tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post7561537883125640738..comments2024-03-28T10:39:39.697-04:00Comments on Being Ron: Things That Annoy Me To No EndRonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15977027331657615697noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-49021996683280160672021-11-03T10:43:42.934-04:002021-11-03T10:43:42.934-04:00Helloooooooooo there, Pam!
Thank you so much for ...Helloooooooooo there, Pam!<br /><br />Thank you so much for your kind, encouraging and sweet words, my friend! And you are so right, it is hard to see something negative and find the silver lining. Yet, it seems to me and my own life, it's the only way I can get through challenging and rough times. I do think that everything that happens to me is supposed to happen (positive AND negative), and it's up to me to find the "gold" is the negative stuff. When I look back on my life and the really, really hard times, I truly see them (now) as some of the most riches times in my life because they made strong and more resilient.<br /><br />"and of course the show must go on, because if it doesn't you're taking a dirt nap!"<br /><br />HA! OMG...I loved that because you're spot on!<br /><br />Again, much thanks for your comment, I really appreciated it. Hope you're enjoying a fab week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-53187103991829170622021-11-02T14:12:24.832-04:002021-11-02T14:12:24.832-04:00Ron, you are very deep and dive even deeper when ...Ron, you are very deep and dive even deeper when writing about your life. You know your strengths and weaknesses and you use both to propel you forward in life. I admire that you see positives and negatives in the negatives and positives! It's hard to see something negative and find the silver lining. And it's hard to see something positive but realize you can still improve upon it. This post shows in great detail how much a person can grow from watching and learning —and of course the show must go on, because if it doesn't you're taking a dirt nap!<br />Hugs!Pamela D Harthttp://www.hartsbeat.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-47107098089334737822021-11-01T09:37:38.885-04:002021-11-01T09:37:38.885-04:00"I actually considered telling her those onli...<i>"I actually considered telling her those online reviews aren't worth much because most people don't bother to write reviews and the ones who do either have a great experience to share or they are disgruntled. Either way, they are suspect."</i><br /><br />Thank you SO MUCH for contributing that to this post topic because I can't tell you how much I agree with you about online reviews. So many companies (including the one I currently work for) put too much emphasis on pressing their employees to make sure all the customers that they interact with, go online and post a review about the customer service they received from you. I told my manager one day (who was pressuring me to get more reviews/surveys online) that I won't pressure customers to write reviews about my customer service because I KNOW that I give great customer, but that it's completely up to the customer whether or not they choose to write a review. <br /><br />So many companies today are literally <b>rated/graded/and given bonuses</b> by how many positive reviews they get each month. And like you said, either way (positive or negative) reviews are suspect.Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-91250275302099563812021-10-31T17:08:33.445-04:002021-10-31T17:08:33.445-04:00Very interesting. And you are so right about a) be...Very interesting. And you are so right about a) being able to hear and grow from negative feedback and b) not placing too much stock in positive feedback to the point where it might hinder you. The other day I was doing a disability evaluation and the woman said she'd looked me up and I had all good reviews. I actually considered telling her those online reviews aren't worth much because most people don't bother to write reviews and the ones who do either have a great experience to share or they are disgruntled. Either way, they are suspect.Secret Agent Womanhttp://biredux.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-59873947211418579512021-10-30T19:39:31.542-04:002021-10-30T19:39:31.542-04:00You are very welcome, Elaine! 👍 And yes, every ac...You are very welcome, Elaine! 👍 And yes, every actor does have their own method of approaching a role. I, personally, try not to think about it too much and just let it happen. That seems to work for me.Ronhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-61098704617657235592021-10-30T19:33:43.110-04:002021-10-30T19:33:43.110-04:00Ron, thanks so much for responding to my question....Ron, thanks so much for responding to my question. That is SO interesting! I always wondered how actor/actresses got into their parts. I'm guessing that everyone has a different method. You should write a book! xoElainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-20320016616510115552021-10-30T17:42:03.890-04:002021-10-30T17:42:03.890-04:00Hellooooooooooo there, Elaine!
