2012: The Year Of Acceptance


You may remember my New Year’s post last year in which I shared that I had a feeling 2012 was going to be a year of change, growth and addressing my fears.

And it was.

Much of what I experienced this year has had a theme entitled: Acceptance.

We like to think that we have complete control over our lives until something happens that puts us out of control. And then we freak because we realize that the only thing we can do is accept what happens, because we really don’t have control other than the control we have over how we choose to perceive and move through it.

We can try to fight it, change it, fix it, or even deny it. But it is what it is.

Control, if we don’t watch ourselves carefully, can give us a false sense of security because it places our life into a nice, neat and tidy box with the label: MY LIFE AS I PLANNED IT.

Yet, what do we do when life throws us an unplanned curve ball?

One of the biggest lessons I have personally had to learn in my life is not that I have the power to change certain things or the power to manifest certain things that I want, because I know that’s possible.

My challenge has always been the lesson of accepting the things I cannot change; trusting there is a deeper meaning to what has occurred.

I share a great deal of my personal life on this blog, however, I do not share every single aspect because it may involve family members, my job, and people whose identity I don’t feel I have the right to share on the Internet.

I’ve had a great deal of things happen to me this year.

Changes. Awakenings. Challenges.

All of which have been HUGE lessons for me.

However, the most important and life-altering lesson I learned was through my mother’s illness and death.

I sensed from the beginning that the only way I could move through this in a positive way was to accept and embrace; having faith that I would be supported in knowing how to move through it.

Ironically, my mother was actually the one who taught me this – she and my faith in a Higher Power.

From the start, my mother said to me, “We just have to accept this, Ronnie.”

And when I look back to the time when she was first diagnosed with cancer, I can see that every single step along the way was being Divinely orchestrated for the highest good.

Through accepting.

I was blessed with two fabulous weeks in July, when she and I shared quality time with one another.

We talked openly, we laughed, we reminisced, and we bonded on a profound level with each other.

My brother and I, even though we have always been close, moved even closer during this time.

I have always loved my brother, Tom, but I love him even more now.

Yes, we know in our minds that the death of our loved ones is inevitable. Yet, when the time comes we panic because we wonder how we’re going to handle and control the process. We also emotionally project into the void that’s going to be left when they die.

These are the things I have learned from the passing of my mother…

As hard as it is, embrace and accept it. Because in accepting, you move naturally through the process of grief and fear, and at the same time you’re given the strength and support to experience it.

Challenging and life-altering experiences often show you how much love you have in your life in the way of family and friends, because of the loyal support you receive from them.

Life is forever changing and shifting, therefore nothing is ever permanent.

Allow yourself to feel all the emotions you feel as you move through a challenging experience because as you feel them, those are the same emotions that will heal you.

Look for the precious pieces of gold within a challenge, because they’re there.

And lastly, don’t ever forget to tell someone that you love them.

Yes, 2012 has been a year of challenges. But I’m grateful because it has taught me the power in acceptance.

So thank you, 2012!


And thank you all for being a HUGE support for me this year. I couldn’t have done it without ya!

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!
X

66 comments

  1. This is such a wonderful post, Ron. You write so beautifully about your mother. I'm amazed how you found so many things to be thankful for despite the loss of this fabulous lady.


    And you make such great observations: "My challenge has always been the lesson of accepting the things I cannot change; trusting there is a deeper meaning to what has occurred."


    Acceptance can be such a powerful force in our lives if we allow it to happen. But that can be a very big "if" indeed. We hang on so tightly to the notion of control, but life has a way of letting us know that it's all an illusion.


    Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I'm glad you've learned the lesson of acceptance and now I'm going to try and learn from you. Take care, buddy, and all the best for 2013!

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  2. Jeanne PursellDecember 31, 2012

    I can relate to each and every word of this post except for me...it was my Dad instead of my Mom. Thanks for being my friend this year Ron! Hope we have lots more good times this year! Happy New Year! xo Jeanne

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  3. 'From the start, my mother said to me, “We just have to accept this, Ronnie.” '



    Your mother was right, Ron. It is a lesson all of us have to learn at some point in our lives. When my dad died I was in a state of disbelief but acceptance WAS gradually learned.


    Thank you for providing us with humourous and philosophical posts through the year, it has been most enjoyable. I look forward to the new year with great anticipation. Happy New Year, my friend (((YOU)))

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  4. Thanks for being a part of our lives, Ron, and for always being so open on your blog, as well as your encouraging comments on our own. YOU make a difference in all of our lives, through your sharing of life experiences, plus always making me laugh. Thank you, friend, and happy new year.

