, in complete awe of living my New York City dream.

I spent the first year residing at Pace University on Wall Street, and the following three years, living in a studio apartment on the east side.

The Academy of Dramatic Arts was a two year program, in which you had to be hand selected by board members, in order to return for the second year.

However, I was NOT selected.

I was told that I was very limited in my acting ability, and they could no longer teach me anything.

I felt bad for about a week, and then woke up one day and said to myself, “Fuck them!…there’s more than one way to be an actor.”

So being the defiant and stubborn person that I am, I continued to stay in New York for another three years; take acting classes at various schools, and began auditioning for professional jobs.

Most of the work I got was outside of the city, traveling to Europe and various places in the United States. I did do some theater in town, but not much.

The acting experience I received within those four years, gave me a solid foundation for what I would be doing in the future.

Living in New York City was one of the biggest highlights of my life.

Not only did it provide me with some wonderful training for my craft, but it also provided me with the most outstanding LIFE-training.

And I will always be eternally grateful to my parents, for giving me the biggest opportunity to follow my dream….

….to live in New York City as an actor.

There’s nothing like it!




Diamonds, Daisies, Snowflakes,
That Guy
Chestnuts, Rainbows, Springtime ...
Is That Guy
He’s tinsel on a tree ...
He's everything that every guy should be!

Sable, Popcorn, White Wine,
That Guy
Gingham, Bluebirds, Broadway ...
Is That Guy
He's mine alone, but luckily for you ...
If you find a guy to love,
Only one guy to love,
Then he'll be That Guy too ...


That Guy!

38 comments

  1. Hey Ron,
    How are ya ? !
    Hubby & I are fine.
    Geez... hereI'm first again to comment. Must be the time difference ;)

    You really knew what you wanted at a young age, and just went for it ! You must have really lived the time of your life there. God bless your parents who backed out & supported you. Some parents would have not !
    You are so funny; that guy, as if you were the male equivalent to Marlo !!!

    Believe me; it suits you to a T; you are "that guy " !

    Hubby sends his Bonjour & I'm giving you a big xxxxxxxx

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  2. I'm sooooooo glad you're a stubborn, defiant one.

    <-- means she has company! ;-)

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  3. What a wonderful story. Your life is your saga. Thany for sharing this with all of us.
    Break a Leg.

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  4. NYC is almost like a life-force, isn't it? I wonder if we ever crossed paths in The Big Apple during the '70's? I was there, often, taking in museums and galleries for my courses at college. I didn't want to act, I wanted to be an "artist." Although, I've been in Flordia for many, many years, I still consider NY my "home" and NYC part of my heart.

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  5. Morning Debi!

    You said it girl...!

    It was a great lesson in teaching me about rejection VERY early.

    That's something every actor goes through, so as difficult as it was for me at the time, it forced me to pursue what I went there to do, even more.

    Life as an actor consists of extreme highs and lows, but it's a wonderful adventure!

    I'm so glad I had the opportunity to experience it!

    Thanks for stopping by today, Debi!

    Have a great Wednesday!

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  6. Good Morning Barbara!

    Bonjour!

    (oooh...I'm speaking FRENCH!!)

    Yes, if it weren't for my parents, there's NO WAY I could have lived there on my own. My parents gave each one of us the opportunity to pursue whatever we wanted for a career, and supported that. They were AWESOME!!!

    I always knew that I wanted the theater. It's one of those passions that I think someone is just born with...you just KNOW!

    I was very blessed to have spent about 25 years (off and on) perfoming on stage, and was given some great opportunities. Then one day, I knew it was time to take another path, and move on to something different.

    However, I can't say that I will never go back to the theater one day. That's the wonderful thing about being an actor...you can always return!

    SO glad to hear that you and Didier are fine and are settled back in!

    Thanks a BUNCH for stopping by this morning, Barb!

    Always a JOY!

    Have a wonderful Wednesday!

