tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post5555728622308350232..comments2024-03-28T10:39:39.697-04:00Comments on Being Ron: Same-Sex Couples And AdoptionRonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977027331657615697noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-75474305758033420782012-02-13T23:00:06.667-05:002012-02-13T23:00:06.667-05:00Good evening Linda~
"while my brother did no...Good evening Linda~<br /><br />"while my brother did not have the best outcome with his kids because of their issues, I do think love is what counts, not the sex of the parents!"<br /><br />Exactly! I think with adoption (whether by heterosexual or homosexual couples), there will sometimes be issues; simply because of adoption. However, it's like you shared...it's the love that counts, not the sex of the parents.<br /><br />Thanks SO MUCH for stopping by and sharing on this post, dear friend. You've added much!<br /><br />(((((( Linda ))))))<br /><br />Have a wonderful week!<br /><br />xoxoxoxoRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-15040203681550036682012-02-13T22:51:30.962-05:002012-02-13T22:51:30.962-05:00this is a great post, ron...it's important to ...this is a great post, ron...it's important to share our perspectives. while my brother did not have the best outcome with his kids because of their issues, I do think love is what counts, not the sex of the parents!<br /><br />hi to ron's mom!;)<br />xoxlindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-53804019818799419912012-02-13T19:45:45.150-05:002012-02-13T19:45:45.150-05:00Hola Denise~
Thank you so much for stopping by an...Hola Denise~<br /><br />Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your viewpoint on this topic. Like I shared, I can TOTALLY understand my mothers concern, so it's not unreasonable.<br /><br />"I think it's so wonderful that you have this open relationship with your mother, in which you can both share your opinions, yet not argue about them."<br /><br />Aw...thank you. My mother truly is such a wonderful lady. I'm blessed in having her as my mom because we're like best friends!<br /><br />Always so nice to see your comments, girl!<br /><br />Have a wonderful week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-37485447199227516312012-02-13T19:40:34.447-05:002012-02-13T19:40:34.447-05:00Ron, I can see your mother's point, but I can ...Ron, I can see your mother's point, but I can also see yours. I have to agree, as long as a child is raised responsibly and with love, I see nothing wrong at all with same-sex parents adopting. <br /><br />I think it's so wonderful that you have this open relationship with your mother, in which you can both share your opinions, yet not argue about them.<br /><br />Great post, Ron.Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-59335530958341006192012-02-13T10:03:56.750-05:002012-02-13T10:03:56.750-05:00Good morning Jen~
"My feeling is that if a c...Good morning Jen~<br /><br />"My feeling is that if a child is raised with love and taught tolerance and respect of others it doesn't matter if both parents are the same sex."<br /><br />Yup, that's my sentiment exactly.<br /><br />"We all grow up with problems. I don't see this as being one of them."<br /><br />Thank you, my friend.<br /><br />((((( You ))))))<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic. Muchly appreciated!<br /><br />Have a grrrrrreat week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-77466940102118139212012-02-13T07:58:13.135-05:002012-02-13T07:58:13.135-05:00My feeling is that if a child is raised with love ...My feeling is that if a child is raised with love and taught tolerance and respect of others it doesn't matter if both parents are the same sex. There are so many children who are raised so poorly by heterosexual couples that it makes me sad. We all grow up with problems. I don't see this as being one of them.whenpigsflynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-83231624519786780842012-02-12T23:07:18.650-05:002012-02-12T23:07:18.650-05:00Hey there Chrissy~
"We have two lesbian coup...Hey there Chrissy~<br /><br />"We have two lesbian couples at work with children and they are the BEST mothers and have wonderfully well adjusted children."<br /><br />*smiling*<br /><br />Oh, how WONDERFUL to hear that!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />Thanks a BUNCH for stopping by and sharing on this post, girl. I just knew you were cool with this.<br /><br />Have a great week!<br /><br />X to you, Millie, Dino, and Vinny!<br /><br />P.S. it was so great talking with you last night on the phone!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-20340886099031556182012-02-12T23:00:57.483-05:002012-02-12T23:00:57.483-05:00Howdy Herman~
Thank you, buddy. Thank you so much...Howdy Herman~<br /><br />Thank you, buddy. Thank you so much for your open mind and open heart. <br /><br />"If the child is raised in a loving home that imparts love and guidance then why should it matter if it's not a "traditional" family."<br /><br />Truly, you're one of the rarities in this world who see's that.<br /><br />" Heck, when same sex marriages are legalized nation wide, then what could possibly hold up an adoption? "<br /><br />Exactly!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your voice on this post, buddy! You're the COOLEST!<br /><br />Hope you had a wonderful weekend!<br /><br />X to you, Karin, and Mr. Tyler!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-65075205916567670792012-02-12T22:54:02.172-05:002012-02-12T22:54:02.172-05:00Hey there Brahm~
