Embracing The MessinessMonday, May 19, 2014
I used to believe that I had to figure out a way to remove the messiness in my life to get to a point where I could finally say, “Okay…now I’m ready to live my life because I’m enlightened. I am no longer messy.”
But what I failed to realize was that I will always be messy and that the messiness in my life is what brings me to enlightenment. I kept trying to put the cart before the horse by attempting to achieve enlightenment without realizing the value in the messiness first.
Back in the ‘80’s I was a huge self-help book reader; devouring anything I could get my hands on that would help me improve. And it’s not that I no longer believe in self-help books because I do, however, the best self-help books I have ever read are the ones that guide you to embrace yourself (and your mess) first, because that’s how we evolve. I can’t grow if I constantly believe that I'm too messy and that I have to wait until I'm enlightened by achieving some state of guruship in order to live my life to the fullest.
We all have some messiness in our lives one way or another (and yes, including the gurus), but that doesn’t mean we are limited in how we live our lives now.
And another thing I realized is that embracing my messiness does not require wallowing in it or punishing myself with negative thoughts about it because that only keeps me at a standstill. Embracing my messiness means accepting it and then using it to move forward by trusting the value in it, and loving myself along the way.
To be honest with you, the people I most admire are the ones who live robustly and confidently in spite of their messiness. Those are the people who inspire me the most and who I wish to emulate.
So, if there is one thing I can share with you about what I have learned from my own life, it's this: Messiness is actually a positive thing that guides us through the journey of enlightenment. And that we don't have to be un-messy or perfectly put together to live our lives.
Because, really, we are perfect.
Messiness and all.
So rock on everyone!