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  5. So eloquently stated, as usual. Thank you for sharing some great lessons we can all use moving forward. All the best to you in 2013. You truly deserve it. Love you!

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  6. Your mother was totally right Ron. Whatever happens in our lives is meant to be and we must accept it. My youngest brother,10 years younger than me, never smoked, doesn't drink much, always kept fit, suffered an anuerysm two weeks ago and is still in hospital. Thankfully he seems to be recovering. The law of averages says that should have happened to either me; being overweight, diabetic, high BP, ex smoker etc, or the middle brother; overweight, ex smoker, drinks, doesn't exercise, but it didn't. That proves to me that what will be will be.


    I hope 2013 will be a good year for you Ron. xx

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  7. Acceptance is a big issue for most of us. What we don't realize at times is it comes down to the root of it all...LOVE! Happy New Year, Ron!

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  8. Hey there Chrissy~

    "All the best to you in 2013. You truly deserve it. Love you!"



    Thank you. And the same to you, girl!


    ((((((( You )))))))


    Looking forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    X to you and the gang!


    X

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  9. Good morning Suzi~

    "Acceptance is a big issue for most of us. What we don't realize at times is it comes down to the root of it all...LOVE!"



    You are sooooooooo right, my friend. Through the entire process of moving through the passing of my mother is was LOVE that was forever present. And it was LOVE that supported us all.


    Thank you for stopping by for sharing your wisdom!


    Happy Hew Year, Suzi! I look forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    X

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  10. Hey there Jeanne~

    "I can relate to each and every word of this post except for me...it was my Dad instead of my Mom."



    (((((( You )))))


    Thank YOU for being my friend, dear lady. It's been a joy getting to know you and the girlz this year!


    Happy New Year!


    X

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  11. Good morning Valerie~

    "Your mother was right, Ron. It is a lesson all of us have to learn at some point in our lives. When my dad died I was in a state of disbelief but acceptance WAS gradually learned."

    I was the same way with my mother at first because there was a part of me that found it hard to belief, yet there is was. Thank god for my mother, because she was the one who made her transition more peaceful and beautiful through acceptance. And in doing so, made it that way for all of us. She was a great teacher!

    "I look forward to the new year with great anticipation."



    Me too, dear lady! Thank you for being a part of my life and for all that you share on your blog!


    Happy New Year to you!


    ((((((( You ))))))


    X

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  12. Hey there Rob~

    "I'm amazed how you found so many things to be thankful for despite the loss of this fabulous lady."

    I really attribute that to my mother because she was the one who accepted and embraced her own death, and in doing so taught me the lessons.

    "Acceptance can be such a powerful force in our lives if we allow it to happen. But that can be a very big "if" indeed. We hang on so tightly to the notion of control, but life has a way of letting us know that it's all an illusion."



    Bravo! I couldn't have said that ANY better! So true....control is all an ILLUSION.


    Thank you for stopping by, buddy. And thank you for sharing all that you do throughout the year. I've learned a great deal through your words!


    Looking forward to blogging with you in 2013! And one of these days we're gonna meet in person, i know it!


    Happy New Year, buddy!

    X

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  13. Good morning Pearl~

    So sorry to hear about your brother, but I'm tremendously happy to hear that he is recovering well. Please know I will share Reiki with him!

    "The law of averages says that should have happened to either me; being overweight, diabetic, high BP, ex smoker etc, or the middle brother; overweight, ex smoker, drinks, doesn't exercise, but it didn't. That proves to me that what will be will be."



    I know what you mean because you often see illness affect people who you wouldn't think, yet it does. There seems to be no physical or logical reason other than what you said, what will be will be.


    Thank you for stopping by, m'dear. And thank you for being a part of my life these past 6 years. I look forward to blogging with more in 2013!


    Happy New Year to you and your family!

    X

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  14. Ron, you express your feelings so clearly and beautifully. I read this post twice! And you're right, it's not the things in our life that go smoothly and as planned that we learn from. It's the things that don't smoothly, or as you said, an unplanned curve ball that we learn the most from. And when we resist them, it makes them even harder to experience. But when we embrace them, we are given the support to move through them.


    I enjoyed the quote you shared by Mark Nepo. Wow, is that ever great food for thought. The power of acceptance!


