tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post3291323256466021436..comments2024-03-28T10:39:39.697-04:00Comments on Being Ron: On Ending RelationshipsRonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977027331657615697noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-58977958320369793802011-12-18T19:50:41.183-05:002011-12-18T19:50:41.183-05:00Greetings Spriteskeeper~
Welcome! Thanks for stop...Greetings Spriteskeeper~<br /><br />Welcome! Thanks for stopping by and sharing a comment. So nice to meet you. I've seen your name over at Peg and SuziCate's blog.<br /><br />"And I learned that I had been holding onto this grudge of over 15 years, and suddenly, I let it go."<br /><br />Yes, I know exactly what you mean because I did the same thing. However, after talking to him again after 15 years, I think we both were able to have closure on our 5 year relationship, and let it go.<br /><br />" It's funny how some people remember only the good while others dwell on the momentary bad."<br /><br />Amen!<br /><br />Thanks again for stopping by. I hope you're enjoying this holiday season!<br /><br />Merry Christmas to you and your family!<br /><br />X<br /><br />P.S. I'll be sure to stop by your blog just as soon as I finish with my insane working schedule next week.Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-63268752235666963552011-12-18T19:40:48.045-05:002011-12-18T19:40:48.045-05:00So well written!
I recently ran into an old flame,...So well written!<br />I recently ran into an old flame, and this was someone I thought I'd never want to see again, he was so manipulative, but there he was, with his wife and son, giving me a hug as if we'd been the best of friends. And his wife mentioned that he had said such good things about me. And I learned that I had been holding onto this grudge of over 15 years, and suddenly, I let it go. I wished him happiness and went on about my day. It's funny how some people remember only the good while others dwell on the momentary bad.Spriteskeepernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-30281732645806730602011-12-12T09:55:03.025-05:002011-12-12T09:55:03.025-05:00Hey Leesa~
LOVE your comment! It so filled with i...Hey Leesa~<br /><br />LOVE your comment! It so filled with insight and truth!<br /><br />" I remember the ones that were the hardest were the ones where I really, truly loved the person.. and it just wasn't meant to be for us."<br /><br />Yes, and that's what he and I finally realized - it just wasn't meant to be for us any longer. We learned what we learned, but it was time to move on.<br /><br />"Sometimes what's important is finding ourselves again... if the relationship can't be saved, that is.. and growing from the experience..."<br /><br />AMEN! And that's what we both learned the most.<br /><br />It was great to talk to him again after 15 years because we were able to put complete closure on our relationship.<br /><br />Again, thanks so much for stopping by and sharing you insight, Leesa! Muchly appreciated and enjoyed!<br /><br />Have a SUPER week!<br /><br />Namaste and XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-44874597133670757162011-12-12T02:58:57.293-05:002011-12-12T02:58:57.293-05:00Hiya Ron...
I'm back... :)
WOW! This was i...Hiya Ron...<br /><br />I'm back... :)<br /><br />WOW! This was intense and very insightful.. Thanks so much for sharing your own experiences... I am sure that even though it was a long time ago and you have come so far since then.. that at the time, it must have been frustrating.. for one - to be so much in love with someone- and lose a part of yourself - and when realizing it.. you have to decide what is important and what makes you happy...<br /><br />I have learned, very much through experience and my own reflections-- that <br />the hardest thing is not 'ending a relationsip,' per se.. it's ending one with someone you love intensely... But, I remember the ones that were the hardest were the ones where I really, truly loved the person.. and it just wasn't meant to be for us.. <br />That said.. the recovery after the break up is often so hard and tumultuous, that it's where we become the strongest and learn the most about ourselves! And after we have healed and have 'refound' ourselves.. we are able to continue on and be happy again.. <br />Sometimes what's important is finding ourselves again... if the relationship can't be saved, that is.. and growing from the experience...<br /><br />PS - I think it's really great how you had the chance to reconnect with him after all these years gone by! <br /><br />Namaste...<br />LeeseLeesanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-4530726017318873422011-12-06T21:32:23.096-05:002011-12-06T21:32:23.096-05:00Hey Jayne~