For me, I try to u...Hellooooooooooo there, Elaine!<br /><br />For me, I try to use everything I've done in my life, such as the various careers I've had, as lessons they taught me. And theater, without a doubt, taught me the most. And profoundly so.<br /><br /><i>"And I have often wondered if an actor/actress ever takes on the characters personality/ psyche while rehearsing and performing. Have you ever had anything like that happen to you in the different roles you portrayed?"</i><br /><br />GREAT question!!!! And yes, certain roles that I portrayed had varying degrees of that kind of thing. Without sounding too WOO-WOO, I approach my characters by stepping out of the way and ALLOWING the character's personality to almost "channel" through me as I go through the rehearsal process and perform. So sometimes after a show is over, it takes a while to get rid of all that stuff that's been inside me for the duration of the play/musical. I have had that happen particularly when I'm portraying a real-life character or a play/musical based in history.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, neighbor! And yesireeeee...I am SO enjoying this cooler weather. I spent almost all day outside enjoying it too!<br /><br />Enjoy the rest of your weekend! <br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-74741498512104940242021-10-30T17:31:01.768-04:002021-10-30T17:31:01.768-04:00What an honest and very inspiring post, Ron! And I...What an honest and very inspiring post, Ron! And I loved at the end how you shared the lessons you learned. I find it fascinating how actors/actresses can get up there and become the various characters they portray. And I have often wondered if an actor/actress ever takes on the characters personality/ psyche while rehearsing and performing. Have you ever had anything like that happen to you in the different roles you portrayed?<br /><br />And by the way, I ADORE the movie, "Cabaret." I saw it when it first came out. I was still living in NY at the time. Such a wonderful film. And I can tell, just from the photo of you as Master of Ceremonies that you were AMAZING in the role! Congrats on insisting that you be cast in that role because you were obviously right!<br /><br />Hope you're enjoying this beautiful cooler weather we're having this weekend. oxElainenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-28819304352976441022021-10-30T17:21:38.261-04:002021-10-30T17:21:38.261-04:00Helloooooooooooo there, D!
"which reminded m...Helloooooooooooo there, D!<br /><i><br />"which reminded me of the phrase that all the world was like a stage."</i><br /><br /> I LOVE that phrase!!!!!<br /><br /><i>"It is a sad thing when a person cannot take the good with the bad whether it relates to a review or anything else. Some people just feel the need to always be "right."</i><br /><br />Yes, exactly! I learned very early in my life that life is not a straight line, it has highs, lows, and twists and turns. And when I look on my life, it's the challenging times, when things didn't go as I had planned and hoped they would, were the times when I learned the most valuable lessons.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your insight! Muchly appreciated!<br /><br />Hope you're enjoying a super weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-13109359298860483312021-10-30T17:15:11.502-04:002021-10-30T17:15:11.502-04:00Hi there, Mary!
Much thanks for you kind and enco...Hi there, Mary!<br /><br />Much thanks for you kind and encouraging words, my friend! :)<br /><br />And I LOVE what you said here...<br /><br /><i>" but it's in how you stay in the NOW that gives such strength to your character. "</i><br /><br />BINGO! You are spot on about that! And I agree, it's important to make a plan as well. And it's just as important to stay in the NOW because for me, that's where I find my "consciousness" for what best for me and what paths to go down. <br /><br /><i>"Sometimes I live so far in the past Bill Clinton might still be president and in future views of my life I'm sipping wine in my Italian villa. Must find that middle ground some days. haha"</i><br /><br />OMG....that made me LOL! And like you said..."we must find the middle ground." I see my life as a dance, sometimes I lead and then other times I need to follow where life leads me."<br /><br />Isn't "Cabaret" just a faaaaaaaabulous story - both the movie AND the staged musical. The whole cast was so brilliantly chosen and perfect for their roles. There are a few differences in the movie versus the stage musical (such as the musical numbers), but they both capture the essence of that time period in history.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, feelings, and insights. Always enjoy your comments!<br /><br />Have a great weekend!<br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-28227555849436797002021-10-30T15:25:20.731-04:002021-10-30T15:25:20.731-04:00I enjoyed reading this post because your comments ...I enjoyed reading this post because your comments about life being like theater, which reminded me of the phrase that all the world was like a stage. It is a sad thing when a person cannot take the good with the bad whether it relates to a review or anything else. Some people just feel the need to always be "right." That is indeed a sad way to live one's life in my opinion.DA Perruccinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-42257536900898262852021-10-30T09:45:37.134-04:002021-10-30T09:45:37.134-04:00Ron, I'm always impressed by your ability to t...Ron, I'm always impressed by your ability to think deeply and know yourself. Where you've been, and where you want to go... certainly important to reflect on / make a plan... but it's in how you stay in the NOW that gives such strength to your character. You're very center-oriented and I can see how you would be able to take something positive from a negative review, or not get too hung up on the praise in a positive one and make them all be important learning experiences. <br />Staying in the present and adapting to whatever happens, of course is great advice. Sometimes I live so far in the past Bill Clinton might still be president and in future views of my life I'm sipping wine in my Italian villa. Must find that middle ground some days. haha<br /><br />I'm absolutely sure I would have LOVED your performance as Cabaret's MC! You know how I adore that musical and movie. Your passion for theater must have really come out in that one, especially because you knew that role was for you. Admiring your professionalism and dedication to those performing years!Maryhttp://www.roamingwithmary.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-63269720814691135562021-10-29T08:37:25.031-04:002021-10-29T08:37:25.031-04:00Hiya, Matt!
