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To me, there is nothing more sensuous than kissing.

In fact, I find kissing much more erotic than the actual “Let’s-rip-our-clothes-off-and-get-to-it.”

Kissing is like reading a really great preface before you actually get to the book.

I’ve met people throughout my life who said they don’t ever kiss, they only have sex.

To each his own, but I honestly don’t think I could ever be in a relationship with someone without intimate lip-to-lip contact.

Now mind you, I think sex is great, but I enjoy a little appetizer before getting to the Beef Strokenoff.

There is definitely an art to kissing; one that cannot be taught, but rather something that through “doing” is discovered.

To perfectly honest with you my own first attempts at kissing were any thing but sensuous. In fact, I would probably go so far as to say they were more like turning on a Hoover Wet Vac and sucking. I think it was a combination of my adolescent hormones in a rage and the awkwardness of not really knowing what to do. By the time we were finished our lips were black and blue and our front teeth fractured, but sated.

When I was 19 years old, my first male partner told me I kissed like a horse. And not ever having kissed a horse I had no idea what he was talking about, but I guess he meant that I was sloppy. And I was, because I hadn’t had that much experience. So I spent the next few years of my life apprehensive to kiss, in fear that someone would quickly offer me a handful of HAY.

However, as I got older my sensuality evolved, therefore I became more relaxed and confident.

By today’s standards I was a late bloomer when I first starting kissing.

I was around 17.

My first experience was with a woman, which I enjoyed.

I would like to interject here by saying that even as a gay man, I find both men and women attractive. I have always been able to see and appreciate the beauty in both sexes - I simply prefer intimacy with a man.

Later in life I was once told by a woman who I passionately kissed in play, that I kissed more like a woman. And she, having been in relationships with both men and women, said she knew what she was talking about. So, I guess I have to take her word for it.

I'm a man who kisses with the lips of a woman.

Who knew?

Well...I don't get horse complaints anymore, so it must work.

Anyway, the point of this post is to say….

For me, intimacy always starts with some of these….





24 comments

  1. The lips of a woman and the kiss of a horse? Until further notice I shall have to refer to you as Mrs Ed!

    L.I.P.S.

    Lushes
    Intimate
    Passionate
    Sensual

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  2. YAY. I'm numero uno. (For today.)
    Ah...the kiss. I too, loooove being kissed. I do believe that ppl who don't care for it have either never been kissed properly, or they're selfish and just want the main course, no appetizer. I do believe that should be a question on any dating form: Do you believe in kissing? Serious...sensual...long, don't-wanna-come-up-for-air kisses?
    Sigh. I MISS kisses....
    Of course, I like the Strokenoff as well. (Couldn't let that one slip by. Pun intended.)
    Wonderful post, dahling-

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  3. We have so many nice connections and I agree with alot of what you say!
    When I first started dating my Ron, we used to sit in his car out front of my house and KISS. And kiss. And kiss....

    OH that man of mine has such big soft lips. Mmmmm.

    And at almost 26 married years now, we're still kissing. And kissing. And kissing....

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  4. remember all the scenes in 'Pretty Woman' where she wouldn't let him kiss her because kissing was too intimate

    she was right

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  5. Howdy Jeff!

    Your L.I.P.S. was BRILLIANT!!

    And I agree on all four!

    Yeah...

    ..."IIIII am Mrs. Ed...."

    *ney, weeny

    Bwhahahahhahaha!

    Bravo, bud!

    Thanks for stopping by!

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  6. Mornin' Kathryn!

    Hey...that's a GREAT idea!

    A dating form! This way we can find out immediately whether kissing is part of their repertoire.

    Isn't kissing the best???

    *of course, I like the Strokenoff too!

    tee, hee!

    Always so great seeing ya, you wild woman you!

    Have a great day!

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  7. LOL I nearly choked laughing when I read Jeff's comment!

    I so agree with you Ron, kissing is very important. I haven't kissed anyone but MWM for the past 35+ years except my grandchildren and family members but MWM and I get plenty of practice! ;)

    In my youth I didn't like sloppy kissers - needles to say MWM isn't a sloppy kisser. :)

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  8. Helloooo Crystal Chick!

    aaaaah...you said it!

    Sometimes it's great just SMOOCHIN' and nothing else.

    Cuddling and smooching.

