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When you move to Florida from the Northeast and experience your first Christmas, it's such a novelty. Instead of the usual winter weather that you're accustomed to, you suddenly get warmth, sunshine, beautiful beaches, and Christmas cards with Santa Claus delivering gifts on a surfboard (sans eight reindeer), very similar to the illustration above.

I will never forget my first Christmas in Boca Raton, FL. The day was bright and sunny, and the temperature had to have been somewhere in the mid-80s. I think I either spent the day at the beach or played tennis. I can't exactly remember because it was in 1973. However, I recall it being one of those two things. Or it may have even been both. I remember calling my relatives who were still in Northeast and toying with them; telling them that the weather was simply gorgeous and how I spent the day outside enjoying it. They all said, "Oh Ron, you're so lucky. I'm so jealous. I wish I was there. We're in the middle of a snow blizzard!" And I'm thinking, "Tee-hee!"

As I've shared many times, I thoroughly enjoyed my 20 years living in Florida (both Boca Raton and Orlando). Besides the weather, a lot of wonderful things happened to me that were life-changing. Things like long-lasting friendships, career moves, and a variety of incredible opportunities. I'm so grateful for my time in Florida. It was a 20-year romance I'll never forget. 

Yet towards the end, the weather not only became redundant, but annoying as well. Something within my body changed, and I found the constant heat and humidity unbearable. Eventually, I felt myself being pulled back to the Northeast. So in 2001, I returned. 

And over the years, it's become clear to me how much my soul is rooted here. Deeply rooted. 

I didn't realize how much I missed the change of seasons, the landscape, and the overall "feel" of the Northeast. 

I believe that every place has a different energetic vibration. And you either feel "in tuned" with the energy of a particular place, or you don't. And I also believe that no place is forever; even though we might think so. Trust me, I never thought I'd move from NYC, but I did. I never thought I'd leave Florida, but I did. And I never thought (once I left in 1973) I'd move back to the state where I was born. But guess what? I did!

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Christmas Morning This Year -

I had a great Christmas morning. I got up at 7 AM; made myself a nice cup of black coffee; watched White Christmas; ate a very early lunch (brunch); took a shower, and then called my brother Tom, who lives in Florida. 

We hadn't talked in a while, so we were on the phone for well over an hour, catching up on many things. My brother and I talk at the same speed. Therefore, our conversations always overlap and move from one topic to the other rather quickly. 

Even though Tom was only 9-years-old when we moved to Florida, and has lived there most of his life, he still keeps the typical "Northeast" way of doing things - FAST, FAST, FAST. Even at my age, I still do everything fast (talk, walk, and grocery shop). 

Anyhoo, Tom recently got a new smartphone with a really great cameras. So while we were talking, he texted me a bunch of photos so that I could see the quality. And he was right, the camera on his phone was freaking FABULOUS!

And as I looked through the images, I suddenly remembered what Christmas was like in Florida. And I smiled, because of my fond memories of going to the beach and grabbing a few rays of vitamin D on Christmas day, while all my Northeast relatives were freezing their asses off. Back then, we didn't have cellphones; therefore, I couldn't send them photographs of me at the beach to make them envious. 

So for those of you who prefer warmer, tropical, beachy weather (which is probably most of you, I know), I would like to share these photographs; particularly when we all just got hit with those single-digit temperatures this past week. Which by the way, I LOVED. 

Please enjoy Christmas in Florida, and a walk on the beach (Thanks for the photos, Tom!💗)...









Gorgeous, hu?

Yup, that's Christmas in Florida - warmth, sunshine, and lots of beach time.

However, as strange as this may seem, I now prefer Christmas, cold, snowy, comfy, and cozy. 

Like this...


Hope you all had an awesome Christmas!
Happy New Year...🎉


59 comments:

  1. Ron, your brother photographs are AWESOME! I can see that the art of photography must run in your family! Believe it or not, my brother's name is also Tom. Isn't that cool?

    Interesting to read your thoughts and feeling about your time in Florida and how you ended up moving back east after 20 years. I haven't been to Florida in many years, but really enjoyed the times I was there (South Beach and Orlando). But I don't think I could live there because I like the change of seasons too much. And you're right, every place has a different energy. And we change throughout our lives, so our locations may change. I like Christmas to feel like Christmas, so I prefer it to look like that final photograph, which is so beautiful!

    The graphic of Santa on the surfboard is a riot! You GO, Santa!

    Glad you had a nice Christmas day, Ron! Happy New Year! xo

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  2. I'm like you in that I dislike humidity. I don't think most people do, but my human body can't take it. I absolutely understood what you meant when you said that every location has an energetic vibration. Even though I grew up in central Ohio, it never felt like home to me. I've lived in the Chicago area for almost 30 years and it feels like home. I feel more connected to the weather, the people, and the city. I also believe that there are other places on the earth to which we are energetically connected but have yet to visit. ❤️

    I loved the photos your brother sent you! Especially the Christmas tree on the beach!

    Happy New Year, my friend! 😘

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  3. Ron, do thank your brother for the wonderful photos! YES, I loved seeing those sandy beaches and all that warm sunshine. I was South for several years, too, so I appreciate what you said about the sameness of climate. Most days were pretty ... and warm. But I know I'd miss not having four unique seasons (well, maybe just a tad less winter, ha!)


    Christmas was fine here. A bit on the quiet side, but nothing wrong with that! I'm still enjoying having Domer home and, now that our weather is warming up a bit, maybe we'll even get that Monkey walked! xx

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  4. Hello there, Debbie!