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  7. Mornin' Mel!

    There can often times be a "positive" side to being stubborn and defiant...can't there??

    But then there are other times when I need to slap myself across the face!

    (but I try not to do that too often...cause it HURTS!!!)

    Always a TREAT sharing with ya, dear Mel!

    Thanks for stopping by!

    Enjoy your Wednesday!

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  8. Howdy Mr. Dave!!

    You're so welcome, buddy!

    The longer I have this blog, the more I keep remembering special moments in my life (past and present)...and sometimes it reminds me of all the really cool lessons that I've learned from them, ya know?

    Let's see, what should I call my Life Saga?...

    how about....

    ...That (Italian) Guy!

    HAHAHAHAHA!!

    Thanks for sharing your "light" today, my Libra friend!

    It's ALWAYS enjoyed and appreciated!

    Be well!

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  9. Wow. I've never had any desire to be in the spotlight but I would have loved to live in New York for even just a brief period of time.

    I love reading about people's experiences in New York. Whether it's modern day New York or whatever, I love reading about artists (actors, painters, sculpter, etc...) living there. I live vicariously through them.

    Thanks for sharing. I'd love to hear more New York stories.

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  10. Good Morning Miss Nitebyrd!

    Hey...that's right...YOU'RE a native New Yorker!!!

    I'll tell ya, New York City can be intense, crazy, insane, and manic...BUT...there's not another place on this planet that's like it!

    And you've stated it perfectly...

    ...it's the "pump" for all the life-force in the world!

    OMG...can you just imagine if you and I HAD crossed paths, and never even knew that we'd be meeting up again through our BLOGS????

    I bet we did!!

    Even though NYC is HUGE...it's also very small, in that people meet constantly by accident. Isn't that amazing?

    Oh, and I bet you had a blast visiting all the awesome museums... Isn't the MET incredible? Wasn't the 70's...unbelievable? Talk about WILD!

    Me too, Nitebyrd...even though I thoroughly enjoyed my time living in Florida, I LOVE being back in the North. I just think we are all somehow very rooted to our birthplace.

    Thanks LOADS for stopping by and sharing about your HOME!!!

    Always a great TREAT seeing ya, Nitebyrd!

    Enjoy your day!

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  11. You loose on the streets of New York in the 70's....wow...the imaginations is really taking off right now.

    I wonder how many talented actors we would never see if they listened to the first rejection they got? Quite a few I would venture to say.

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  12. Morning Mama Dawg!

    Great seeing ya!

    I have this saying..."Everyone should experience living in New York City, even if it's just for a brief time."

    It's such an incredible exposure to all the "extremes" in life!

    There's a RAW BEAUTY to it.

    And knowing your wonderful playful spirit, I bet you'd LOVE it...and feel right at home.

    I may later on, share some other New York City experiences in future posts, so thank you for your suggestion!

    Always COOL sharing with ya, Mama Dawg!

    Enjoy your Wednesday!

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  13. Morning Jeff!

    Howdy, buddy!

    OMG...living in New York City in the 70's was both scary and intensely alluring.

    And to a 17 year old...it seemed even more so!

    I could be both a participant and observer at times.

    True, Jeff...first rejection to an actor can be crushing, but thank god most actors are born with a resilliant skin.

    When I think of how Lucille Ball and Barbara Streisand were BOTH told that they had no talent...I'm very grateful for their persistance!

    YEPEEEE!

    Thanks for stopping by today, Jeff!

    Always great sharing with ya!

    Have great Wednesday!

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  14. How cool. I have been to New York trumpet shopping and it was amazing - I'd love to live and work there.

