When your life is going down the toilet, just flush



Nope….this post title is not intended to be sarcastic or snarky.

And as you continue reading, you’ll find it’s quite the contrary.

Funny, I didn’t even plan on this post, however when I accidentally found the above awesome photograph on the Internet, I was instantly inspired to say something with it.

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If you’re like me, there have times when you’ve looked at your life and exclaimed, “My life is going down the toilet!”

Some days it feels like we’re simply meandering along; merely existing.

Other days it may feel like our life is not going as expected or planned.

We often have a preconceived idea of where we think our life is suppose to be, and when it doesn’t meet our expectations we feel as if we’ve done something wrong, which only makes us feel worse.

We seem to believe that if we take all the necessary steps to create our life, it’s going to happen exactly as planned. But what we often fail to realize is there will be moments between our creations that we didn’t plan on. Moments that are ‘bridges’ between creating, where we will discover some of the lessons we need to learn. Lessons about letting go of certain things, and accepting others.

I’ve discovered that creation is not a straight line.

Creation involves curves, detours, and road blocks.

Creation is exactly what it means…..making something: the bringing of something into existence.”

Therefore, how can we possibly be sure of a direct route, while creating something that doesn’t even exist yet?

We can’t.

Because it’s a process. A process of learning who we are as we’re creating. A process of flushing out what was; bring into existence what will be. And in order for us to make room for what‘s new, we sometimes need to get rid of stuff that‘s old.

Perhaps when we feel as if we’re meandering through life; merely existing, it may actually be a necessary period of acceptance and seeing things differently. Or when we feel as if our life is not going as expected, it may mean there is a different route we need to take.

Creation is all about discovery.

Now, getting back to your life going down the toilet.

Think about it. What is a toilet used for? A toilet is something we use to get rid of waste.

Sometimes when you feel that your life is going down the toilet, it is. However, it’s not really your whole life that’s going down.

It’s only the shit you don’t need.

So, just flush.…

…..and realize you’re making room for what is to be created.




(okay….I just couldn’t resist a little snarky sarcasm at the end)



Wishing you a flawless weekend everyone!

X

44 comments

  1. Oooohh Ron I like this post very much.I find themes that I relate to as you know. Gains and losses, life's curve balls, straying off preconceived paths...these are all things I have explored within myself in the last year through my blog and it has been a kind of therapy for me. Writing your feelings and emotions is a creative and psychological outlet and one to be embraced. There is so much extraneous "shit" to flush out of our lives that we are sometimes unaware of. But when profound things happen to you they come to light very easily. in those times they are so identifiable and then you know what you have to do to move forward.
    Because moving forward is all we can do. Otherwise we are all just like a "dead shark" !

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  2. Hello Susie~

    OMG...there is sooooooooooo much in your fabulous comment that I want to respond to, but it would take me another POST!

    In the short time we've known one another, I've quickly come to see that you're someone who can so relate to what I'm I sharing here, because YOU of all people, know and understand...

    "Gains and losses, life's curve balls, straying off preconceived paths..."

    ....because of what you've been through in this past year.

    "But when profound things happen to you they come to light very easily. in those times they are so identifiable and then you know what you have to do to move forward."

    You are so right!

    And you're also right about our blogs being like therapy, because they truly are. I never dreamed I would be sharing the things I'm sharing now, when I first started this blog.

    And thank YOU, my friend....for being a apart of it.

    As always, I so enjoy your comments.

    Thank you.

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    X

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  3. Well said, my friend. No need to hang on to old baggage that does nothing more than weigh you down. I just finished Stephen King's latest book "Under The Dome", and it in he used the phrase "when God closes a door, he opens a window." Life never turns out as expected, and those who can roll with the punches tend to do the best. As usual, great post!

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  4. learning is indeed a wonderful process and lessons are just around the corner if we just know where to look. well if a part of your life is going down the drain, surely something will replace what was lost and flushed. if we see things positively, it will always be something better.

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  5. This is a cracking post, Ron. Where do I start? No, not at the beginning. Perhaps at the end? Yes, looking back I can see the big picture. I have a lot to be grateful for. Most of my life was spent unplanned yet things happened, unexpected, setting me on paths that would make me very proud. Achievements I didn't plan, overcoming seemingly insurmountable problemss, always feeling that in difficult times I landed on my feet instead of my head. Perhaps I subconsciously flushed the toilet, but whatever I'm pretty damn sure my god has kept an eye on me throughout.