    I sure will, and thank you! Aren't the photos awesome? I'll tell you, the cameras on cellphones haven't gotten so good, they have taken over cameras!

    "I was South for several years, too, so I appreciate what you said about the sameness of climate. Most days were pretty ... and warm. But I know I'd miss not having four unique seasons (well, maybe just a tad less winter, ha!)"

    Wow, I don't think I ever knew that you lived South at one time. I did I now know that?!? And you're right, it's the same climate day in and day out, 12 months of the year. For me, it got very boring. God, I can't tell you how much I missed the four seasons. And yes, I winter's (particularly in your area), can get very brutal.

    My Christmas was quiet as well. I didn't even leave the house all day. And like you said, nothing wrong with that. And in many ways, it allows us to really focus on the meaning of Christmas - connecting with people who mean a lot to us.

    Happy to hear that you, Domer and Monkey had a wonderful time. Yup, it's getting warmer here as well. In fact, a few days this coming week, I see it goes back into the mid-60s.

    Thanks so much for stopping by. my friend! Happy New Year to you!

    X

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  5. And I'm thinking, "Tee-hee!" 🤣🤣🤣 I could so relate to that. One year, we were in Arizona for Easter and there was a snow/ice storm back home and I was tee-heeing my ass off! We were practically jumping up and down with glee!!

    Those pictures of Tom's look EXACTLY like my pictures from our Palm Beach trip back in 2015. That was such a fun trip. I was so glad to see that part of Florida, because prior to that, I'd only been to Orlando and touristy places like Silver Springs and Circus World. I do enjoy Florida in the winter, but the humidity in the summer would kill me, so I get it. I agree with you on the energy different places put off. The places I've felt most comfortable have been California (the entire state!), Sedona, and good old Cleveland. All very different from each other, but I think the best part of Cleveland is the people. Friendly, but no nonsense. The worst part for me is the weather, of course! Christmas was brutal and I'm still recovering from the frigid temps.

    I'm so glad you got to share Christmas with your brother. I hope the new year finds lots of adventure for you and a new home thrown in. XOXO

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  6. Helloooooooooo there, Kari!

    OMG, isn't humidity the worst?!? And you're right, most people love it. But like you, my human body can't take it. And I noticed it around the time I reached 45-years-old. Suddenly, my chemistry changed and it was torture for me to live in Florida. People thought I was crazy for moving back, but I knew I needed to. So, I did. And I'm happy with my decision.

    "I absolutely understood what you meant when you said that every location has an energetic vibration. Even though I grew up in central Ohio, it never felt like home to me. I've lived in the Chicago area for almost 30 years and it feels like home. I feel more connected to the weather, the people, and the city. I also believe that there are other places on the earth to which we are energetically connected but have yet to visit. ❤️"

    YES, to all of that! I don't think you have to be born somewhere to feel as though you BELONG there. I felt that way about NYC. The first time I ever visited, I instantly knew that one day I would live there. And I did. For almost 5 years. It felt like home. And I agree, there are place on the earth we are drawn to yet, have never visited. I spent a little over two months in Japan and LOVED it. The whole time I was there, I felt so deeply connected to the culture. And like you said, it felt like home to me.

    Thanks! Didn't his pictures come out great? I was so proud of them, I decided to post them on my blog.

    Always a joy to read your comments. Happy New Year, my friend!

    X

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  7. Greetings, Candice!

    Aw...thanks! I think my brother did a fabulous job with these photographs. They look so professional. I especially love the one he captured of the seagull coming in for a landing. What a GREAT shot!!!

    And OMG, your brother's name is Tom too? Yes....how cool is that!!!!

    "I haven't been to Florida in many years, but really enjoyed the times I was there (South Beach and Orlando). But I don't think I could live there because I like the change of seasons too much."

    That's how I became once I moved back. I never realize how MUCH I missed the four seasons. And especially Fall and Winter. I would much rather be cold than hot. Plus, to me, they are such beautiful seasons.

    Me too. I prefer it to look like that final photograph. And isn't that house lovely? I could just see a fireplace going while having some homemade soup and bread. Comfy and cozy.

    I found that Santa graphic online. It reminded me of the Christmas cards they sell in Florida during the holiday season.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, Candice! Wishing you a faaaaaaaaabulous 2023!!!

    Cheers!

    X

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  8. I'll take the nasty summer heat and humidity any day over feet of snow and below zero temps of the Colorado Rockies!! Where I grew up the snow & snow drifts lasted from Sept into June. Most times. And driving on ice packed roads/snow drifts...it just got old...we vowed to move south in warm winters... Chains, stuck. You name it.
    Guess what? In corpus we HAD SNOW on our first Christmas Day we lived here!!!

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  9. "One year, we were in Arizona for Easter and there was a snow/ice storm back home and I was tee-heeing my ass off! We were practically jumping up and down with glee!!"

    OMG, that is so funny! But I can so see why it's funny because it's so incredibly different than the weather we have here. I was blown away by how warm it was in DECEMEBER in Florida. And even Easter (March/April) can still be very cold here.

    Ironic you mentioned "Palm Beach" because Tom lives in Delray Beach, which is part of Palm Beach County. And you're right, that area is so completely different from someplace like Orlando. What I missed most about moving from Boca to Orlando, where the stunning beaches (the smooth white sand and turquoise ocean water) because you just don't see that in Central Florida.