Thanks for your kind words :)
And I ...Hiya, Matt!<br /><br />Thanks for your kind words :)<br /><br />And I freaking LOVE what you said about "there are no mistakes, only opportunities" - that is SPOT ON true!!!! As long as I learn from something, how could it be a mistake? Plus, I believe that everything in my life is happening the way it should be happening.<br /><br />Much thanks for stopping by, my friend! Have a fantabulous weekend!<br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-62425380383586839282021-10-29T08:30:58.132-04:002021-10-29T08:30:58.132-04:00Ron, I really like when you share your experiences...Ron, I really like when you share your experiences and then corrolate them to life lessons because I learn so much. It's reafirming to me that even the negative things that happen to us in our live are not really negative if we learn from them, which also reaffirms that there are no mistakes, only opportunities to grow!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing, dude! You continually inspire me.<br /><br />P.S. That photo of you as Master of Ceremonies is so COOL!Mattnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-37017365161563585412021-10-29T08:22:08.116-04:002021-10-29T08:22:08.116-04:00Hey there, Rob!
For me, I'm very stubborn whe...Hey there, Rob!<br /><br />For me, I'm very stubborn when it comes to backing down to either something I fear, rejection, or a negative review because I'm determined to overcome it by learning from those things and moving forward. And it's not that I don't feel fearful or the sting of rejection or a negative review, because I do. However, I can't just leave it at that, I have to overcome it. And you yourself stated that perfectly...<br /><br />"It is important to admit that you hurt, since pretending you're not only makes it worse. But then you have to ask yourself "now what?" From there you can recover and move on."<br /><br />EXACTLY!<br /><br />And yes, praise CAN be a very addictive drug because it can become the motivating factor, instead of the work. If one is not careful, you can find yourself needing it more and more.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, buddy. I always enjoy reading your thoughts and insights!<br /><br />Have an awesome weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-75707721547500026732021-10-28T21:49:35.986-04:002021-10-28T21:49:35.986-04:00Ron, this is such a wonderful post.
I absolutely...Ron, this is such a wonderful post. <br /><br />I absolutely love how you take your personal experiences in the theater and extract some very important life lessons.<br /><br />I am in awe of your resilience. Unlike you, I am often paralyzed by rejection. I feel the pain long after the rejection has occurred.<br /><br /> But I learned so much from this beautiful line: "the stinging sensation doesn't last as long the more you get stung."<br /><br />It is important to admit that you hurt, since pretending you're not only makes it worse. But then you have to ask yourself "now what?" From there you can recover and move on.<br /><br />And I appreciate the potential pitfalls of positive reviews. As you say, positive reviews can become the priority and the work will suffer. Praise can be a very addictive drug.<br /><br />I do so regret never seeing you on stage. You look great as the Master of Ceremonies! <br /><br />I'm going to memorize your life lessons from theater and make sure I apply them every day. The show must indeed go on!<br /><br />Take care, buddy, and have a great weekend!Rob Lenihannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-63460396808197613182021-10-28T17:50:27.782-04:002021-10-28T17:50:27.782-04:00Debbie, I can't tell you how much I appreciate...Debbie, I can't tell you how much I appreciated your comment. And being someone who wrote reviews and have had reviews of your novel, I know you understand both sides of the coin. Like your said, one tries to develope a "thick skin" because one needs to. However, you also have to keep your sensitivity for either writing or acting so that you don't become numb to feeling anything. <br /><br />"even the positive ones must be taken with a grain of salt. After all, it's just one person's opinion, and we ALL have opinions."<br /><br />Yes, exactly! And that's what I discovered early on in my career. I'm truly grateful that I had all that at the start because I got used to it and was able to brush it off throughout my career.<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your wisdom, my friend. Have a lovely weekend too! And yup...we have rain in the forecast this weekend. We finally got some cooler weather and I noticed that the leaves are starting to change. Yipeeeeeeeee!