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  6. Good Morning Herman~

    Exactly, no need to hand on to old baggage that does nothing more than weigh you down.

    So, flush - HA!

    Hey, thank you for letting me know about the Stephen King book because it sounds awesome! And yes, I sincerely believe that when God closes one door, he opens another - I've seen that happen many times throughout my life - many times.

    "Life never turns out as expected, and those who can roll with the punches tend to do the best."

    You said it!

    Thanks for stopping by, buddy. Always enjoy your thoughts.

    Have a super weekend!

    X

    P.S. say hi to Karin and Tyler for me!

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  7. Greetings Audaud~

    Welcome! Thank for stopping by and sharing a comment. Nice to meet you!

    "well if a part of your life is going down the drain, surely something will replace what was lost and flushed. if we see things positively, it will always be something better."

    Yes, my sentiments exactly!

    Learning is indeed a wonderful process.

    Please stop by anytime, you're always welcomed!

    Enjoy your weekend!

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  8. Ah Ron, you always hold such wisdom, even at the edge of the toilet bowl :)
    Life has certainly thrown me curve balls that I could never have expected. Through the processing of it all I have learned to let go of the "why me" and look for the path that materializes on the other side. One of the hardest parts is the waiting, the allowing for the meaning of it all to percolate. In our instant gratification society, time is the gift that we give to nurture healing souls. When we allow ourselves that time, then the path slowly opens and becomes clearer.
    flush...
    Katherine

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  9. Goooood Morning Valerie~

    "Most of my life was spent unplanned yet things happened, unexpected, setting me on paths that would make me very proud.'

    OMG...I so agree! In fact, all of the really interesting/enlightening things that have ever happened to me throughout my life, have been things I never planned on - valuable lessons learned - taking me down paths I would have never imagined for myself.

    "Achievements I didn't plan, overcoming seemingly insurmountable problemss, always feeling that in difficult times I landed on my feet instead of my head."

    You GO, girl!

    And yes...."I'm pretty damn sure my god has kept an eye on me thoughout."

    Me too!

    (((( Valerie ))))

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing on this post, dear lady! You ROCK!

    Have a marvelous weekend!

    X

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  10. Good Morning Katherine~

    "you always hold such wisdom, even at the edge of the toilet bowl."

    HAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA! OMG...that was hilarious!

    Yeah, could be because I've flushed a lot of shit throughout my life - HA!

    "Through the processing of it all I have learned to let go of the "why me" and look for the path that materializes on the other side."

    You said it, dear lady! I went though a period of my life, when I first moved back east (and things were VERY challenging for me), when I had to learn that myself.

    "One of the hardest parts is the waiting, the allowing for the meaning of it all to percolate."

    Yes..thank you for sharing that because it's soooooooooooooo true! And I loved your analogy..."to percolate." I have found that the meaning always becomes so clear, waaaay after the happening; not during.

    "time is the gift that we give to nurture healing souls. When we allow ourselves that time, then the path slowly opens and becomes clearer."

    Brava, Katherine!

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by and adding your thoughts and feelings to this post. Much appreciated and enjoyed!

    Have a FABU weekend!

    X

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  11. I love the ending snark, it's perfect
    and ya know - even toliet paper on your shoe may have a reason
    the person who stops to tell you might be your next best friend

    I really can't add to your wisdom. I found this so comforting because it suits where I am right now so much.

    Hope sends hugs
    and her new favorite word - Mwah!
    she offers her cheek to be kissed and says Mwah :)

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  12. You're so right Ron, there are times when we have to shed a load to get back on the right track - it's called 'moving on'. :)

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  13. Good Morning Dianne~

    "I love the ending snark, it's perfect."

    Tee, hee...aren't I wicked?

    "and ya know - even toliet paper on your shoe may have a reason

    the person who stops to tell you might be your next best friend."

    BRAVA, dear lady! Brilliant insight and wisdom!

    (((( Dianne )))))

    Awwwwww....and please tell darling Hope that Uncle Ronnie Mwahs her right back!