    "The places I've felt most comfortable have been California (the entire state!), Sedona, and good old Cleveland. All very different from each other, but I think the best part of Cleveland is the people. Friendly, but no nonsense. "


    LOVED all that you shared! One of these days I have got to visit Cleveland because all the photographs I've ever seen look so inviting. And yes, I did hear that the people are friendly. And I like no nonsense because that's what I always loved about the people of NYC. No nonsense.

    I know, wasn't it cold? And what's weird is that it went from very moderate temperatures to FREEZING in a matter of a few days. Today it was actually warm here. I see the next two days will be in the 60s!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend. Always a joy to read your comments! Happy New Year to you and your entire family!

    Cheers and X

    P.S. Yes, I have some trips planned for this next year. It's been so cool investigating different areas of the state and seeing where I feel the most drawn to move. Definitely this year!

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  10. Hellooooooooo there, Anni!

    "I'll take the nasty summer heat and humidity any day over feet of snow and below zero temps of the Colorado Rockies!!"


    To each his own. And speaking of Colorado, I've always been drawn to visit there; especially in winter. I love mountains, which is probably why. That whole state looks so beautiful!

    "Guess what? In corpus we HAD SNOW on our first Christmas Day we lived here!"

    OMG, how ironic is that?!?! But I have to say, I've also seen it snow in Orlando, Florida too. It didn't stick, but it definitely snowed.

    Hope you had a fantastic Christmas, Anni! Wishing an awesome 2023!

    X

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  11. Ron, tell Tom I said his photographs ROCK! I love the ones of the surf rushing in along beach. And the flock of seagulls all aligned along the edge of that wave is beautiful. It's like they're flying synchronized!

    Do you know when I love to go to Florida? Either at the very tail end of winter, or the start of spring. Other than that, it's too damn hot and humid. I'm like you, I prefer cold over hot and I really enjoy the winter months. I don't think I could ever live in Florida because it's too much of one thing. But I will say, the beaches are gorgeous.

    "he still keeps the typical "Northeast" way of doing things - FAST, FAST, FAST. Even at my age, I still do everything fast (talk, walk, and grocery shop)." --- I had to laugh at that because it's so true. We do every fast here in the Northeast, don't we? And I'm from NY, so you can imagine how much faster I moved than the people here in Philly when I first arrived. Philly is slow compared to NY. LOL!

    Glad you had a nice Christmas day, Ron. Sounds like ours. We were very low-keyed this year. We never left the house.

    Can you believe it's almost 2023? Where did 2022 go?

    Happy New Year, dear man! xo

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  12. Hi there, Elaine!

    Thanks! Aren't Tom's photos fantastic? The new camera of his takes some REALLY great photographs. The quality is remarkable. I love those seagull photos too! And you're right, they do look like they're flying synchronized!!!

    And I hear you about when to visit Florida because I feel the same. A lot of people ask me why I don't go to Florida during the winter months to get away from the cold. And I'm like, "No way. I savor the winter months, why would I go to Florida?" And going during the summer is the same as it is here -- HOT. And yes, I agree, the beaches in Florida (particularly on the east coast of Florida) are drop dead gorgeous. I was never a west coast Florida lover. I prefer the ocean over the gulf. Although, I do have to say that I loved Tampa.

    "And I'm from NY, so you can imagine how much faster I moved than the people here in Philly when I first arrived. Philly is slow compared to NY. LOL!"

    CRACKED. ME. UP.! So true! Philly is slower than NY, much slower. Which is why I used to LOVE walking in NYC. I once saw something online that someone wrote in a comment forum that said, New Yorkers do not walk too fast: You walk too slow." LOL!

    You know, I think a lot of people this year had low-keyed Christmas days. But hey, there is nothing wrong with that. I know, where did 2022 go???? Just when I got used to writing in on my checks, now I have to remember to write ----- 2023!

    Happy New Year, dear lady!

    Cheers and X!

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  13. Ron, as wonderful as the beach photos that Tom sent are, my preference is the same as yours, cold, cozy and snowy winter weather for Christmas. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen as far as any snow this year. We had bitter cold temps in RI where we spent the holiday with family. We are all “peopled” out and glad to be back home in NH.

    Unfortunately, the forecast here for the next few days is unbelievable with temps approaching 60 degrees and a bit higher on a couple days. Maybe the same is true in Philly? BTW Your Christmas Day sounded like a food one too.

    Best wishes to you for a great year end and see you in 2023 again as I have enjoyed your posts the past year.

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  14. Forgot to add that the year our grandson was born, we spent pre-Christmas and Christmas and New Years in CA and it was definitely different. We also left VA after 12 years because the summer heat and humidity had become too much, and now the temps in NH are warmer than anticipated for winter.

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  15. Morning, D!

    "my preference is the same as yours, cold, cozy and snowy winter weather for Christmas."

    YEEEEEEES! And for me, it makes Christmas feel like Christmas, you know?

    Same here, it was cold (very cold), however, we got no snow. But that's okay, at least it wasn't 78 degrees like one Christmas we had here. It was so warm, I actually saw people on the streets wearing shorts, tank tops and flip-flops, I kid you not.

    "Unfortunately, the forecast here for the next few days is unbelievable with temps approaching 60 degrees and a bit higher on a couple days. Maybe the same is true in Philly? BTW Your Christmas Day sounded like a food one too
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    Yup, the same is true for Philly. I saw on the weather channel that we have a few days next week with 63 degrees. WAY too warm for winter. Funny you mentioned, food, because I made a huge pot of bean and veggie soup, and paired it with olive bread dipped in olive oil. Sooooooooooo good!