    Happy New Year, Ron. I look forward to reading more in 2013! xo

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  15. Thanks for being a part of our lives, Ron, and for always being so open on your blog, as well as your encouraging comments on our own. YOU make a difference in all of our lives, through your sharing of life experiences, plus always making me laugh. Thank you, friend, and happy new year!

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  16. Your attitude is inspirational, Ron. I still have both my parents but have had to deal with the loss of grandparents over the years. It's never easy - but you've taught me a thing or two for when that inevitable moment arrives. Thank you, sir. And may 2013 bless you with happiness and POSITIVE change.

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  17. lastly, don’t ever forget to tell someone that you love them....this was the line..which is best in your post

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  18. Hola Denise~

    "And when we resist them, it makes them even harder to experience. But when we embrace them, we are given the support to move through them."

    You hit the nail of the head, girl. Resisting make the experience so much harder to move through. Trust me though, I still resist things at times, but I'm learning how not to more and more. My mother has been my greatest teacher for that!

    "I enjoyed the quote you shared by Mark Nepo. Wow, is that ever great food for thought. The power of acceptance!"

    Thank you. When I saw it online last night, I knew it was perfect for what I wanted to share in this post.

    Happy New Year, Denise!!!!!! And mucho thanks for being a part of my life!

    X and cheers!

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  19. Hiya Bijoux~


    Thank you so much for your sweet words, my friend.


    And thank YOU for being a part of my life too! It's been a pleasure and joy getting to know you these past two years.


    Much thanks for ALL that you share!


    Happy New Year to you and your family!


    X and cheers!

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  20. Howdy Mark~

    "I still have both my parents but have had to deal with the loss of grandparents over the years. It's never easy -"



    You're right, buddy, it's never easy to lose those that we love. I'm so grateful that through my mother's passing, she taught me so much about acceptance and embracing. She was an awesome teacher!


    Thank you for stopping by, Mark. And thank you for being such an inspiration for me too. I learn a lot from your words!


    HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!


    X and cheers to you and Tara!

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  21. lastly, don’t ever forget to tell someone that you love them....this was the line..which is best in your post on 2012: The Year Of Acceptance

    Very nice..inspiring

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  22. Greetings Ruchi~



    Welcome! Thanks for stopping by and sharing a comment. Nice to meet you!


    2012, as challenging as it's been, has also been a year of inspiration for me. My mother had much to do with that.


    The best to you in 2013!


    Cheers!

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  23. Ronnie, I love you!! You are one of the special people that has been such a huge part of my blogging journey, always there, always supportive, always bringing a smile. This is such a moving post, Ron, and I thank you for it. We all need these reminders at times because acceptance can be so hard yet so necessary to achieve. i am one to rail against things i cannot control so it's almost a daily thing for me. :)


    have a wonderfully delicious new year and i hope everything you dream of comes your way in the coming year. make merry! xoxoxo

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  24. Jay of The Depp EffectDecember 31, 2012

    Ah, Ron ... I am so, so sorry you lost your mother. I know how you loved her, and worried about her.

    But - typically of you - you have taken your grief and learned from it and come through as strong as you were before, if not stronger. Acceptance is so hard, when it comes to something like this - we want to scream, cry, throw a tantrum, beg, plead, do anything to change what IS, and yet there is absolutely. no. point. We must accept. Those who accept quickly get through the grief quickly, but for those who don't accept, grief can poison their lives.

    Oh, and I remember another great thing you did this year: you FLEW. Twice!!



    You go, Ron! You make me smile, and I'm proud to 'know' you.

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  25. Love ya too, Linda!

    (((((( You ))))))

    And thank you for your sweet and touching words. I feel the same about you too - always there, always supportive and always bringing a smile or insight through your art, photos, and words.

    " acceptance can be so hard yet so necessary to achieve. i am one to rail against things i cannot control so it's almost a daily thing for me. :)"

    Me too. As I shared, acceptance of the things I can't control has always been a challenge for me. That's one of my BIG lessons in life.

    "have a wonderfully delicious new year and i hope everything you dream of comes your way in the coming year. make merry!"



    You too, dear friend. And I look forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    Rock on, Linda!


    (((((( You ))))))


    X and Cheers!

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  26. Hiya Jay~

    Thanks, my friend. As hard as it was to experience the loss of my beloved mother, she taught me so many incredible things THROUGH her death. Mainly, acceptance.