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  15. I second Debs... She gets right to the point... And, THEIR loss.. right?!!!!!! Anyhow... this post made me feel very nostalgic, Ron... I can only imagine what was like being a young man in NY in the 1970s!!! I was still a kid in the 70s... BUT not only do I remember the scene VERY WELL.... but, I grew up smack dab in the MIDDLE of Hollywood-- Sunset Blvd. and Formosa Ave, to be more exact... I remember it well.... I think you should write a book... I'd by it and read it over and over again!!!
    GO GO GO THAT GUY!!!!
    PS... I just LOVED Marlo Thomas in That Girl.... and Danny Kaye!!

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  16. Yay, you showed 'em Ron. Stuck two fingers up to them good and proper!

    I love reading about the things you've done - you've done so much! :)

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  17. I can't remember how I found your blog. I lurked through your wonderful family photos - I LOVE family photos - but I HAD to comment on this post.

    I am so touched that your parents would support you like that! And you were brave to face the city - and the acting critics. Thanks for sharing that!

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  18. Hello againTopChamp!

    Nice seeing ya!

    Hey...that's so cool...so you really DO play the trumpet???

    My older brother played the trumpet in his high school band, and I always remember enjoying going to see him in concerts!

    Isn't NYC amazing?

    Living in Philly, I'm so close by...but don't visit as often as I should. It has a very different energy than Philadelphia, so it really nice to experience both.

    Thanks for stopping by today, Top Champ!

    Hope you had a great Wednesday!

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  19. Hellooooo Leesa!!!

    OH MAN...I can just imagine what is was like in Hollywood during the 70's!!!!

    I bet it was WILD and FREE like NYC!

    Watching the movie Sunset Boulevard as a kid, ALWAYS made me want to go there! I've not spent much time in CA...but would love to visit San Francisco one of these days. Everyone tells me that I would really enjoy the cooler weather.

    Just as I shared with Debi, the rejection of not being asked back for my second year at AADA, was good, because it taught me resiliance at a very early age.

    OMG...and didn't you just LOVE watching That Girl? I found out, through the link I left on this post, that the show was only on for five years! It seemed like it was on much longer, for some reason!

    And thanks for your suggestion about perhaps writing a book. I actually have a collection of small stories that I've written about my experiences, that I've been saving in my documents for years!

    As ALWAYS...it's a PLEASURE sharing with you!

    Thanks for stopping by!

    Enjoy your evening!

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  20. Good Evening Akelamalu!

    Doesn't it feel GREAT to shoot the "bird" now and then?

    HAHAHAHA!

    Thanks a bunch for enjoying this share, dear lady.

    For some reason, last night, I was listening to the song "Native New Yorker" and was suddenly reminded of my time in NYC, so I sat down at the keyboard and wrote this - it was a lot of fun!

    Hope you had a wonderful Wednesday!

    And as always...thanks for dropping by!

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  21. Greetings Carol!

    Welcome!

    Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment...that was so nice of you!

    And also...nice meeting YOU!

    Aren't old family photos the BEST? They suddenly bring back a plethora of memories, don't they?

    And yes...I will forever be grateful to my parents for giving me the opportunity to experience this. My parents always allowed us to do whatever it was that we wanted with our lives. They were always a little worried for me (being an actor), but they still supported my choice.

    I feel SOOO blessed having them as my parents!

    Thanks again for stopping by today, Carol!

    Feel free to drop by whenever you feel like it!

    Enjoy your evening!

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  22. ronnie baby...and that's why I love you. YOU are you. They tried to gage you as an actor and they failed. You know your craft and you can act with passion. If i had met you...we would have been in aplay together. I just know it.

    I can see you and me there on stage...the curtain goes up. It's a love/drama/murder/mystery.

    The audiance applauds...the play opens with Spiky and Ronnie conversing in the living room of a New York apartment...January 13, 1956

    Spiky: You know I can have any man I want, though I am married? She coolly turns from him staring out the apartment window.

    Ronnie: Yes...but it's me you want, isn't it? He walks towards her slowly as if trying to inticipate her mind set.

    Spiky: Yes...damn you. You occupy my every minute...my every second. And I've not yet even kissed you. Your eyes, voice, touch...drives me mad.