    Best wishes to you for a great year end and a faaaaaaaaabulous 2023!

    Cheers and X

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  16. "We also left VA after 12 years because the summer heat and humidity had become too much, and now the temps in NH are warmer than anticipated for winter."

    WOW! Doesn't it blow you away how much the weather has changed?!? And what I find sad is that fall and winter are disappearing, while summer is becoming one big, year-long season.

    I think I need to consider moving to Antarctica. LOL!

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  17. I can certainly appreciate the wonderful photos, and do like that people love where they live! For me though... I'm with you, Ron... rooted right here! A good friend/neighbor moved many years ago to Colorado. She never seemed to like this area. Despite having a bit of everything... Jersey shore, mountain areas, woods, history, and all the wonderful seasons... she couldn't wait to leave. She has a pretty view for sure, but if I hear about her shoveling snow one more time!! Ya know, just too much! I enjoy cold weather... ooh, YES, weren't those recent deep freeze days kinda nice!?... but, it's the distinct seasons we have in this area that are most joyful for me. If we get a year of extra snow, I'm not really loving that so much... or ice! Grrr! It only lasts a little while though and then the Springs blooms are popping up everywhere.
    I sometimes think it would be fun to get away somewhere different for a holiday. Yes, maybe Florida at Christmas would be neat. And there are parts of the country I'd be open to traveling to... seeing the leaves change in New England, the giant redwoods in Cali, the Canyons, etc. At some point, I'd need to get back home though!
    Glad you had a nice Christmas! Hope the NEW YEAR is fabulous for you, for all of us!! xo
    ~Mary

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  18. Mary, the way you expressed your thoughts and feelings in your comment are exactly my own. I think you and I are TRUE, TRUE Northeastern's. And it took me living in Florida foe 20 years to actually see that. Like I said, I thoroughly enjoyed my time in Florida and am grateful for those 20 years. However, I feel "rooted" here -- a deep connection in my soul. I'm so glad I moved back.

    "ooh, YES, weren't those recent deep freeze days kinda nice!?... but, it's the distinct seasons we have in this area that are most joyful for me."

    OMG....I LOVED those recent days too! And I'm hoping we get more. LOL!

    And I do hope we get some snow this winter too. Not a ton, but at a few snowfalls because what I can I say, I'm like a little kid when it snows....I get all excited. My favorite thing to do is to "twirl" around in it as it falls from the sky. Ha!

    Funny you mentioned New England because that's an area I want to visit very much; particularly in the Fall.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, neighbor! Hope the NEW YEAR is fabulous for you too!

    Here's to a blessed 2023!

    Cheers and X

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  19. Ron, being someone from the Northeast but who now lives in South Florida, in as much as I enjoy my life here, I miss MANY things about the Northeast. Mainly, the seasons. And especially Fall and Winter. There is nothing like Christmas in the Northeast. It's just not the same in the Sunshine State. I can so see myself moving back east in the future. I moved here for my job. But now that working from home is so popular in many line of work, I could technically do this ANYWHERE.

    Your brother Tom's photos are fantastic! The quality of cellphone photographs have gotten better better with each passing year.

    And speaking of year, I wish you everything wonderful in 2023! It's been such a joy getting to know you all these years. Love you! xoxox

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  20. GREAT photos, Ron! Tom has a great eye for the camera. Like brother, like brother!

    I enjoy going to a place such as Florida for a vacation towards the end of the winter. However, I can't see myself every living in a place that does not have seasons. Christmas wouldn't seem like Christmas to me (or my girlfriend) without a change in the weather. What I love about the seasons is that as soon as you start getting tired of one, the next one comes along. I like the change.

    Happy New Year, dude! Wishing you all the very best this year. So great knowing you!

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  21. Hola Denise!'

    "There is nothing like Christmas in the Northeast. It's just not the same in the Sunshine State."


    I sooooooooooooo agree! And not just in the Northeast, but anywhere in the States that has the change of seasons. For me, there is something wonderfully gritty, raw and real about this part of the U.S. Perhaps it's the history?

    "I can so see myself moving back east in the future. I moved here for my job. But now that working from home is so popular in many line of work, I could technically do this ANYWHERE."

    Yup, you NEVER know! I know many people who work from home and have relocated to various places, both inside the state and other states.

    Thanks! Aren't his picture great? And I agree, the camera quality in smartphones has gotten just as good as a camera. And they even have various editing effects you can do with the phone. VERY cool!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, Denise! It's been such a joy getting to know you too throughout these years. Wishing you a faaaaaaaaaaaaabulous 2023!

    X

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  22. Our youngest daughter and her husband live in Jacksonville Beach, Florida. Unfortunately, this year, the polar vortex that gripped the midwest in sub-zero temps and wind chills also affected Jax Beach. They actually had to turn on their heat and wrap outside faucets with towels to keep them from freezing in the 25F night temps! There were no trips to the beach this year on Christmas. Of course, when the temps dip into the 60s, they are "soooo cold!" Thank you for showing us the warmth of Florida. The captures are beautiful. Sounds like you had a very cozy Christmas. Ours was white, but too cold to be outside with -30F wind chills. X

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  23. Hey there, Lisa!

    "They actually had to turn on their heat and wrap outside faucets with towels to keep them from freezing in the 25F night temps! "

    Yes, in the 20 years that I lived in both South Florida and Orlando, there were several times during the winter months that the temps dipped that low. In fact, it actually SNOWED (lightly) in Orlando one year.