    " Acceptance is so hard, when it comes to something like this - we want to scream, cry, throw a tantrum, beg, plead, do anything to change what IS, and yet there is absolutely. no. point. We must accept. Those who accept quickly get through the grief quickly, but for those who don't accept, grief can poison their lives."

    Amen! Beautifully stated! That's why I think it's so important to FEEL the emotions as you go through it because those are the same emotions that provide healing.

    "Oh, and I remember another great thing you did this year: you FLEW. Twice!!"



    Ha! I know, can you believe it? I had a feeling I was going to be addressing my fears this year. And one of them was FLYING!!!!


    Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend. I look forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    X and Cheers!


    P.S. hope Sid is doing well!

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  27. Ron, I bet your mother looks down at this post and smiles at you with pride!

    Beautifully expressed! You're an inspiration.

    Happy New Year to you!

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  28. Hiya Matt~

    Thank you for you sweet words, buddy. Actually, my mother herself was the inspiration because I was thinking about her the whole time I was writing this post; reflecting.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, Matt! Wishing you and your family a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!

    X and Cheers!

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  29. Hey Ron,

    "Life is forever changing and shifting, therefore nothing is ever permanent" you are so right my friend, nothing ever stays the same and we have to be strong enough to accept the changes and move along with them.


    I know you have a lot of Love for your Mom and her memory is still alive my Friend because of the energy she left within you to share with the world, she is proud of you Ron and like Matt said she is smiling down at you, always.


    I am proud to know you and look forward to the New Year.


    You know Cindy and I Love you Buddy :)

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  30. Yes, life is forever changing and shifting--and nothing is permanent. *sigh* Dangitall that some things cannot be.
    I say that but when I play that all the way through.....I know the everchanging deal is one to celebrate.
    For a creature of habit and routine, it's still hard to wrap my head and heart around that one. Getting there.....you'd think by now I'da arrived!


    My heart hurt when I read this the first time. I'd suppose it's too close to home, having lost my birth mom on NYE eons ago. The sister lost her MIL on the 30th and is struggling hugely....call it me 'over-relating'. I pull up all sorts of memories this time of year. The circumstances created all sorts of trials and all sorts of joy--life and the Big Guy have a way of compensating and bringing TO when something leaves your life, I guess. Hard to hold on to that while you're in the midst of the storm--but I know that truth from living it.
    Being able to BE present and have that time with your mom and brother undoubtedly meant the world to the both of them. I'm kinda hoping you and your brother start up a routine of calls between the two of you--fill some of that void that you're both getting to deal in.
    And I'm hopeful, by watching from here the dignity and grace that you moved through the circumstances with (and still do....), that I can embrace whatever change gets dropped in my lap.
    (NOT THE BROKEN LEG deal. I ain't doing that one with grace and you can't make me......LOL)


    Good company along the way.......embraced by the love of others, it's amazing what WE can do, eh?


    (((((((((((((( Ron )))))))))))))
    Joyous first day of this New Year!
    And tell us what wonderful plans you have for your hiatus! I'm hopeful it involves some YOU time.

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  31. I'm so glad for you that you were able to find meaning and grace in the loss of your mother. Acceptance is key, and so, so hard to get to sometimes! Often I fight it tooth and nail, and then finally settle into it.


    It's funny how we can get to the end of a year and see how it moved us toward some sort of spiritual growth, or was held together by a theme. I look forward to reading your post this time next year about what 2013 meant for you!

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  32. A pretty incredible message my friend. Like many I suppose, I'm a "fixer". Given a problem, a situation, a loss or whatever it may be, I tend to try the fix it approach. How do I control the situation in order to improve the outcome.


    As you so eloquently indicated, sometimes we just need to embrace what life throws at us. That's not to say we necessarily have to like it, but accepting it will let us move forward.


    Great lesson Ron!

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  33. Howdy Jeff!!!!!!!!!!

    "Given a problem, a situation, a loss or whatever it may be, I tend to try the fix it approach. How do I control the situation in order to improve the outcome."

    I think we all do that (I know I do), yet there are certain things (such as death) I cannot fix, change or control other than controlling the way I perceive and move through it.

    "That's not to say we necessarily have to like it, but accepting it will let us move forward."



    Amen!


    Thanks so much for stopping by today, buddy. I look forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    HAPPY NEW YEAR to you and your family!


    X and cheers!