    MMMMWAH!!!!!

    (((( Hope )))))

    Thanks for stopping by, Dianne! Have a grrreat weekend!

    X and hugs to you and Hope!

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  14. Good Morning Akelamalu~

    "there are times when we have to shed a load to get back on the right track - it's called 'moving on."

    Thank you....moving on.

    Have a wonderful weekend, m'dear! And thanks for stopping by!

    X

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  15. Ron, Life happens with or without us and it is entirely up to us if we want to live it or fight it, hanging on to things from our past or things we can't change only adds unwanted baggage for us to carry, I am guilty of this as I still have a couple of duffle bags I am not sure I will ever fully let go of.

    "We often have a preconceived idea of where we think our life is suppose to be, and when it doesn’t meet our expectations we feel as if we’ve done something wrong, which only makes us feel worse."

    This happens when we are fighting life rather than living it, I don't think we are supposed to plan out each and every aspect of our lives, we have to wing it and follow God's lead because without Him where would we be. I know I have mentioned this before but I like the statement: "If you want to make God laugh, tell Him what Your plans are"

    Excellent post Buddy because you are so right in so many ways here, I'll be back in a bit I must go flush...

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  16. Love this, love you. Miss you, let's have lunch soon!

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  17. Ron, this was such a FANTASTIC post. I definitely needed to read this.

    After my birthday passed, I was feeling a little blue... I was having the moment you described perfectly:

    "We often have a preconceived idea of where we think our life is suppose to be, and when it doesn’t meet our expectations we feel as if we’ve done something wrong, which only makes us feel worse."

    So. True.

    Thanks to you and this post, today, I am going to flush some shit and start moving on!

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  18. Hey Jimmy~

    "Life happens with or without us and it is entirely up to us if we want to live it or fight it, hanging on to things from our past or things we can't change only adds unwanted baggage for us to carry."

    Yes, and I too have been/and still am guilty of this.

    I freakin' love how you said this, because I too believe this...

    "I don't think we are supposed to plan out each and every aspect of our lives, we have to wing it and follow God's lead because without Him where would we be."

    Life is like a dance.

    Sometimes we take the lead, and other times we need to follow.

    "If you want to make God laugh, tell Him what Your plans are."

    OMG...and He's laughed at me PLENTY of times, I'm sure of it!

    Thanks for stopping by and sharing on this post, buddy! Much appreciated and enjoyed!

    Have a grrrrrreat weekend!

    X to you and Cindy!

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  19. Helloooooooo Lora~

    Holy shit, I was JUST THINKING ABOUT YOU the past couple of days and wondering how you were, and here you are!

    Great seeing ya!!!

    Yes, let's get together sometime before the mad holiday rush begins in retail. Righ now, I'm taking Mondays and Fridays off, so check your schedule and see if any one of those two days is good for you.

    Thanks for stopping by, girl! Have a faaabulous weekend! Hey, aren't you lovin' this great fall weather we're having?

    X

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  20. Hello Meleah~

    Thank you, girl! I too believe I needed to read this myself at the moment. That's why I think I 'accidentally' found the picture and was inspired to share this today. Sometimes we need to say something we need to hear.

    "We often have a preconceived idea of where we think our life is suppose to be, and when it doesn’t meet our expectations we feel as if we’ve done something wrong, which only makes us feel worse."

    Yes, and I still get that way at times.

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, my Libra friend! Always enjoyed!

    Have a fantabulous weekend!

    ((( Meleah )))

    X

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  21. Fabulous post and a wonderful new way for me to look at things. Thanks so much for this.

    And I LOVE the Fred Astaire clip. He was such a fabulous dancer. I was always in awe of his talent. LOVE LOVE LOVE watching that man dance.

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  22. Hola Peg~

    You are so welcome, dear friend! It's a wonderful way for me to look at things too. A post to myself as well.

    OMG...don't ya just LOVE the Fred Astair clip? I found it last week and the second I saw it, I knew I wanted to share it. Wasn't he a freakin' AWESOME dancer?? So smooth, so effortless, so cool! I also loved Gene Kelly!

    Always great seeing ya, Peg! Mucho grassy for stopping by!

    Have a super weekend!