    "Of course, when the temps dip into the 60s, they are "soooo cold!" Thank you for showing us the warmth of Florida. "

    You said it! One of my friends from Orlando was FREEZING one year when the temps dropped into the high 60s. Of course, she was only wearing spandex shorts and a sports bra when she met me for lunch that afternoon. Ha!

    Hope you had a fantastic holiday season! Thanks so much for stopping by!

    Cheers and X!

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  24. Ron, I'm in total agreement with you. I lived (very briefly) on the Westcoast, and as much as I could appreciate certain things about the area, I never felt as if I belonged there. So I moved back to Chicago and have never been happier. Like you, I feel deeply rooted there.

    Gorgeous photographs from you brother. I've been to Miami (South Beach) many times and really had an awesome time. But I don't think I could live there 365 days a year. I'd miss the change of seasons. And I don't mind the cold and snow of winter.

    Happy New Year, Ron!

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  25. Hello there, Clair!

    Ironic you mentioned the Westcoast because I spent some time there when I was traveling as a stage actor. I thought is was absolutely beautiful and understood why people love it. However, I never felt like I ever wanted to live there.

    I've never been to Chicago, but always hear that it's such a great city. And I think I would enjoy the weather because I know it gets VERY cold there in the winter. But I wouldn't mind it at all.

    I LOVED spending time in South Beach too. I used to go to several nightclubs there, during my partying days! LOL!

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, my friend. Happy New Year!

    Cheers and X

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  26. Yes, I am with you. I tend to be optimistic about everything! Yet a realist 'cause I know, good or bad, the outcome has a purpose. Emotions are a state of mind. If I would drag myself down with something I don't enjoy, it harms the inner self. But!!! Then again, from down, there is always the climb UP.

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  27. Morning, Anni!

    " I tend to be optimistic about everything! Yet a realist 'cause I know, good or bad, the outcome has a purpose."

    Yup, I could tell from blogging with you over the years that you're an optimist! And I agree, good or bad, the outcome has purpose. We don't always see that while it's happening, but it's revealed to us eventually.

    You have a awesome (and healthy) way of looking at things, my friend! Cheers!

    Thanks for stopping by and sharing your insight!

    X

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  28. Ron, what an uplifting and inspiring post! I will be sharing this with others on FB. I love what you shared about how joyfulness comes from being grateful. It most certainly does. Like you said, it's not possible to be happy 24/7 because real life is not always happy.

    I would said that I'm a half full/optimistic person as well. Sure, I get down now and then. But I don't stay down. I'm able to move forward and use whatever got me down to grow.

    I love the quote you shared! I read somewhere that change is the only constant in our lives. So, why not DANCE with it? Brilliant!

    Thank you for sharing, Ron! xo

    *I don't make resolutions either.

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  29. " Rather, I make the intention that whatever happens; I will embrace the change that comes into my life throughout the new year. "

    Ron, I think that's awesome! Resolutions never work for me because I end up putting all this pressure on myself to attain them and then feel bad about myself when I don't. LOL! It's much more productive (and healthier) to just allow the new year to take you where you need to go and learn from it.

    When I was younger, I used to be more of a pessimist because to be honest, my father was that way. He always anticipated the worst. But as I got older and was able to form my own way of seeing life, I became more of an optimist. And you're right, optimism doesn't mean you're not a realist. You can look at something honestly, but also see what you can do to make the best of it.

    Thank you for sharing your optimism, Ron!

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  30. Greetings, Candice!

    Glad you enjoyed. I've been thinking about this topic for the past several weeks, so I decided to share my own thoughts. Someone at work said something to me about how was it that I ALWAYS seem happy, and don't I ever have a bad day? And I said, no...I'm not always happy and yes...I do have off days. But my off days don't last long. I can get upset about something, but then once I express it, I'm done. I don't hang on to things.

    "I would said that I'm a half full/optimistic person as well. Sure, I get down now and then. But I don't stay down. I'm able to move forward and use whatever got me down to grow."

    BRAVO!

    Isn't the quote fabulous? I found it online several days ago and decided to use it for this post because it was perfect. I've always believed that life is a dance - sometimes you lead, and other times you follow.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, Candice! have terrific week!

    X

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  31. Helloooooooooooo there, Daniel!

    "Resolutions never work for me because I end up putting all this pressure on myself to attain them and then feel bad about myself when I don't. LOL!"

    HA! My feelings exactly! I've learned (for my own life), to allow my life to take me where I need to go and learn from it. If I can change something, I will. But if I can't, I change my attitude about it. Either way, change is always teaching me something.

    "When I was younger, I used to be more of a pessimist because to be honest, my father was that way. He always anticipated the worst. But as I got older and was able to form my own way of seeing life, I became more of an optimist."


    That's awesome! And I admire you for that!

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your input on this topic. Muchly appreciated!

    Have a grrrrrreat week!

    X

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  32. Ron, I'm right there with you! I, too, tend to be optimistic (yet I'm not Little Debbie Sunshine -- I realize that bad things *do* happen -- we just need to accept what we can and change what we can). I attribute a lot of my attitude, as you do yours, to gratitude. I have sooo much to be thankful for. Sure, I've faced my share of heartaches, but life isn't perfect (and the sooner we learn to roll with the punches, the better off we are).