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  34. Hey there Secret Agent Woman~

    "Acceptance is key, and so, so hard to get to sometimes! Often I fight it tooth and nail, and then finally settle into it."

    I can be the same way, my friend. Yet, 2012 seemed to be a year in which there were many things I couldn't fight. I needed to look at them in a different light.

    "It's funny how we can get to the end of a year and see how it moved us toward some sort of spiritual growth, or was held together by a theme."



    You're right, and in my case it was acceptance.


    Thanks so much for stopping by today. I'm so glad we met this past year, and I look forward to blogging more with you in 2013!


    Happy New Year!!!!


    X and cheers!

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  35. Good morning Jimmy~

    " her memory is still alive my Friend because of the energy she left within you to share with the world."



    Thank you, buddy. And you're so right because as I was writing this post Sunday night, I could actually feel her giving me the inspiration to share this.


    It's been an absolute joy getting to know you and Cindy through our blogs these past two years. I look forward to sharing more in 2013 with ya!


    HAPPY NEW YEAR, JIMMY!!!!!


    Much X to you and Miss Cindy!


    Cheers!

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  36. Hiya Mel!!!!!!!

    It seems that 2012 was much the same for so many people I know - experiencing things we had no control over, other than how we chose to perceive and move through it. Yup..it was a VERY challenging year, wasn't it?

    "The circumstances created all sorts of trials and all sorts of joy--life and the Big Guy have a way of compensating and bringing TO when something leaves your life, I guess. Hard to hold on to that while you're in the midst of the storm--but I know that truth from living it."

    Exactly! And it wasn't until I took the time to reflect on last year, did I see the precious pieces of gold. Yet, it's almost impossible to see them as you're going through it - which is where faith comes in.

    "I'm kinda hoping you and your brother start up a routine of calls between the two of you--fill some of that void that you're both getting to deal in."

    Yes, we are. Tom and I have spoken a great deal on the phone since November; sharing our thoughts and feelings. I'm soooooo grateful we have each other.

    "Good company along the way.......embraced by the love of others, it's amazing what WE can do, eh?"



    You said it, Mel! And that's one of the most wonderful pieces of gold I became REALLY conscious of during that time.


    All the LOVE in my life!


    HAPPY NEW YEAR, DEAR LADY!!!!!!!


    Thank you for being in my life these past 5 1/2 years; for all that you share, give and teach!


    You da' BOMB!


    ((((((((((( You ))))))))))))


    X ya bunches!


    P.S. yes, I will be letting you know what plans I have for my hiatus. One of which will be taking a day trip into my favorite city....NY!!!!

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  37. Oh Ron,
    What incredible insight you have brought to a difficult year. Acceptance. The word has power in the powerlessness of a situation. You have handled it all with grace and heart. I feel your mom shining through this post. A beautiful thing. Happy New Year!

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  38. Ron, you have NO IDEA how much I can relate to this post. Like having to accept a lot of tough things this year - mostly the fact that I have NO control over my failing health issues. And living within those limitations.

    "Challenging and life-altering experiences often show you how much love you have in your life in the way of family and friends, because of the loyal support you receive from them."

    Absolutely. And AMEN to that.

    I love you, Ron. Happy New Year, my friend. And I want you to know how grateful I am to have you in my life. XOXO

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  39. Ron, once again your posts that are more serious and reflective always seem to touch something in the core of my soul. I hope you don't mind but I sent the link to this post to a friend of mine who I think would benefit because he's going through something tough right now, that can't be changed.

    Really insightful words you shared here. I think we don't always realize at first, that the things we cannot change are there for a reason. And in accepting them, we actually do 'fix' them because we learn something from them. So in acceptance we become more in control of our lives.

    Acceptance=power!

    Happy New Year, Ron, and thanks for sharing!

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  40. Helloooooo there Robert~

    Thank you. I enjoy sharing humor, but sometimes I feel moved to share topics that are more reflective - life experiences that have taught me things. No, I don't mind at all that you shared the link to this post with your friend. I hope he finds something in it that's helpful.

    "I think we don't always realize at first, that the things we cannot change are there for a reason. And in accepting them, we actually do 'fix' them because we learn something from them. So in acceptance we become more in control of our lives"



    BRAVO!!!! I freakin' LOVE how you said that!!!! And you are so right because in acceptance, we DO fix them because we LEARN. Acceptance actually does give us more control. Brilliant observation, Robert!


    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing on this post topic, buddy. You've added MUCH. Hope you had a super New Years Day!