So great to see ya, bud! Thanks ...Hey there Brahm~<br /><br />So great to see ya, bud! Thanks for stopping by.<br /><br />"....so great that you and your mom can talk about this, and then that you can write about it this way."<br /><br />Thank you. My mother and I have a very cool relationship in that we can talk about ANYTHING. I told her that I was going to post this and she was all for it. She trusted that I would present our opinions on this post consciously, without making her sound awful for having her own personal opinion.<br /><br />"I firmly believe that loving capable people should be allowed and encouraged to adopt, whether straight or gay, married or single; there are great homes and loving families needed for kids, period."<br /><br />AMEN, Brahm! And I couldn't agree with you more!<br /><br />LOVED your last paragraph! And I feel the same way. <br /><br />Again, thank you for stopping by and sharing your feelings and opinion on this post. Muchly appreciated and respected.<br /><br />Have a great week, Brahm!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-40720252065922487802012-02-12T22:44:05.486-05:002012-02-12T22:44:05.486-05:00I have no problem with it at all. We have two lesb...I have no problem with it at all. We have two lesbian couples at work with children and they are the BEST mothers and have wonderfully well adjusted children. You said it, love and nurturing are all kids need.Chrissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-19619435217381961312012-02-12T21:34:13.907-05:002012-02-12T21:34:13.907-05:00I've heard more than my fair share of stories ...I've heard more than my fair share of stories regarding same sex couples being denied while attempting to adopt. Frankly, I don't see what the big deal is. If the child is raised in a loving home that imparts love and guidance then why should it matter if it's not a "traditional" family. Parents who adopt go through some serious background checks before being given the green light to adopt. If nothing untoward is discovered during those checks, then who cares if it's a same sex relationship. Heck, when same sex marriages are legalized nation wide, then what could possibly hold up an adoption? <br /><br />Just my $.00002 cents.Herman Turnipnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-11426302207410905612012-02-12T20:45:28.467-05:002012-02-12T20:45:28.467-05:00Wow, very good post, and very good topic of conver...Wow, very good post, and very good topic of conversation --- so great that you and your mom can talk about this, and then that you can write about it this way.<br /><br />I firmly believe that loving capable people should be allowed and encouraged to adopt, whether straight or gay, married or single; there are great homes and loving families needed for kids, period.<br /><br />As a gay married dude, I do not think it is about marriage, and yes I know lots of people disagree. We don't want kids, established that early in the relationship and long before marriage. I know other people who would be great parents and are not, and that is a loss for the kids they could have, and i believe for all of us, as i believe that great parents will raise kids who become great people. Okay off my soapbox now....Brahm (alfred lives here)http://www.alfredliveshere.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-40834410751439314242012-02-12T19:22:39.152-05:002012-02-12T19:22:39.152-05:00Jayne...I LOVE YOU!!!!!
You tell em' girl!
M...Jayne...I LOVE YOU!!!!!<br /><br />You tell em' girl!<br /><br />My thing is, either way (heterosexual or homosexual couples), their kids are going to have some sort of pressure and judgment while growing up.<br /><br />And as <b>TJ</b> so insightfully expressed in her comment....<br /><br />" I feel that children are resilient and if they are raised in a loving, nurturing environment they will be able to make their own judgments in healthy and thoughtful ways regarding other's thoughts and actions towards them." <br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your voice, dear lady.<br /><br />Muchly appreciated.<br /><br />Hope you had a wonderful weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-29121160959953389232012-02-12T18:44:41.080-05:002012-02-12T18:44:41.080-05:00I think straight parents should have to go through...I think straight parents should have to go through the same "vetting" process as any adoptive parents before they're allowed to give birth. Look at all the screwed up kids of heterosexual couples. Of course, same-sex couples should be allowed to adopt. How could they possibly screw up their kids anymore than many of them are being screwed up now! I'm all with you on this one, Ron.Jaynehttp://injaynesworld.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-31460986830613989572012-02-12T17:22:31.646-05:002012-02-12T17:22:31.646-05:00Hey Mark~
I know.....can you freakin' BELIEVE...Hey Mark~<br /><br />I know.....can you freakin' BELIEVE that!?!?!<br /><br />You must have 'picking up' on something, because I know how 'in tuned' you are.<br /><br />I was so sadden to hear the news this morning :(Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-86498993290469212162012-02-12T17:06:51.300-05:002012-02-12T17:06:51.300-05:00Holy crap. I mentioned Whitney Houston out of the ...Holy crap. I mentioned Whitney Houston out of the blue the night before she died. Had to come back and read my comment again!Markhttp://markmywordssite.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-32190427172624461472012-02-11T09:47:19.240-05:002012-02-11T09:47:19.240-05:00Good morning Jeanne~