    I also attribute my attitude toward my faith. I won't get all preachy on you, but faith is extremely important to me and colors my outlook. As I'm sure you have, I've been around people who are always looking on the dark side of things -- and they're so depressing that I avoid them when I can! I just don't feel called to drag people out of the "gloom and doom" they seem to want to wallow in!


    A most interesting post, my friend. Thank you for penning it! xx

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  33. Thank you, Ron! And I admire you too!

    Listen, I totally forgot to mention in my previous comment about seeing your recently watched movie on the sidebar of your blog was, The Menu. Wasn't it incredible? I saw it over the weekend and was instantly drawn in from the moment the film started. I had no idea where the story was going. I was totally floored by how the movie ended. The whole cast was so good in their roles. Ralph Fiennes gave me CHILLS, he was so creepy! Excellent thriller!

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  34. OMG....yes...it was an EXCELLENT thriller! It was recommended to me by a woman I work with and decided to watch it Sunday night. Like you, it instantly drew me in. And yes, Ralph Fiennes was freaking amazingly creepy! His character reminded me very much like Hannibal Lecter in "Silence of the Lambs." I found myself all through the film, so irritated by not only his character, but all of the characters because they were all so passive about doing anything. The only one who had any courage and gumption was the girl who came to the dinner with that young guy. And I LOVED the ending!

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  35. Hellooooooooooooo there, Debbie!

    LOVED your input on this topic! You're right, bad things DO happen, we just to to accept what we can and change what we can, and learn from it. Like you said, we need to learn to roll with the punches because they are inevitably going to happen; not once, but all through our lives.

    "I also attribute my attitude toward my faith. I won't get all preachy on you, but faith is extremely important to me and colors my outlook."

    OMG, I TOTALLY agree with you. I attribute my attitude toward my faith as well. Without faith, I couldn't do it. That's where I get my strength. I don't have any ONE particular faith (religion) I follow, however, I definitely have a strong faith in a Higher Power.

    "I've been around people who are always looking on the dark side of things -- and they're so depressing that I avoid them when I can! I just don't feel called to drag people out of the "gloom and doom" they seem to want to wallow in!"

    Ditto! And I disassociate myself with those people, because like you said, they wallow in it. I'm not at all insensitive to other people's hardships and challenges, but if all they want to do is talk about it over and over and over again, and drag others down, I won't be a part of that.

    Much thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic, my friend. You've added much!

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  36. Happy New Year to you as well, Ron, and thanks for sharing what is so true in that life is not always happy. I hope that there are more happy moments for all of us this year.

    I too have moments of impatience, sometimes more often than not. Taking the time to breathe and calm down always helps me de-stress.

    No resolutions for me but I have made a list of a few goals.

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  37. Hey there, D!

    Me too! I hope there are more happy moments for all of us in 2023!

    "I too have moments of impatience, sometimes more often than not. Taking the time to breathe and calm down always helps me de-stress."


    That's awesome! Isn't it something how when we pause and take a moment to concentrate on our breathing, it helps tremendously to calm ourselves? I learned that through working in the theater when I used to get VERY nervous before a performance.

    The best to you in 2023 and your goals! Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

    Have a fantastic week!

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  38. Good morning, Ron! I rely on my sidebar to give me updated posts and it's still showing 'Christmas In Florida' as your latest one. When it comes to any technology... that glass is half empty and filled with chunky milk and I'm going to throw it out the back door where it'll shatter into a hundred pieces …but then I’ll have to go out there and clean it all up so no one cuts their foot, or paw. Does that answer your question? Happy Schmappy. *eye roll* HAHAHA!
    
So my real answer is that I am a bit of both. Like you, there are definitely moments of anger/frustration which makes me temporarily unhappy. There are also lots of days I feel the joys of life, and am thankful to be part of the whole mystery of it. And, yes, very grateful too. But, other days I feel fearful, almost dread, about certain situations. I can usually distract myself from the heavier thoughts, but they do return, and that I'm sure has to do with an imbalance of inner peace, the mind trying to play its tricks. Eh, still really trying to figure a lot of things out. Work in progress. ;) Even on the rough days, my good sense of humor is still in tact. I do like to laugh!! I usually try to maintain a more upbeat mood when blogging, or posting to FB, with occasional rants in between.
    Have a nice day!!

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  39. "As each new year approaches, I'm not one to make resolutions. Rather, I make the intention that whatever happens; I will embrace the change that comes into my life throughout the new year."

    God, I love that!

    Ron, this post could not have come at a better time because I've been struggling with a change in my life. I know deep down it's time to change yet, I've been resisting out of fear. Has that ever happened to you?

    I would have to say that I am 99% optimist and tend to see my glass as half full. Once in a while, however, that 1% pessimism will sneak in whenever I sense a big change. And that's because I doubt myself.

    I LOVE the photo and quote you shared. In fact, I downloaded it onto my compute and plan on making several prints and hangs them in every room in my apartment and desk at work, as a reminder. LOL!

    Thank you for sharing your light, Ron! I learn a lot from you. xo

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  40. Goooood morning, Mary!

    Yes, I noticed that for some reason, my post didn't update on Blogger's feed. It also didn't update on Feedly either. I don't know what's up with that?!?

    HA! Your Happy Schmappy made me laugh because it's so true. That's why I said that there is no way in hell I am ALWAYS happy. But what I am able to do, is focus my thoughts on the many things I am grateful for. And that seems to get me through the tough times. And trust me, I've been through a great deal of tough times in my life when I was scared shitless. Like, when I was in the hospital for 2 weeks (in 2015) having my left lung drained of fluid and had infections all throughout my body. I was never so sick in my entire life. Nor, did I ever feel so vulnerable and fearful. The only thing that got me through that was focusing on the positives in my life, and also asking myself, "What am learning from this?"