    The best to you in 2013!


    X and cheers!

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  41. Hey there Meleah!

    " Like having to accept a lot of tough things this year - mostly the fact that I have NO control over my failing health issues. And living within those limitations."

    And girl, let me tell you something - you ALWAYS take those health issues and accept them with grace AND you also ALWAYS find the humor. I so admire and respect you for that because I know it's not always easy.

    Therefore, thank you for being an awesome example of what I mean by acceptance of the things we don't have control over other than the control we have in how we choose to perceive and move through them.

    "I love you, Ron. Happy New Year, my friend. And I want you to know how grateful I am to have you in my life."



    Thank you. And ditto to YOU!


    ((((((( You ))))))


    Happy New Year!

    X and cheers!

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  42. Angelia SimsJanuary 01, 2013

    Oh Ron, What incredible insight you have brought to a difficult year. Acceptance. The word has power in the powerlessness of a situation. You have handled it all with grace and heart. I feel your mom shining through this post. A beautiful thing. Happy New Year!

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  43. Greetings Angelia~

    Thank you for your sweet and supportive words.

    "Acceptance. The word has power in the powerlessness of a situation."



    You said it. And through acceptance, we become more powerful.


    Hope you had a faaaaaabulous New Year's Day!


    The best you and your family in 2013! I look forward to blogging with you this next year.


    Your photography and words always inspire me!


    X and cheers!

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  44. your words of truth, from the core of your heart give me courage to live through today's challenges with an open outlook. Thank you so much for the wisdom you share in this very gentle way Ron. Wishing you peace in the coming year. sending love, diane

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  45. Herman TurnipJanuary 01, 2013

    Those are some fine words, sir. Now if only everyone had the wherewithal to look inward, accept changes as they occur, and learn from them. It takes a strong person to do that. But, as you stated, if you're able to accept changes (both good and bad), and allow them to mold you in a positive way, you'll emerge a better person at the end.


    Here's hoping that 2013 brings everyone their fair share of positive changes!

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  46. Hellooooooooo Diane!


    Thank you, girl. Lately I've been feeling very reflective over the past year, especially when it comes to my mother and what she taught me through her illness and death. She was my teacher for so many things.


    Much thanks for stopping by tonight, my friend. Hope you had an AWESOME New Year's day and enjoyed your trip!


    So looking forward to blogging and sharing with you in 2013!


    Thank you for being in my life!


    Much X to you and Cristybella!


    Cheers!

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  47. Howdy Herman and Happy New Year!!!!

    "if you're able to accept changes (both good and bad), and allow them to mold you in a positive way, you'll emerge a better person at the end."



    Yup...that's it EXACTLY....allowing them to mold us in a 'positive' way. I've learned the most from those things that were the most challenging and fearful for me.


    Thanks so much for stopping this evening, buddy. Hope you and the family had the most awesome New Year's day!


    So looking forward to blogging with you in 2013!


    Thanks for being such a great pal!


    X to you, Karin, and Mr. Tyler!


    Cheers!

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  48. Dianne WilsonJanuary 02, 2013

    I love the quote on the acceptance poster


    you approach things with such thoughtfulness and kindness Ron
    and you carry yourself through with grace
    I admire you so much


    hugs from me and Hope

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  49. Hey there Lady Dianne~

    And I admire YOU so much. Your constant reaching out to help others in need, your talents and your brilliant sense of humor!

    (((((( YOU )))))))

    HAPPY NEW YEAR, DEAR LADY! I look forward to blogging with you in 2013!

    X and cheers to you, Hope, Siren and Isadora!

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  50. Hi Ronnie,
    I am happy to be here on your blog on this new year!
    You are touching on the tender chords in each person's existance. Yes, we can all control a lot about our mental and physical being in a conscious way. But of course, we cannot choose a lot of the more traumatic events- accidents,illness losses of all types and of course, death.
    These are the "biggies". They teach us a lot.
    Faith (whatever belief system) is a part of acceptance. Because we cannot change certain things and have no choice but to accept... or be condemed to live in anger and bitterness. Most people would agree that is a waste.
    I know that you will be coming out of these years with new depth and lessons.
    I love ya tons, babe (((((( Ronnie)))))))
    P.S. Enjoy your break if you have already started it. Whee!!

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  51. Bonjour Barb~

    HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!

