Do you know the expression, “Success and failure are two sides of the same coin?”
Well, I actually see them as being one side of the same coin because they each come with the same side of fears.
“What if I’m not good enough to succeed?”
“I’m afraid to try because I might fail and look like an asshole.”
“If I succeed, how long can I stay there and how will I ever top it?”
“I wasn't good enough.”
“If I don’t try, then at least I won’t fail and look like an asshole.”
“Success frightens me because I have something to live up to in comparison.”
And I personally know this very well because I have been through it many times in my own life.
For instance when I was an actor, I longed for success but at the same time feared it because I knew that I would be compared by the critics and audiences to live up to my previous performance. And I think perhaps my worst critic and audience were the voices within my own head.
And there were also times when I hesitated to audition for certain roles because I didn’t think I was good enough. It was much easier and safer for me to just not try.
But was it?
Because I always ended up feeling worse for not trying than trying.
I’ve learned something about success and failure. It’s all in my own head.
Success cannot be compared, nor will it ever be the end. And if I at least try, there is no such thing as failure.
So I can either live in similar fears of both success and failure, or I can flip the coin over on its other side…
Have a flip-side of the coin weekend everyone!