    Was I happy? No. But what choice did I have other than embracing it and remaining optimistic. And I learned a lot from that experience.

    I too am a work in progress, for sure.

    "Even on the rough days, my good sense of humor is still in tact. I do like to laugh!! "

    That's AWESOME! Humor is the BEST medicine!

    Thanks ever so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic. You've added much!

    Have a faaaaaaaaaabulous day, my friend!

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  41. Hola Denise!

    OMG yes, that has happened to me a lot! Change scares the shit out of me because you never know where it's going to take you. I'm actually a very fearful person. I fear many things. However, I knew at a very young age that fear would be my greatest teacher. And it has. I don't like being afraid, so I walk through it. When I was acting in the theater for all those years, it scared the bejesus out of me right before I stepped out onstage every night. So yeah, I get fearful too.

    And like you, it's because I doubt myself.

    "I LOVE the photo and quote you shared. In fact, I downloaded it onto my compute and plan on making several prints and hangs them in every room in my apartment and desk at work, as a reminder. LOL!"


    That's a GREAT idea! Isn't it a fabulous quote? And the photo goes perfect with it. I found it online.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your honesty on this post. I really appreciate that!

    Have a terrific week, my friend!

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  42. Oh, yes, I do remember that time you were so sick and in the hospital. ((HUG)) You found a way to focus, learn, and heal. I'm thankful for that, and you!! xo

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  43. I'm thankful for you too, my friend! 🙌💚

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  44. Thanks for your honesty, Ron! I have to remember, like you, to walk through my fears. X

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  45. I like your thoughts and found so much of what you said to be very relatable. I’m very direct as well, and it’s gotten me in trouble a few times, both at work and at home. As you said, it’s something that as we age, we work on. Part of me still feels as though I don’t want to lie or cover up my real feelings! It’s a fine line.

    Gratitude is definitely the name of the game. I’ve been practicing it at night before I fall asleep. I thank God for things like flannel sheets in the winter and a pillow that’s actually comfortable (I have pillow issues- Lol!). And I swear to you, I sleep better after gratitude!

    Being joyful can be difficult. I remember feeling so much joy in college and people commenting on it. One guy friend swore I was a high school cheerleader, even though I denied it (good grief, I can’t even do a cartwheel!) I think it was just my attitude. Unfortunately, I’ve lost that. I think life can wear you down, especially thinking about how many lousy people there are in the world.

    Thanks for reminding me that the glass is half full and to focus on joy. XO

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  46. I love how you said this because it's so true....

    " I’m very direct as well, and it’s gotten me in trouble a few times, both at work and at home. As you said, it’s something that as we age, we work on. Part of me still feels as though I don’t want to lie or cover up my real feelings! It’s a fine line."

    I won't lie or cover up my real feelings either. Like you said, it's a fine line. But I would rather be that way than cover up my feelings until I explode.

    "I’ve been practicing it at night before I fall asleep. I thank God for things like flannel sheets in the winter and a pillow that’s actually comfortable (I have pillow issues- Lol!). And I swear to you, I sleep better after gratitude!"

    OMG, I LOVE that!!!!!! And I believe you, I bet you do sleep better after gratitude. I my gratitude affirmation is in the morning, before I get out of bed. Isn't it something how just feeling grateful for the small things (like flannel sheets and a comfortable pillow), you feel like a millionaire?

    "I remember feeling so much joy in college and people commenting on it. One guy friend swore I was a high school cheerleader, even though I denied it (good grief, I can’t even do a cartwheel!) I think it was just my attitude."

    SAME with me! In fact, I've had people actually get annoyed with me because of my joyfulness and say, "Why are you always so damn cheerful?" And I'm like, "WTF?!?!"

    True, life does have a way of wearing you down at times; challenging your ability to remain joyful, I totally understand that.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic. Always a joy to read your comments, my friend!

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  47. Yes, to joy! Every morning over the last two years, especially since the outbreak of the pandemic, I have learned to write down what I am grateful for. It may seem simplistic, but it has changed my perspective on everything. It's not just the small details; it's everything.

    "I refuse to see things as random." YES!

    YES! I believe we were destined to meet. I'm so glad I discovered your blog via Bijoux.

    Here's to the dance! 😘❤️

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  48. Hi there, Kari!

    " Every morning over the last two years, especially since the outbreak of the pandemic, I have learned to write down what I am grateful for. It may seem simplistic, but it has changed my perspective on everything. It's not just the small details; it's everything."


    LOVED every word you shared! And I'm with you, especially since the outbreak of the pandemic (and the lockdown), it taught me so much about focusing on the things in my life to be grateful for. And there are so many!

    "YES! I believe we were destined to meet. I'm so glad I discovered your blog via Bijoux."


    Ditto, my friend!

    Here's to the dance!

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  49. Your optimistic joyfulness is something I've always admired about you. I try, but there have been many circumstances that seem to just suck the joy right out of me these past few years. I do find myself making a list of things in which to be thankful to try and redirect my funk. Glass half full or half empty? Neither.....the point is the glass is refillable....with wine!!! 🤣 I chose my One Word again for this year instead of making resolution. It's Purpose. I've missed seeing you at my place and on Insta so I'm always happy to see a new post from you here to make sure you are still kicking' it! Hope 2023 is treating you well. X

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  50. Lisa, this made me laugh out loud...