    X

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  23. I know few have a grasp of the huge change happening in my life. A crossroads, no doubt. It's shaken me--and while I can hear WPIML telling me to 'flush the toilet' (he says that when I get consumed with crappy thinking), I seem to have a problem with just watching it swirl around the bowl and never really going down. I'm sure it's me, clogging up the process. I have a tendency to hang on to things I need to let go of and let go of things I need to hang on to.

    This one's breaking my heart.
    I think I'm trying to do denial that it's breaking it.
    But I hear what you say.
    And I know it's true. I do.
    It's me getting in the way, no doubt.
    You're wisdom is reminding me to get out of the way, quit holding on to the plunger and dredging it up over and over again and just let it go where it will.

    I know.
    I'm just struggling with doing.
    And WPIML would tell me that 'knowing and not doing is worse than not knowing'.

    He's right.
    As are you.

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  24. ah ron, i can always come to you for a smile :) thanks sweetsxooxoxoxox

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  25. Hello Mel~

    First, I have to thank you for sharing on this post, dear lady.

    Thank you, very much.

    Second, even though I realize that letting go of things is the most healthy thing to do, I still struggle with it myself, so I can totally empathize with you.

    It ain't easy, is it? I too have a tendency to hang on to things.

    I think for me, the stuggle comes in the fear of letting go before I know there's something 'securing' me on the other side. And yet, the only way I can do that is to just trust that what's on the other side is for my best interest, and that I will be supported through the 'change.'

    And I've gotta tell ya....I have ALWAYS been supported.

    I had to walk through a very dark time in my life seven years ago to find that out.

    I thought I was lost in total darkness, only to discover the light that was guiding and supporting me. It felt like I was suspended over a dark, empty abyss, and that I was going to fall. However, I never did.

    Just know (and I know you already know this) that you are always loved, guided, and supported.

    And that by letting go, you find true power.

    (((( Mel ))))

    Thank you again for sharing, because it reaffirmed what I needed to hear for myself.

    Have a beautiful weekend, dear lady!

    X ya!

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  26. Helloooooo Dearest Linda~

    OMG...it's soooooooo fabulous to see you!!

    I hope you're feeling well. I sent you some Reiki today, so I hope you got it!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, my wonderful friend! What a delight!

    Have a beautiful weekend!

    (((( Linda ))))

    xoxoxoxoxo

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  27. I didn't see that coming: 'the shit you don't need' but it made me catch my breath in amazement. What a fabulous, not-so-subtle, but point-on metaphor for letting go of old beliefs, judgements, attitudes, perceptions, anything that's blocking the light.

    You express so many dimensions of yourself exquisitely, with panache, humor and humility. Just love this essay. Thanks mi amigo!!

    xoxo

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  28. Reminds me of 'Moonstruck' when Rose Castorini says to Loretta.... 'what's the matter with you? Your life's going down the toilet!' LOL

    OH so many times I've thought that I must be off track because things just don't seem to be going the way I think they should. Sometimes I'm feeling creative and engaged with lots of things and other times it's all I can do to just make the bed, lay on it, and chill the frick out.
    So on the days when things seem off, I guess I just need to keep flushing and stay with the process!
    And don't even mention my inlaws... OMG, I need to take a HUGE DUMP when I think of them. haha

    Yup, the process of learning who we are is certainly interesting.
    Cool post, neighbor! How awesome is this weather we are having!? Hope you are enjoying a nice weekend. :)

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  29. What?? Did my comment disappear?? I clicked post and then got a red error saying 'comment should not be empty' ?? Well, let me know if you got anything before this, k?

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  30. Wow, Ron... This is very inspirational. I'm making some important changes in my life at the moment. Regaining my life and health. Letting go is hard at times. But waste is waste.

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  31. Helloooooo Diane~

    What's really ironic is that I didn't even plan on this post, however the second I saw that photo I knew what wanted to say with it. I honestly think the photo spurred me into sharing something that I needed to be reminded of myself.

    Letting go and trusting.

    I often get my inspiration for posts from just seeing a photograph.

    "not-so-subtle" No, I've never thought of myself as a subtle person - HA! I think that's why I love NYC so much, New Yorkers are never subtle.

    Thank you sooo much for your comment, dear friend. It really touched me.