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-25593861308496338922021-10-28T16:45:56.354-04:002021-10-28T16:45:56.354-04:00Ron, thank you for your stark honesty here. It'...Ron, thank you for your stark honesty here. It's refreshing to read your thoughts and see how much you've grown. I'm sure the negative reviews sting; even the positive ones must be taken with a grain of salt. After all, it's just one person's opinion, and we ALL have opinions.<br /><br /><br />In my reporting days, I did a bit of reviewing (mostly community theater). Since these people were "amateurs" and "volunteers," I never blasted them for what they did. My editors encouraged me to look for the positive -- so they'd keep performing and the theater troupe would continue existing. When I reviewed professionals, however, the gloves came off, and I felt comfortable letting them have it if I needed to.<br /><br /><br />As a writer, I've read reviews of my debut novel and thankfully, most have been kind. One tries to develop a "thick skin" where the criticisms don't hurt, but I tend to be a sensitive soul and yes, words can crush you if you let them.<br /><br /><br />Have a lovely weekend -- and look out for all the rain we're sending your way! xxDebbienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-46813486881237633292021-10-28T15:48:32.645-04:002021-10-28T15:48:32.645-04:00Hola Denise!
Thank you. I truly believe that not ...Hola Denise!<br /><br />Thank you. I truly believe that not only does art imitate life, but that life imitate arts as well. Because the longer I was involved in theater, the more I noticed that. Not only was theater a great way to express myself creatively, but it also taught me so much about how to live my life. Live theater and life go hand-in-hand. <br /><br />There are so such thing as mistakes as long as I learn from them, which is how I viewed negative reviews. They taught me how to know myself better, so that I can discern from what is true and was in not. <br /><br />A few nights before the opening night of Cabaret, the director came into the dressing room and admitted to being wrong in thinking that I was not the right choice for the role of Master of Ceremonies and apologized, which I thought was very kind of him. And I thanked him for telling me that. As far as the review goes, he really didn't say much about it, other than congratulating me. He had been the stage manager for the original Broadway production of Cabaret with Joel Grey in 1966; therefore, he had a very close connection to the show. So I think directing it years later meant a lot to him. He was very protective of its legacy. <br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, girl. Have an awesome rest of your week and weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-90066827047790698462021-10-28T13:15:22.320-04:002021-10-28T13:15:22.320-04:00Ron, I think my very favorite thing about this who...Ron, I think my very favorite thing about this whole wonderful post are the things you learned from live theater because your right, those things do mirror real life. TOTALLY! You should consider writing a book about your perceptions if life, incorporating how your various careers contributed to how you see them. Very interesting!<br /><br />I don't take criticism very well, so I don't think I'd be good at handling a review that would be printed so that EVERYONE could read it. LOL! But like you said, it teaches you to become stronger and more focused, if you allow it. Whether positive or negative, I can definitely see how they could be challenging.<br /><br />I'm curious, how did the director of Cabaret react to the review that pretty much slammed his direction, but praised your performance? And to think that he didn't want to cast you as the Master of Ceremonies is crazy, considering that your performance was such a positive highlight.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your life stories, Ron. I really enjoy reading them. xoDenisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-65673425620881913822021-10-28T12:35:17.527-04:002021-10-28T12:35:17.527-04:00I know, can you BELIEVE that I found these reviews...I know, can you BELIEVE that I found these reviews online?!? I just put in my name, the theater, and the state, and VIOLA...they came up. I found several other reviews of mine online as well. Thank God for the internet, right?<br /><br />I love that you included performance reviews at your job, you're right. Even those can be challenging because I've gotten those as well. <br /><br /><i>"I know for me, I always felt as though I gave my 100%, so criticism was hard for me. But I wasn’t able to see the big picture sometimes and I would get bogged down in the detail. And wouldn’t you know, I do the same thing in real life??"</i><br /><br />Yes, I completely understand your feelings, me too, I also have the tendency to get bogged down in the detail. And that's why I consider getting negative reviews/rejection early on in my career a blessing because it toughened me in a way for future negative reviews.