    "Glass half full or half empty? Neither.....the point is the glass is refillable....with wine!!!"

    Brilliant! And yes, I've read online other people who have said that the glass is neither half full or half empty, it's refillable.

    "I try, but there have been many circumstances that seem to just suck the joy right out of me these past few years. I do find myself making a list of things in which to be thankful to try and redirect my funk."

    I hear you! These past few years have been very trying on personal levels for people, and also the political landscape world-wide. I made a pack with myself last year to no longer watch the news because it only feeds into all the drama and perpetuates fear. And I have to say that not having watched the news for a whole year, I feel as though I can come to my own conclusions about what's going on in the world by simply observing the world, without having the news program me to think the way they want me to think. And it's all the news stations that are doing that.

    LOVE your word for this year....PURPOSE!

    Hope 2023 is treating you well too! Thanks for stopping by!

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  51. Ron, your words here are proof-positive that it's all in how we choose to perceive things and place our attention that's makes our life half full or half empty/ optimistic or pessimistic.

    You're right, we can't always be happy. But we can certainly choose to be grateful.

    Thank you for this, Ron!

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  52. Good morning, Clair!

    Yes!!!!! It IS all in how we choose to perceive things and where we place our attention.

    I remember watching an interview with actor Michael Caine, who said that he lives by a saying he learned from a director who once directed him in a stage play. Caine was having difficulty with a scene and didn't know how to get around it. The director said to him, "Use the difficulty!" Since then, he uses that saying in his personal life. If something bad happens to him, he uses that difficulty to LEARN and GROW from it.

    I thought that was brilliant!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, and sharing your thoughts. Appreciate it!

    Hope you're having a great weekend!

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  53. "Rather, I make the intention that whatever happens; I will embrace the change that comes into my life throughout the new year. "

    Ron, that's going to be my NEW New Year's intention. I love it! In the past, I tried resolutions and always found it not very productive because I put so much pressure on myself to fulfill them. Your way is much more productive and healthier.

    And how true you are in saying that real life is not always happy. People seem to try and avoid change, but it's inevitable. And I think when we avoid it, it makes it harder to see what the purpose of the change.

    And yes, gratitude is the key! "“It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful."

    Thank you for sharing your journey, Ron. In sharing, we all learn from each other.

    Have a great week! xoxo

    P.S. I know you're enjoying this cold snap. I am!

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  54. "And yes, gratitude is the key! "“It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful."

    Elaine, I freaking LOVE that! What an inspiring quote! And I agree!

    Me too. In the past, I tried resolutions and I always fell of the wagon and then felt guilty for doing so and then felt worst. For me, it's more productive to allow my life to take me where I need to go and learn through the journey. I realize that I don't always know what's best for me. I might think I do, but my past experiences have shown me that if simply move with the changes that occur, the changes take me to each path.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, feelings, and quote, my friend.

    And yesiree...I am so enjoying this cold snap. I'm just waiting for our first snowfall!

    Have a FAB week!

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  55. Happy New Year, Ron!

    You're right, no one can be happy all the time. It's impossible with life. Always a curve ball. Sometimes you can duck or swerve, other times it hits you between the eyes. And I think it's how we handle those between the eyes curve balls that show our resilience.

    I've always been impatient and easy to anger. Curbing those tendencies has been tough. At 57, I can say I am a bit more reserved, patient and quiet! When I was young, I believed that everything that came into my head had to come out my mouth! How arrogant of me! Not everyone wants MY opinion. So I've learned to just keep it to myself. It has been challenging!!

    But being optimistic doesn't mean that I'm not a realist. I am. I see things for what they are. I don't lie to myself. Yet, even in darkness, I can stay hopeful and confident that whatever the outcome; not only will I survive, but I will blossom. I refuse to see things as random. I think everything that happens to me happens for a reason. And that includes the dark stuff.

    I'm not an optimist. But I am a realist for sure. And I don't lie to myself either. Those can be the worst lies. In my darkest times, I wasn't very hopeful but I did come out the other end and am better for it. And I've always said "Everything happens for a reason". We just sometimes don't know what that reason is!

    I love your motto: As each new year approaches, I'm not one to make resolutions. Rather, I make the intention that whatever happens; I will embrace the change that comes into my life throughout the new year.

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  56. HAPPPY NEW YEAR, PAM!

    So great to see your comment!

    You're spot on about this...

    "And I think it's how we handle those between the eyes curve balls that show our resilience."

    YES! And for me, it's looking for what those curve balls teach me, which is not always easy to see at first. But eventually I DO see them.

    "So I've learned to just keep it to myself. It has been challenging!!"

    Me too! Now I wait to hear a "question mark" before give my opinion because sometimes people have to work things out on their own without other people giving them "their" opinion.

    " Those can be the worst lies"

    SO TRUE!

    And like you said, we don't always know what the reasons are when dark times hit us. But we CAN come out the other end and be better for it. And I truly believe that.

    Thanks SO MUCH for stopping and sharing your insight on this topic, my friend! You've added much!

    Wishing you and your family a FANTABULOUS 202!

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  57. i don't know. half full is positive and half empty is negative? i'm a positive person, so i guess i'm half full type of person. truthfully, i'm just happy i have a "cup". ;)

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  58. Yes, Val, I would DEFINITELY say you're half-full because you're a very up and optimistic person.

    "truthfully, i'm just happy i have a "cup". ;)"

    LOVED that!!!!!

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