"Disclaimer: I suck at relationsh...Hey Jayne~<br /><br />"Disclaimer: I suck at relationships, which is why I'm single."<br /><br />HA! Thank you for your honesty, my friend. And I think I would have to agree with you - which is why I'm single too.<br /><br />"This whole "till death do us part" stuff. Great if you can do it, but I like "So long as we both shall love" better."<br /><br />BRILLIANT! And I TOTALLY agree - so long as we both shall love.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, Jayne! You ROCK!<br /><br />Have a grrrreat week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-57099215339922749742011-12-06T21:12:36.375-05:002011-12-06T21:12:36.375-05:00Disclaimer: I suck at relationships, which is wh...Disclaimer: I suck at relationships, which is why I'm single.<br /><br />Having said that, I'd call a 5 year relationship a rousing success. And then it was done. No failure involved. This whole "till death do us part" stuff. Great if you can do it, but I like "So long as we both shall love" better.Jaynehttp://injaynesworld.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-7198428742150527412011-12-06T10:56:40.161-05:002011-12-06T10:56:40.161-05:00Greetings Rebecca~
Welcome! Thanks so much for st...Greetings Rebecca~<br /><br />Welcome! Thanks so much for stopping by!<br /><br />"Until you love yourself, it's difficult to bring much to a relationship. The magnet thing is such a clue. When it's difficult to pull apart...there's something...wonky."<br /><br />You are soooooooooooo correct! The magnet thing is such a clue - when it's difficult to pull apart...there's something...wonky. It's so strong, that you can't see PAST the magnetic pull.<br /><br />Again, thank you for stopping by and adding your insight to this post.<br /><br />Have a great week, Rebeccca!<br /><br />X<br /><br />P.S. Thoroughly enjoyed your blog. I'll be back!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-75764092863144983402011-12-06T10:24:13.250-05:002011-12-06T10:24:13.250-05:00Love the photo. Until you love yourself, it's ...Love the photo. Until you love yourself, it's difficult to bring much to a relationship. The magnet thing is such a clue. When it's difficult to pull apart...there's something...wonky. I'm still working on finding myself INSIDE my 24 year marriage.rebecca @ altared spaceshttp://altaredspaces.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-90302712617602464062011-12-05T22:51:50.103-05:002011-12-05T22:51:50.103-05:00Hey there Scott~
Great to see ya again, buddy!
&...Hey there Scott~<br /><br />Great to see ya again, buddy!<br /><br />"I could have written this myself because I had a very similar relationship where I was also the invisible man. I too ended it."<br /><br />So you know what I'm talking about, hu? Like I shared in this post, I was as much responsible for that as my partner, because I allowed it. And when I finally learned to love and respect myself, something shifted in me, and I spoke up.<br /><br />You're right, some relationships are healthy if both partners are not willing to see.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing on this post, Scott. Really appreciated it!<br /><br />Have a great week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-15719720223974543322011-12-05T22:47:17.657-05:002011-12-05T22:47:17.657-05:00Nice post, Ron. Honest and candid. I could have wr...Nice post, Ron. Honest and candid. I could have written this myself because I had a very similar relationship where I was also the invisible man. I too ended it.<br /><br />Some relationships are just not healthy ones if both partners are not willing to see themselves honestly. Like you shared, I think you can still love someone, but also know when it's time to call it quits.Scottnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-12131881353291278742011-12-04T22:36:44.367-05:002011-12-04T22:36:44.367-05:00Hey there Herman!
"Relationships are a fickl...Hey there Herman!<br /><br />"Relationships are a fickle thing."<br /><br />Yes, they certainly are, aren't they?<br /><br />"How could I be sure that we'd be able to make this thing work out for the long haul? It's a job. Give and take. All of that jive. But after going through several relationships in the past, I was confident that Karin and I were going to be able to go the distance."<br /><br />You are so right, a relationship is a job. A give and take.<br /><br />And I'm so happy to hear that you and Karin are able and willing to go the distance. Brava to you BOTH!<br /><br />"I guess, if I had to boil it down, is that dedicating yourself to a relationship requires thinking with both your mind and your heart."<br /><br />Exactly! With both your mind AND your heart!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your insight and wisdom on this post, buddy. Muchly appreciated and enjoyed!<br /><br />Hope you had a super weekend!<br /><br />X to you and the family!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-34327783531293011372011-12-04T22:14:02.240-05:002011-12-04T22:14:02.240-05:00Relationships are a fickle thing. Plunging head-f...Relationships are a fickle thing. Plunging head-first in a marriage was the most exciting and terrifying experience of my life. How could I be sure that we'd be able to make this thing work out for the long haul? It's a job. Give and take. All of that jive. But after going through several relationships in the past, I was confident that Karin and I were going to be able to go the distance. <br /><br />I guess, if I had to boil it down, is that dedicating yourself to a relationship requires thinking with both your mind and your heart. And hey, if you want to end it all, the phone's always there to help you do your dirty work ;-)Herman Turnipnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-32823803674855356012011-12-04T11:54:42.150-05:002011-12-04T11:54:42.150-05:00Hey there Jay~
