My dear friend, Petra at Petra Michelle, shared a post last week that really touched me because it included this quote from comedian/actress, Gilda Radner.
“I wanted a perfect ending.
Now I've learned the hard way that some poems don't rhyme,
and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, nor end.
Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment
and making the most of it, without knowing what's to happen next."
Reading this made me think back on my own life experiences and endings.
I think we all in one way or another idealize about a perfect experience, whether it has to do with a relationship, job, or personal goal. And as Radner shared, I don’t think stories always have a clear beginning, middle, nor end because they haven’t been lived yet, they have only been anticipated.
How many times have you said to yourself, “Wow…this didn’t end up like I thought it would?”
And I don’t necessarily mean experiences we didn’t like, but also the ones that delightfully surprised us because they ended up being something far better than we thought perfect.
Personally, I think I sometimes project onto an experience by either how I want it to be, or by how past experiences have influenced me, fearing that it might end up the same way. And in either case, it sets me up for disappointment because every experience and ending will be different.
And there are some experiences I don't have control over, other than how I perceive them.
Again, as Radner shared, it’s taking the moments as they come and being adaptable to change; not knowing what’s going to happen next.
I think each experience is what I make of it and what I learn. And not only the endings, but also the beginnings and the middles.
So in a way, all of my experiences have the ability to be perfect.
And they might not rhyme, but then again, all poems are not meant to rhyme.
Have a super Monday, y’all!