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The longer I live, the more I am in awe of motherhood.

As most of you already know, I have been blessed by the grace of two mothers.

My biological mother passed away at 40, at which time I was 5-years old. She left behind a husband and three young children. About two years later, my father met and started dating a very special woman, who eventually became my second mother. She passed away in 2012. 

My stepmother and I had a very close and special bond. We both believed in reincarnation, so we used to kid around about knowing each other from a past life because our relationship was so comfortable and familiar. It was as if the Universe brought us together again. Same souls; different scenario. 

Having had a second mother allowed me to see that the vocation of motherhood does not always come from giving physical birth.

It comes from a woman’s desire to give life.

Both women were my mother. Because they each played a major part in my life at different times. 

One brought me into this world. The other carried me through it. 

And I will be forever grateful.

Mary and Ann-


I would like to conclude this post by sharing a poem I found on an adoption agency website. I stumbled upon it while Googling poems about Mother's Day. And after reading these beautiful words, I realized they could actually pertain to ALL of us who have been blessed with two mothers. Whether it be through adoption, or through having lost our biological mother; the feeling behind the words pertains to the same thing….love.

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Legacy of Two Mothers

Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One, my darling, is your birth mom, and the other is your mother.

Two different lives, shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star; the other became your sun.

The first gave you life, and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love, and the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality; the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent, the other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions; the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile; the other dried your tears.

One chose adoption. It was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me through your tears,
The age-old question through the years.

Heredity or environment, which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling, neither.

Just two different kinds of love.

~Author Unknown~

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I wish everyone of you, who are mothers, a very HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

And please know that you are loved and appreciated...💗


22 comments:

  1. Ron, I have to first say that BOTH your mother's were such beautiful women. And second, I could feel your love for them through the energy in your words. I didn't know that you had two mother's and that one died so young. I'm sure it was very difficult for both your father and your siblings. Your stepmother sounded like such a special lady. And how wonderful you both had such a strong connection.

    I agree, motherhood doesn't always mean giving birth. Motherhood comes is so many forms. A friend of mine was adopted and she and her parents (much like you) have such a strong and powerful bond.

    I'm going to share that poem with her because I know she would love it.

    Beautiful tribute to motherhood, Ron! xox

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  2. Boy, did this ever bring tears to my eyes, Ron! Like Candice, I didn't know about your two mothers. And I'm so glad you shared it here today. They say the loss of a child is the hardest. However, I think the loss of a parent, especially at such a young age, is equally as hard. I'm very close to my mother as well. We can tell each other anything because our love in unconditional.

    Your mother's look like movie stars. They are equally beautiful and elegant. I remember the photos you shared in a previous post of your parents wedding day. I immediately thought you looked so much like your father. But after seeing the single photo of your mother, I think you look a lot like her as well. You got the best of both!

    "Heredity or environment, which are you the product of?
    Neither, my darling, neither.

    Just two different kinds of love." --- That sums it up perfectly!

    Thanks for sharing, Ron! I'm sure your mother's are smiling right now.

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  3. Good morning, Candice!

    Thank you. They were beautiful, weren't they? They looked completely different yet, they both had the same beautiful, loving heart.

    Yes, it was very difficult for my father and siblings. It felt like the family unit fell apart. However, my stepmother was like an angel who came in and brought it back together again. She was indeed very special!

    "I agree, motherhood doesn't always mean giving birth. Motherhood comes is so many forms. A friend of mine was adopted and she and her parents (much like you) have such a strong and powerful bond."

    That's awesome! I've always believed that "family" doesn't always come from blood. It comes from a knowingness that you are a family.

    Thanks so much for stopping by this morning, Candice. Have a fantastic weekend!

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  4. Hi, Daniel!

    Most of my longtime blogging friends know about having had two mother's because throughout the years, I've posted about it, particularly around Mother's Day.

    "They say the loss of a child is the hardest. However, I think the loss of a parent, especially at such a young age, is equally as hard. "

    I agree. And even though I'm not a parent myself, I cannot even imagine the pain of a parent losing a child. I've often thought of how my mother felt, knowing that she would be leaving her children because to her, it must have felt as if she was losing her children as well.

    It's funny because whenever someone would meet me after meeting my father, they would always say I looked exactly like him. However, after meeting my mother, people would say I looked exactly like her. LOL! I think I looked like my father from the nose up, and my mother from the nose down.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and for your sweet words, Daniel. Have a great rest of your week and weekend!