You are so spot on, my friend........Hey there Jay~<br /><br />You are so spot on, my friend.....<br /><br />" We grow out of childhood friendships, we grow out of teen friendships, we grow out of loving relationships, too, and I believe it's inevitable that we should."<br /><br />You're right....it's like an evolution.<br /><br />"If you can weather the storms, equally committed to making it work, and if you can accept all parts of the other without compromising your own self, then all is good. But it's no good if one of you feels resentful for whatever reason, and the other just expects them to deal with it quietly on their own."<br /><br />BRA-VA! Exquisitely and accurately expressed!!!!!<br /><br />"Good for you for having the guts to examine your own self and your feelings and to end it. But I'm really glad that you spoke, years later, and acknowledged the good - that's great!"<br /><br />Thank you. Like I shared, I think we BOTH grew from our relationship, therefore we look back on it with lessons and LOVE.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your wonderful insight, Jay!<br /><br />You've added MUCH!<br /><br />Have a super Sunday!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-69292776308651501052011-12-04T11:43:32.614-05:002011-12-04T11:43:32.614-05:00How very true. We DO grow out of relationships. ...How very true. We DO grow out of relationships. We grow out of childhood friendships, we grow out of teen friendships, we grow out of loving relationships, too, and I believe it's inevitable that we should. <br /><br />If you can weather the storms, equally committed to making it work, and if you can accept all parts of the other without compromising your own self, then all is good. But it's no good if one of you feels resentful for whatever reason, and the other just expects them to deal with it quietly on their own.<br /><br />Sounds as if you dealt with your failing relationship pretty well, Ron. Good for you for having the guts to examine your own self and your feelings and to end it. But I'm really glad that you spoke, years later, and acknowledged the good - that's great!Jaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-6173630839533366682011-12-04T09:49:29.482-05:002011-12-04T09:49:29.482-05:00Hey Jen~
You're absolutely correct.....
&quo...Hey Jen~<br /><br />You're absolutely correct.....<br /><br />" I do think some people are better at being in relationships than others. But, it's also being in the right combination at the right time."<br /><br />Being in the right combination at the right time.<br /><br />I think my partner and I were at the young age, where we thought the love/passion we shared were ALL there was to a relationship. But as we grew, we began to see beyond that and realized we were not the right combination.<br /><br />Also, it's as you shared, you have to know when to compromise and both parties have to be willing to do that.<br /><br />"I've been very lucky and my husband and I always know when it's time to compromise."<br /><br />BRA-VA!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your wisdom on this post, my friend. Muchly appreciated and valued!<br /><br />Hope you're having a FAB weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-61175771504371492062011-12-04T09:12:36.937-05:002011-12-04T09:12:36.937-05:00No matter the relationship, it's work. I do th...No matter the relationship, it's work. I do think some people are better at being in relationships than others. But, it's also being in the right combination at the right time. I've been very lucky and my husband and I always know when it's time to compromise.whenpigsflynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-30513639190314753102011-12-03T23:03:22.275-05:002011-12-03T23:03:22.275-05:00*wink*
X*wink*<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-41347121796826145242011-12-03T22:53:52.697-05:002011-12-03T22:53:52.697-05:00Agreed. 100%Agreed. 100%meleahrebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-91725716932131502322011-12-03T20:23:38.509-05:002011-12-03T20:23:38.509-05:00Greetings Tatiana~
*waving hello*
So great to se...Greetings Tatiana~<br /><br />*waving hello*<br /><br />So great to see ya!<br /><br />"You definitely took the best possible decision when you ended this relationship and it shows how much both of you have growacomplished in these past 15 years. "<br /><br />Thank you for sharing that. And you're right, it really was the best possible decision. And even though I actually ended it, we BOTH knew deep down that it was time. It was so nice talking to him after 15 years, and I could tell that he grew too.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, and for your thoughtful and kind words. Very much appreciated.<br /><br />Hope you're enjoying your weekend and this holiday season!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-74722518695863867822011-12-03T19:54:21.343-05:002011-12-03T19:54:21.343-05:00Very touching and candid post Ron - Congrats!