Your like the second or thir...Good morning Jeanne~<br /><br />Your like the second or third person to mention "Modern Family." Can you believe I have never seen it? Shame on me :(<br /><br />Thanks a bunch for stopping by, dear lady. Have a fabulous weekend!<br /><br />X<br /><br />P.S. we finally got some snow this morning - yaaaaaaaaaaaay!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-28443931620364732822012-02-11T06:19:07.907-05:002012-02-11T06:19:07.907-05:00I agree with you on this Ron! Totally! I mean......I agree with you on this Ron! Totally! I mean...look at Modern Family! Have a fabulous weekend!!!Jeanne Pursellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-88461176786989535352012-02-10T22:02:08.741-05:002012-02-10T22:02:08.741-05:00Hellooooooooo Diane~
"Children receive their...Hellooooooooo Diane~<br /><br />"Children receive their upbringing from the parents they have. Some dads like sports and some moms like sports. Some dads like gardening and art just like some moms. Parents just are who they are."<br /><br />That's a wonderful point because not all moms and dads like all the same things male and females are supposed to like doing. Parents are just who they are.<br /><br />"Doing something good for a good reason is wonderful. Not doing something good for a poor reason, such as what other people might do or think is just a shame."<br /><br />BRA-VA!<br /><br />Thanks a bunch for stopping by, Diane And thanks for sharing some REALLY great insight!<br /><br />Have a great weekend!<br /><br />Much X to you and Cristybella!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-80831460291770915242012-02-10T21:44:30.389-05:002012-02-10T21:44:30.389-05:00I'm with you 100%, parenting skills are not ge...I'm with you 100%, parenting skills are not gender specific. <br /><br />Children receive their upbringing from the parents they have. Some dads like sports and some moms like sports. Some dads like gardening and art just like some moms. Parents just are who they are. <br /><br />But like you said, if any couple has the desire to expand their family to include the care and upbringing of a child, then may God bless them all and give them the strength to grow and prosper together.<br /><br />Doing something good for a good reason is wonderful. Not doing something good for a poor reason, such as what other people might do or think is just a shame.hou07grlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-70559143766433595642012-02-10T21:22:01.609-05:002012-02-10T21:22:01.609-05:00Hey there Meleah~
"I totally understand your...Hey there Meleah~<br /><br />"I totally understand your mom's point of view - but all kids have crazy pressures."<br /><br />Thank you, my friend. And I know being a fellow Libra, you could understand both sides. And it's funny because my mother is a Libra too, so that's probably why she and I can disagree, yet still see each others side.<br /><br />"My son was judged for being raised by a single mother. And there are still people out there who judge black & white couples."<br /><br />I know, can you BELIEVE that??? It amazes me what some people will judge, like being raised by a single parent is such a horrible thing! And don't even get me started on the judgment of interracial couples. I mean who the hell should care if a couple is black and white? LOVE has nothing to do with color. It has to do with two people LOVING each other.<br /><br />"All I can say is WHY CANT WE ALL GET ALONG!!"<br /><br />A-MEN!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing on this post, girl!<br /><br />You've added much!<br /><br />Have a super weekend........XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-5457777843334450912012-02-10T21:12:18.185-05:002012-02-10T21:12:18.185-05:00Hello dear Mel~
First, just let me say THANK YOU ...Hello dear Mel~<br /><br />First, just let me say THANK YOU so much for your comment to my mother. OMG…how sweet! She’s gonna LOVE reading that!!!!!<br /><br />((((((( Mel )))))))<br /><br />“<-- is available for adoption! (JUST sayin'......)”<br /><br />HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA!<br /><br />Second, about your big time reaction to the closing NOTE of this post….<br /><br />“I seriously struggled with the thought of someone bashing a mom who's spent a lifetime (and continues to spend her lifetime) loving and encouraging you to be all that you ARE....one who can agree with you and disagree with you and leave knowing nothing is changed in the relationship, no one is devalued or loved any less....."<br /><br />Yes, I struggled with that thought too, therefore I felt that I needed to share that notice because I have no idea who reads my blog and didn't want anyone who might have a strong reaction to my mother’s opinion to condemn her for it. I know how some people can be on the Internet (invisible and mouthy), just spewing their strong opinions without any consideration. Especially on topics such as this.<br /><br />“THAT'S what I hope for in the life of a child. Any child......every child.<br /><br />I wish that was a simple thing, awarded by gender or sexual preference. I really do. I wish it was that simple. <br /><br />It's not.”