    Hope you're having a MAAAAVALOUS weekend!

    Thanks for stopping by!

    X to you and C!

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  32. Hey Crystal Chick~

    "Reminds me of 'Moonstruck' when Rose Castorini says to Loretta.... 'what's the matter with you? Your life's going down the toilet!"

    HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHHAHA...Brava, that's exactly what I was thinking about when I wrote the title! Wasn't that line in movie, flawless? It's one of my favorite scenes. Olympia was brilliant in that movie.

    "OH so many times I've thought that I must be off track because things just don't seem to be going the way I think they should."

    Ohhhhhhh...meeeeeee too, meeeeeee too! And I still think that at times, believe me. I have to keep reminding myself that everything is happening as it should. I'm not the most patient person, so it's very challenging at times - oy vey!

    "And don't even mention my inlaws... OMG, I need to take a HUGE DUMP when I think of them."

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I'm the same way when it comes to 'certain' members of my own family.

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, M! I always enjoy our chats!

    Hope you're enjoying your weekend.

    X

    P.S. OMG...the weather has been flawless, hasn't it?

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  33. Hello again Crystal Chick~

    Yes my friend...your first comment DID go through.

    Blogger has been acting VERY weird the past few days - I've been having issues leaving comments as well.

    X

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  34. Bonjour Susu~

    "Letting go is hard at times. But waste is waste."

    You said, my friend!!!!

    Me too, I'm going through a lot of changes myself, so I needed to be reminded.

    (((( Susu ))))

    Always so wonderful seeing you, beautiful lady! Thank you for stopping by.

    Have a great rest of your weekend!

    X

    P.S. I am soooooo loving your blog!

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  35. I like this idea, I really do. And it goes for all aspects of your life too - relationships, careers, etc. It really is what we learn on our way to our goals that make all the difference.

    Like on my way to trying to simply make money online, I woke up one day and realized I had created a talent for myself that never crossed my mind - I could write, and I actually enjoyed it. Granted, my grammar could still use some work, but for the most part I had it in me to be a professional writer.

    Anyway, great post! Gives us something to think about. ;)

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  36. Greetings Drama Queen~

    Welcome! Thanks for stopping by and sharing a comment - nice to meet you!

    "And it goes for all aspects of your life too - relationships, careers, etc. It really is what we learn on our way to our goals that make all the difference."

    Yes, you're so right....it goes for all aspects of your life - excellent point! It's what we learn on our way to our goals.

    "I woke up one day and realized I had created a talent for myself that never crossed my mind - I could write, and I actually enjoyed it."

    That's faaabulous! Me too, my grammar could still use some work, but hey, that's part of our learning, right?

    Please stop by anytime, you're always welcomed!

    Enjoy your evening!

    P.S. LOVE your avatar name!

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  37. So true...I have this feeling a lot lately. I need to flush...

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  38. Hellooooooo Kate~

    Yeah, I think we ALL go through periods in our lives where we need to flush; making room for what's to come.

    And yet, even though I know this it can be soooooooooooo challenging - learning along the way.

    Thanks for stopping by, Kate! Always great to see you!

    Hope you had a grrrrrrreat weekend!

    X

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  39. ron this post was FANTASTIC. just what i needed this morning. made me tear up too. thank you, brother.

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  40. Good Morning V~

    ((((( Valerie )))))

    Thank you, girl! And thank you for stopping by!

    X

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  41. "only the shit you don't need" - love it!!!!
    "Creation involves curves, detours, and road blocks." - excellent point. Fabulous analogy here, wish I'd thought of it!!!!

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  42. Hi SuziCate~

    HA!

    For some reason, I always think of flushing a toilet when I know it's time to get rid of stuff I no longer need.

    Flush........

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, Suzi! Always so great too see ya!

    Enjoy your evening!

    X

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  43. Love it! It is a metaphor for so many things in life. We just need to let go of the shit and keep the rest. Sometimes it's not that easy but it should be.

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  44. Hey Jen~

    "It is a metaphor for so many things in life. We just need to let go of the shit and keep the rest."

    Exactly! It can pertain to all aspects of our life.

    Yes, it's not always easy, I agree. I still find it challenging to let go.

    Always great seeing ya, my friend! Thank you for stopping by!

    X

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