You ...Very touching and candid post Ron - Congrats!<br />You definitely took the best possible decision when you ended this relationship and it shows how much both of you have growacomplished in these past 15 years. Both images are a great addon too...TatianaVhttp://www.totally-useless.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-20691308010259153872011-12-03T19:22:53.935-05:002011-12-03T19:22:53.935-05:00Hey Meleah~
"Oh snap. I can TOTALLY relate t...Hey Meleah~<br /><br />"Oh snap. I can TOTALLY relate to that, Ron.<br /><br />And, since I still don't know how NOT to do that - I am better off staying single."<br /><br />HA! Me too! "Libra thing" perhaps?<br /><br />But truthfully, I actually enjoy being single right now.<br /><br />However, one thing this relationship taught me was that for future relationships, it's important for both people to keep their individuality, yet at the same time.....SHARE their individuality with one another.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, girl! Hope you're enjoying a FAB weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-56604291585574818722011-12-03T17:53:26.083-05:002011-12-03T17:53:26.083-05:00"I realized that I had lost myself in our rel..."I realized that I had lost myself in our relationship. My life became his life. I became the invisible man."<br /><br />Oh snap. I can TOTALLY relate to that, Ron.<br /><br />And, since I still don't know how NOT to do that - I am better off staying single.meleahrebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-68353356986911313902011-12-03T09:47:53.368-05:002011-12-03T09:47:53.368-05:00Howdy Mark~
"Five years is a long time to in...Howdy Mark~<br /><br />"Five years is a long time to invest in somebody, and if it doesn't work out in the end, that's wrenching."<br /><br />Yes, it was wrenching. After it ended, I remember feeling as though one of my internal organs was missing. And I think much of that had to do with being my 'first love.'<br /><br />"And maybe I'm naive, but I honestly feel that <br /><br />- if all the other pieces are in place and the two of you were meant to be together"<br /><br />No, I don't think you're naive at all because you can FEEL when it's meant to be (whether it works out or not). Some relationships are long term, some are not. But, I still think (regardless) they are meant to be. <br /><br />"- then, absolutely, you should have no secrets, and adhering to loyalty and commitment isn't a sacrifice or work...it just happens naturally, of course."<br /><br />Right you are, my friend! It just happens naturally!<br /><br />"I grew out of my relationship with my ex-wife, and I'm far better off for it today."<br /><br />Amen! Me too!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your insight and wisdom on this post, buddy! Muchly appreciated and enjoyed!<br /><br />Hope you're feeling better and healing well!<br /><br />Have a faaaaaaaaaaaabulous weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-44674666130223969862011-12-03T01:39:35.238-05:002011-12-03T01:39:35.238-05:00Love your positive response to what was inevitably...Love your positive response to what was inevitably a heartbreaking and tough decision. Five years is a long time to invest in somebody, and if it doesn't work out in the end, that's wrenching. <br /><br />"I believed that when you loved someone, there was nothing to hide or withhold. And I also believed in loyalty and commitment."<br /><br />I believe in these same things, Ron. And maybe I'm naive, but I honestly feel that - if all the other pieces are in place and the two of you were meant to be together - then, absolutely, you should have no secrets, and adhering to loyalty and commitment isn't a sacrifice or work...it just happens naturally, of course. <br /><br />I grew out of my relationship with my ex-wife, and I'm far better off for it today. <br /><br />Great post.Markhttp://markmywordssite.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-8550436977370845222011-12-03T00:00:24.897-05:002011-12-03T00:00:24.897-05:00Hey there Diane~
OMG...can I just tell ya HOW MUC...Hey there Diane~<br /><br />OMG...can I just tell ya HOW MUCH I LOVED your comment????<br /><br />" And like you, I observed that I lost parts of myself, mostly by making a choice to shut them off in order to be loved. I felt that the person I was, was not worthy of love. "<br /><br />You are sooooooooooooo right! That was part of it too.....not feeling worthy of love.<br /><br />"it is important to love yourself, to value yourself in order to fully exist in a personal relationship with another person. If you don't, then it's like a lie. You're not really paticipating as yourself and consequently turn off the ability to fully experience your life. The chance for touching profound happiness is gone."<br /><br />You completely hit the nail on the head with that!!!!<br /><br />"it was the first time in my life I knew in my heart of hearts that one of the reasons I loved her was because I loved the person that I was with her. I felt whole loving her."<br /><br />Diane, that was so beautiful!<br /><br />And I can honestly tell you that whenever I think of you and Cristybella being together, I think of a PERFECT match. And can feel the love you both share, just from the energy of your words! <br /><br />((((( Diane + Cristybella )))))<br /><br />Thanks ever so much for stopping by and sharing your wisdom and love, my friend.<br /><br />Always appreciated.<br /><br />Have a beautiful weekend! X to you and C!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.com