<br /><br />"By contrast, it IS easy to get a big ego from praise and that’s when it’s just as easy to become complacent and not grow."<br /><br />A-MEN! You're spot on!<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your insight and experience, you've added much! Have a grrrreat rest of your week and weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-42837839379596193772021-10-28T10:29:31.172-04:002021-10-28T10:29:31.172-04:00Wow! So cool that you found these reviews online. ...Wow! So cool that you found these reviews online. And that you were featured in the photos, Ron! I always enjoy hearing about your years in the theatre and I love how you related it to real life. At any job, you get performance reviews and it’s so easy to have feelings of anger or hurt over criticism. I know for me, I always felt as though I gave my 100%, so criticism was hard for me. But I wasn’t able to see the big picture sometimes and I would get bogged down in the detail. And wouldn’t you know, I do the same thing in real life??<br /><br />By contrast, it IS easy to get a big ego from praise and that’s when it’s just as easy to become complacent and not grow. Thanks for sharing your lessons learned from both theatre and life. A most excellent post, Ron! But don’t let that go to your head . . . Bahahaha! XOBijouxhttp://Www.musingsfromtheburbs.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-30269548629152985362021-10-28T08:21:54.502-04:002021-10-28T08:21:54.502-04:00Hi, Clair!
Yes, both positive and negative review...Hi, Clair!<br /><br />Yes, both positive<i> and</i> negative reviews come with their own set of challenges, that's why one has to keep them both in perspective. I'm not going to lie, it feels great to get a good review and shitty to get a negative one, but that's the reality of that profession - you eventually learn how to deal with them both. As I shared, I had a lot rejection from the start, so it was something I realized very quickly that it's part of being in that business. <br /><br />I always knew since I was a kid that I wanted to be involved in acting, particularly theater. I did shows in grammar school, junior high school, and high school. And it was in my Senior year in high school that my drama teacher suggested that I audition for an acting school in NYC. I told my parents and they agreed to send me to NYC over the summer to audition to see if I'd be accepted, which I was. However, after my first year at that school, I was rejected to come back for the second year. So you see, the rejection started early on. But it was something I knew I wanted to pursue, so I did. For about 30 years. <br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by, Clair. Have a faaaaaabulous rest of your week and weekend!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-69996411608222229442021-10-28T08:03:16.551-04:002021-10-28T08:03:16.551-04:00Ron, being that I'm fairly new to your blog, I...Ron, being that I'm fairly new to your blog, I don't think I knew you had been a professional actor in the theater. But it makes sense because you are excellent at expressing yourself. Wow...this post was eye opening in so many ways because I never thought about how positive AND negative reviews could come with challenges, but your right. <br /><br />I really admire your honesty about both reviews. I can't imagine what it must be like to be an actor or actress and have to deal with not only the rejection, but the media as well. You must have to be very persistent and learn how to block certain things out, not to mention a strong will to pursue your dreams.<br /><br />Did you always know you wanted to act in the theater? And when did you start pursuing it?<br /><br />Really enjoyed reading this post, Ron. Thank you.Clairnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7092603952139807812.post-87717376653731589652021-10-28T07:44:07.807-04:002021-10-28T07:44:07.807-04:00Good morning, Anni!
Yes, on both the things you m...Good morning, Anni!<br /><br /><i>Yes</i>, on both the things you mentioned in your first sentence. I know that saying and love it! And it's ironic you mentioned the movie, "Philadelphia", because I own DVD. Both Hanks and Washington did AMAZING work on that film. In fact, the whole case was amazing! And when I first moved back to Philadelphia in 2001, I found all the film locations in the city and photographed them. I also lived just a few blocks from City Hall, where they shot the courtroom scenes. <br /><br /><i>"...but take all lessons to the stage with each and perhaps real life..."</i><br /><br />I absolutely love what you said because it's spot on! They say that "art imitates life", which is true. However "life imitates art" as well. <br /><br />Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your positive thoughts and insight, my friend! Have a stellar rest of your week!<br /><br />XRonhttp://www.triloquist.netnoreply@blogger.com