    Ronnie: It can never be, Your husband is my best friend. I've known him all my life...it doesn't matter how I feel about you.

    ronnie: I have to go away...I'll be in London by Friday.

    Spiky: as if a knife went through her she bends with the pain her heart now feels. Panic is esily seen in her eyes.

    NO...please. I'll die...the thought of you so far away...I couldn't bear that. I must have you near. Even if it is to only see you at a distance.

    I beg you...stay in the city.

    Ronnie: I have to go...Spiky, please let me leave. i don;t know what I will do if I stay. Please, if you love me...release me.

    Spiky: Tears fell from her eyes and she felt completely empty...almost like feeling death...NO...was her answer.

    Ronnie...walks briskly to her and takes her arms with both hands...he doesn't know whether to shake her or just kiss her.

    He does the latter.

    She in his arms fills him with a feeling he has not ever felt. And he kisses her hungrily. Confessing his love for her. I love you...I love you. He kisses her and she She responds in the same. He surrenders to her and she presses herself to him...

    Ronnie: What of your husband, my best friend?

    Spiky: We'll figure something out.

    Act II
    The death of a husband
    Was it an accidnet or murder?

    hehehe...I want to be on stage with you. So...me being the warped minded person that I am...just wrote one. There it is. I just did my own little play with you as the leading man.

    Sweetie...I loved the kiss part, hehehe.

    I just wanted to drop by...Ciao.

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  23. OH my! Ron, leaving at such a young age not only with the blessing of your parents but the funding too! WOW
    I cannot even imagine if my son said in 2 years that he wanted to go there to live and work. I'd freak ... and say NO WAY. LOL
    But times were really different then. And that you got to have that experience is something so many never had and never will. So good for you. Sounds like your parents were pretty cool people too.

    In '74 I was 10 and was probably beginning my crush on Donny Osmond. So I fell in love with performing too, but just watching someone else do it. ;) He's still pretty Sweet and Innocent. LOL

    Well, I can only imagine the fun you must have had, not just in the City but in Europe as well. Can't wait to hear more.

    Isn't the weather just wonderful lately! Ooh la la, Fall is fabulous.

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  24. OMG...Miss Jones!!!!

    That was freaking BRILLIANT!!!

    And I can't believe you thought of that whole scene as you were writing it!!!

    What an enthralling, edge-of-your-seat scene!

    (I was biting my nails!!!)

    I kept anticipating the next move!

    I wonder what happened to the husband???

    SEE!!!! I keep telling you...you're a FABULOUS writer!!!!

    BRAVA!!!!!

    I actually had a passionate kiss scene, in a play that I was once in...The Sisters Rosensweig by Wendy Wausserstein. And right before my entrance, I sprayed my mouth with Bianca so that I'd have fresh breath when we smooched! She and I were both smokers, but I wanted ONE of us to have fresh breath!!!

    What can I say, except...I've got a touch of OCD!

    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!

    Anyway, my dear friend...thanks for the spectacular scene. I may have to paste and save it for a future production!

    Hey...wouldn't it FUN to do a play together? You NEVER know!!!

    I hope all is going well in Aussieland, and that your presentation went well!

    Thanks a BUNCH for taking the time to stop by and share, Spiky!

    I SO appreciate it!!!

    Have a wonderful evening!

    Ciao bella!

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  25. Good Evening Crystal Chick!

    Howdy!

    Weren't my parents the BEST???

    I will ALWAYS be grateful for that GENEROUS support!

    I think the fact that I WAS so young, actually was a blessing, because at that age...you have no fear...you just DO IT!

    I actually didn't do most of my acting until I was much older. All the REALLY good parts for theater, are for people say...30's-40's and up, but the training I got in NYC, gave me a solid foundation for the future.

    OMG...didn't you love watching The Donnie and Marie Show?