<br /><br />You’re right, unfortunately it’s not. That’s why I needed to share my view point on this post.<br /><br />“I don't care who loves that child and helps that child become all that they ARE. SOMEone.....anyone...."<br /><br />A-MEN!!!!!!!!<br /><br />"Yup.<br />Still passionately emotional.<br />I can't contain that, I guess.<br />It's who I was created to be."<br /><br />And THAT'S why I love you so much, dear lady. And also, (being two Libras) I understand your passionate emotion, because I'm the exact same way!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing ALL that you shared on this post. MUCHLY respected and appreciated!<br /><br />(((((( You ))))))<br /><br />Have a glorious weekend!<br /><br />X ya bunches!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-78132505771478976832012-02-10T20:45:00.574-05:002012-02-10T20:45:00.574-05:00Greetings Babs~
"Mo and I have been together...Greetings Babs~<br /><br />"Mo and I have been together for 31 years (Oh.My.Word!) My family (like your mother) were totally accepting of the situation and have always seen Mo as part of our family, just like any of their husbands and wives."<br /><br />*clapping and smiling*<br /><br />Oh, that's WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!! Isn't it great when our family's accept with an open heart and open arms? It was much the same in my own family. They could less what partner preference I preferred, as long as I was happy.<br /><br />I think it's absolutely AWESOME that you and Mo considered being foster parents, and I bet you gals would be GREAT parents too! But I don't blame you one bit for your decision concerning the child's extended family being drug addicts and offenders, and being able to come to your home 24 hours a day. No way. You definitely made the wisest choice.<br /><br />"but one thing is for sure. They aren't growing up hating gays!"<br /><br />"I suppose the fact that Mo and I were going to foster must mean that we think same sex partners can do just as good a job at parenting and giving love where needed."<br /><br />Amen!<br /><br />That's one thing about MANY European countries that's different than the U.S. They seem to be much more open to things. I lived in Amsterdam for a summer and I couldn't believe how open and free that country was! This one of the reasons why I ADORE Europe so much.<br /><br />" It did me no lasting damage at all. Kids will always find something to taunt other kids with. If it isn't same sex partners it will be something else."<br /><br />Same here. In fact, having gone through what I did while in school, it made me much more open, tolerant, and compassionate to others.<br /><br />"and of course you totally respect and love your mother. She totally respects and loves you."<br /><br />((((( Babs ))))))<br /><br />I can't thank you enough for stopping by and sharing yourself so openly and personal, my friend. Thank you, thank you, thank you!<br /><br />Wishing you and Mo a wonderful weekend!<br /><br />Much X to you both!Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-79878104174706905392012-02-10T20:17:52.423-05:002012-02-10T20:17:52.423-05:00Hello dear TJ~
"Children are like flowers, w...Hello dear TJ~<br /><br />"Children are like flowers, with all the right elements they bloom. It doesn't matter who delivers the nutrients and the love."<br /><br />*clapping*<br /><br />I LOOOOOOOOOOVE how you said that!!!! And you're absolutely correct. It doesn't matter WHO delivers the nutrients and love!<br /><br />"...Your Mom did bring up a valid point regarding children being ridiculed by others due to their parental situation...."<br /><br />Yes, I honestly feel that my mother did bring up a valid point, but it's as you so insightfully shared..."I feel that children are resilient and if they are raised in a loving, nurturing environment they will be able to make their own judgments in healthy and thoughtful ways regarding other's thoughts and actions towards them." <br /><br />My sentiments exactly.<br /><br />"...Does this mean someone is considering marriage and children some day in the near future, hmmm? *wink*wink*nudge*nudge* "<br /><br />OMG...that is so adorable! Well, I don't know about marriage and children, but I wouldn't mind being Uncle Ronnie!<br /><br />"..You're so fortunate to have your Mother and she sounds like such a sweetheart too. Proof that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."<br /><br />Aw....thank you. And yes, I DO feel soooooooo fortunate to have my mother. She's such an awesome, funny, deep, and just all around GREAT human being. You would LOVE her if you ever met her. And she would love YOU too!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, dear lady. You always add such a wonderful energy to this blog. I feel blessed in knowing you.<br /><br />(((((( You )))))))<br /><br />Have a wonderful weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-77548945095454173062012-02-10T20:09:54.553-05:002012-02-10T20:09:54.553-05:00I totally understand your mom's point of view ...I totally understand your mom's point of view - but all kids have crazy pressures. My son was judged for being raised by a single mother. And there are still people out there who judge black & white couples. <br /><br />All I can say is WHY CANT WE ALL GET ALONG!!meleahrebeccahhttp://mommamiameaculpa.comnoreply@blogger.com