    You shared A LOT of insight within your comment, my friend. You're so right is saying that we CAN control a lot about our mental and physical being in a 'conscious' way. Yet, there are things like, illness, accidents and death, we cannot. That's where acceptance and faith come in - faith that there is a deeper meaning; a learning within them.



    This year was a HUGE year of learning for me. And my mother's illness and death (and the way in which she embraced them) taught ME.


    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, Barb! Looking forward to sharing 2013 with you!


    (((((((( You )))))))


    X and cheers!


    P.S. yes, I started my break this week (Monday) and am so looking forward to it. Whee!

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  52. Sabi SunshineJanuary 02, 2013

    HI Ron


    First of all, Wish you a very Happy New year & all the best for 2013.


    I really like your blog world. I came to your blog via Bijoux, I would love to be your blog friend,


    Regards
    Sabi Sunshine

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  53. Greetings Sabi!


    Welcome! Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to share a comment. So nice to meet you through Bijoux! She's a sweetheart!


    Yes, please feel free to stop by anytime you'd like. You're always welcomed here!


    Happy New Year and the best to you for 2013!


    Cheers!


    P.S. thank you for leaving your blog address, I will place it on my reader for your updates.

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  54. Hi Ron!

    This is truly a wonderful post and I totally agree to it. I especially love this line, "we really don’t have control other than the control we have over how we choose to perceive and move through it."

    Challenges in life teaches us to be humble and to realize that our strength is so much limited and we don't actually have full control over everything in life no matter who we are and how strong we are.

    "As hard as it is, embrace and accept it. Because in accepting, you move naturally through the process of grief and fear" - very well said, Ron. Going against something that is beyond out control is a bad idea as it will create unnecessary stress and paralyzes our spirit.



    I wish you a (belated) happy New Year, may the year brings you success, happiness and good health.

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  55. Greetings Abu~

    "Challenges in life teaches us to be humble and to realize that our strength is so much limited and we don't actually have full control over everything in life no matter who we are and how strong we are."

    You are sooooooooooooo correct, my friend! I remember back in 2003 when I went through financial bankruptcy and felt totally out of control and powerless. Yet, I needed to go through that because on a much deeper level, I needed to be humbled. There is often great power in being powerless.

    "Going against something that is beyond out control is a bad idea as it will create unnecessary stress and paralyzes our spirit."



    Amen!


    Thanks so much for stopping by, Abu. Happy New Year to you too!


    Blessings!


    X

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  56. Brilliant post, bro! Changing what we can and accepting what we can't tends to lead to contentment and possibly happiness.

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  57. "Changing what we can and accepting what we can't tends to lead to contentment and possibly happiness."


    Amen! And I couldn't agree with you more!


    It's not always easy, but I find it easier than resisting.


    Happy New Year, Sis!


    (((((((((( You ))))))))))


    X and Cheers!

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  58. ron, you are such a smart, thinking man. i have nothing to add or contribute to this post because you've said everything so beautifully and thoughtfully. thanks for sharing your wisdom, experiences and most importantly, yourself!

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  59. Hey there Lady V~

    Aw....thank you, girl. I've been feeling very reflective lately, so I felt the need to share part of my journey.

    Mucho thanks for stopping by. Hope you're enjoying a fantabulous week!

    Happy New Year!

    X and cheers!

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  60. This is such a wonderful post. Thank you for this. You have gone through a lot of changes and grief this year. You have handled it brilliantly. Acceptance is so hard. Sometimes we have to accept that we don't want to accept things, be angry and sad, then move on to the next step. That's what allowing ourselves to feel what we need to feel is all about.

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  61. Hiya Jen~

    "Acceptance is so hard. Sometimes we have to accept that we don't want to accept things, be angry and sad, then move on to the next step. That's what allowing ourselves to feel what we need to feel is all about."



    Exactly! That's what I mean in feeling ALL the emotions (which include anger and sadness) without getting stuck in them, and then moving to the next step and the next. And in moving through them...we heal.


    Thanks so much for stopping by, girl. Wishing you a fantabulous New Year!


    X and cheers!

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  62. Ron this is so beautifully put. Remember the prayer Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change. Have a Happy and Healthy New Year

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  63. *waving*


    Hi Rick!!!!!


    Thank you, buddy. And YES...I was TOTALLY thinking of that prayer the whole time I was going through this. AWESOME prayer!


    Thanks for stopping by. HAPPY NEW YEAR to you!


    X


    P.S. hope you're feeling better.

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