    "I'm a little bit country...I'm a little bit rock and roll."

    HA!

    And remember The Partridge Family???

    And YES!!!! I'm dying about the weather we're having!!! Last night I actually had to put on some sweat pants and an extra blanket when I went to bed! I sleep so much better when it's cold!

    Thanks for stopping by, M!

    I always enjoy sharing our stories with one another...

    ...so thank YOU!

    Enjoy your evening!

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  26. That was a really nice entry :)

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  27. Hellooooo Nica!

    Hey...it's so nice seeing ya!

    Thanks for stopping by!

    And thanks for enjoying this post!

    I know that you (being into theater) can relate to this.

    aaaaah...the actors life!

    Challenging...but so rewarding, right?

    I hope all is well in your life, Nica!

    Have a nice evening!

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  28. Oh fuck yeah I get right to the point LOL. We Hawaii girls don't take no shit from nobody! (grabs pitchfork, sharpens it...poke poke poke...)

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  29. How AWESOME that you got to fulfill a part of your dream! Great story Ron, thanks for sharing! I live vicariously through your younger NYC actor self!

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  30. Morning Debi!

    Go, girl!

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  31. Morning Kate!

    So nice seeing ya!

    Thanks for dropping by!

    There's nothing like a few years in NYC to open your eyes!

    WOW....!

    Hope all is well for you this Fall and that you're enjoying the change of season. I bet it's beautiful out there!

    Have a GREAT Thursday, Kate!

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  32. Thanks for unfolding this nice little chapter of you life Ron. That's really well written.

    Moreover parents need to be thanked for numerous little things. I had the incidents lined up to blog about.

    BTW it feels great to be back where internet is not a OMG!. I have spent my last few days at a torturous place where internet really sucked. Could not wait any longer to blabber about the experience and that's the first thing i did when i came back :)

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  33. Evening Amit!

    Great seeing ya, buddy!

    Thanks for stopping by!

    It was fun putting this post together, so I'm glad you enjoyed it!

    You said it...because I quite often forget all that my parents did for me. I was damn lucky to have parents who allowed ALL of us...to go walk down the paths we wanted for ourselves. They always guided and gave their opinions, but ultimately let us do what we desired.

    Hey...sorry to hear about your experience with poor Internet service. Isn't that the PITTS???

    One time here at home, I lost my service for an entire weekend. OMG...I thought I was going to insane. I felt CUT OFF from the world!!!

    HA!

    Thanks for stopping by today, Amit!

    Always nice sharing with you!

    Enjoy your evening!

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  34. What the F did they know!! Besides look what an exciting life you've had and will have!!

    I am in love with your family..they should have adopted me! hee, hee

    Thank you for sharing your NY experience and your family. You were and are still adorable!!

    Love Ya!

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  35. Evening Dearest Gypsy-Heart!

    YEA...what the F did they know!!!!

    Thank you my dear friend!

    When I looked at the rejection as a way for me to be instantly PUSHED into the professional acting world...it totally made sense to me.

    It's what was SUPPOSE to happen for me, ya know?

    I needed the rejection early on...to prepare me for experiencing it in the future.

    And you're so right...look at what a COOL life it's given me!!

    And I really mean this...I LOVE my life. And wouldn't trade it for any other experience in the world!

    Thank you so much for taking a look at the family album! I had so much fun putting that post together!!!!

    So glad you enjoyed it.

    Thank you for stopping by tonight, dear Gypsy!

    It's always a BLAST sharing with you!

    Love ya!!!!

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  36. Something else we have in common! Supportive parents...

    That, and we were both young men in NYC in the 70s... wait.... no, what?

    ;)

    SMOOCH

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  37. OH SHIT, Anndi....you're freaking fabulous humor always KILLS ME!!!

    But we WERE men in NYC in the 70's, remember???

    We sang with the Village People!!!

    Y-M-C-A...it's fun to stay at the Y-M-C-A!!!

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