    "And at almost 26 married years now, we're still kissing. And kissing. And kissing.....

    BRAVA!

    You GO, girl!

    Thanks for dropping by, M!

    Have kissin' Monday!

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  9. Hiya Dianne!

    YES!...I do remember that scene in Pretty Woman (a movie I loved).

    And I agree, she's right!

    Kissing is all about getting close and intimate.

    Thank you for dropping by today, dear lady!

    X ya!

    Besitos

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  10. Good mornin' Akelamalu!

    I know...wasn't his comment a RIOT???

    I've missed his brilliant humor!

    Isn't kissing the BOMB?

    You GO, girl!

    Thanks for stopping by today, m'dear!

    Happy Monday to ya!

    Besitos!

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  11. totally agree on the kissing is more intimate thing. that's so true for me. if i have no desire to kiss the one i'm with, well there is no next step. no nothing. nada. can't have that w/o this.

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  12. I love kissing....I just can't have sex without some lip-lock.

    Great Post!

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  13. Hey Valerie!

    I know coming from a guy this may sound unusual, but I feel the same way.

    ... no next step. no nothing. nada. can't have that w/o this...

    Gotta have the intimacy.

    Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings, my friend!

    Hope you had a great day!

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  14. Hi Funny Girl!

    YUP!

    Ain't kissin' GRAND?

    It makes sex soooo much sexier.

    HA!

    Always great seeing ya, FG!

    Thanks for dropping by!

    Enjoy your evening!

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  15. Kissing is important, the amuse-bouche (pun intended) of sex.

    When I was in Australia, the men didn't want to kiss a woman (or other man, I guess) unless there was more emotion involved in the encounter. It was a little strange to me then but after I thought about it, it made sense.

    Remember, bro - practice makes perfect!

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  16. OMG..I love you, Nitebyrd!!!

    Your pun was FAAABULOUS!!!

    And you know something? After I read your comment about how Australian men feel, it made sense to me too.

    That's the thing about kissing...

    ....it has more to do with EMOTION.

    Thanks SOOOO much for sharing on this post, Sis!

    You've added much!

    X ya!

    Besitos!

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  17. I think the older you get the less you do it. I just remember as a teenager and young adult, making out was so much fun. I agree. I think kissing is not overrated like many things.

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  18. "Beef Strokenoff"
    I snorted my coffee through my nose...

    I concur. Lip locks are divine. I once passed out while kissing a man in Italy. How's that for composure?
    :-)

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  19. Hiya Jen!

    You said it, girl!

    Kissing is not overrated like many things.

    Such as....HICKIES!

    Bwhahahahahhaha!

    GREAT seeing ya, Jen!

    Have a grrrrreat day!

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  20. Hi Nancy!

    You GO, girl!

    ... I once passed out while kissing a man in Italy. How's that for composure?...

    OH. DEAR. GOD.

    ...I don't think it gets any better than that!!!

    Italy. A man. Some wine.

    NIRVANA!

    Thanks for sharing Nancy!

    Now all day I'm going be thinking about that!

    Bellissima!

    Ciao!

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  21. Beef Strokenoff? That's the funnies thing I've ever heard!

    I totally agree with you. I stopped seeing Sparky(my friend with benefits) when he stopped kissing me. I just felt dirty. Like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman or something.

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  22. Hi Chrissy!

    Tee, hee...

    ...the Beef Strokenoff was a sudden last minute change.

    Glad you had a giggle.

    I'll tell ya, I'm so like a woman when it comes to intimacy...I need the romance and some smoochin'.

    YEEEHAAAW!

    Thanks for dropping by Chrissy!

    Hope you had a GREAT day!

    Besitos!

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  23. As long as it's not one of those really wet, slobbery kisses that resembles a dog licking you... YUCK!!!
    Kissing is definitely an "art" and the French have it done pretty well!!

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  24. Bonjour Leesa!

    As long as it's not one of those really wet, slobbery kisses that resembles a dog licking you... YUCK!!!

    hahhahahahahaha!

    Tooo funny! There's nothing more WET than that, hu?

    OMG...I BET the French have kissing down to an ART!!!

    woo! woo!

    Lucky you!!!!

    Always so wonderful seeing ya, my American/French friend!!

    Happy Kissin'!

    xoxoxoxo

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