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  5. Thank you, Ron. What a great poem. I know quite a few women who are mothers to adopted children, as they were never able to bear children. The hardship they went through to get those children . . . I’m in awe of that!

    Both of your mothers are beautiful and I’m so glad you had such a close relationship with your second mom. I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts about her. I’m sure you’ll be thinking of her all weekend. ❤️

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  6. Isn't that poem beautiful? When I read it, I immediately thought of how it could pertain to both. The words spoke to me.

    "I know quite a few women who are mothers to adopted children, as they were never able to bear children. The hardship they went through to get those children . . . I’m in awe of that!"


    I'm in AWE as well; especially in knowing how hard it is to go through an adoption. I applaud them!

    'Both of your mothers are beautiful and I’m so glad you had such a close relationship with your second mom."


    I've been thinking a lot about both my mother's lately, which is why I felt the desire to share this post. I will be forever grateful to both of them .

    Always great to read your comments, my friend. Wishing you a faaaaaaaaaaabulous Mother's Day!

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  7. Ron, your post hit home for me because I also lost my mom at a young age. I was 11 years old at the time. My father stayed single for many, many years, but then remarried. She's a lovely woman, who I feel is the perfect match for my father. She and I get along very well. Much like close sisters. And that's wonderful because I'm an only child, who now has both a mother AND a sister.

    "It was as if the Universe brought us together again. Same souls; different scenario."

    By the way, I also believe in reincarnation. I always thought it made sense. A soul never dies, it simply recycles in a different physical form.

    Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your life. You mother's were stunning!

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  8. Good morning, Clair!

    Your first paragraph made me smile with joy! How fabulous is it that you also bonded so closely with your stepmother.

    "Much like close sisters. And that's wonderful because I'm an only child, who now has both a mother AND a sister."


    That's AWESOME!!!!!!

    And I also love what you shared about reincarnation...."I always thought it made sense. A soul never dies, it simply recycles in a different physical form." ....my feelings exactly! And I think our lives intersect with people who we know/knew from past live and work things out in the present lifetime. I've never believe that this lifetime is the only lifetime we get.

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by and sharing your story. I really appreciate that!

    Have a wonderful rest of your week and weekend!

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  9. Ron, I TOTALLY agree with you -- " And I think our lives intersect with people who we know/knew from past lives and work things out in the present lifetime. I've never believe that this lifetime is the only lifetime we get."

    To me, reincarnation seems completely natural.

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  10. Meeeee too! 👍 Completely natural!

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  11. What a lovely post, Ron! And yes, that poem speaks volumes. You are indeed blessed to have had TWO such special, beautiful women to call "mother."


    Too often, mothers are the ones people point fingers at and blame for how a child turns out. This, despite how much they loved them, nurtured them, instructed them, were present to them. I find that sad. I mean, none of us chose our mothers (nor did they choose us!), and forgiving the mistakes of the past is the only way to have a balanced present, to my way of thinking.


    Happy Mother's Day to your two moms in Heaven, my friend. And here's hoping your weekend will be extra-special! xx

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  12. " I find that sad. I mean, none of us chose our mothers (nor did they choose us!), and forgiving the mistakes of the past is the only way to have a balanced present, to my way of thinking."

    Debbie, I agree with you 100%! Parenting does not come with a manual. And every child is different; therefore, every child has his/her own path.

    Looking back, I blame my parents for nothing. Every choice they made (positive or negative) was a choice that "I" was supposed to learn from. I'm so sick of hearing children blaming their parents for the choices they made. As well as other people who blame either the mother or father, (or both). for the way a child turns out.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, and for your sweet words, dear friend. Wishing you a faaaaaaaabulously Happy Mother's Day!

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  13. I love that you had two mothers. It makes sense that you are such a gentle and loving soul.
    That poem is lovely and so true. There are so many different types of mothers in the world.

    I'm sending you a lot of love, my friend. Thank you for another lovely post. This Sunday, I'll be thinking of you and your mothers. 💕😘

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  14. Hey there, Kari!

    I feel sooooooooooooooooo incredibly blessed to not only have had two mother's. But those two mother's. And even know, I can still feel their love and presence around me.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, and for your sweet, kind words.

    Happy Mother's Day, dear friend!

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  15. Beautiful tribute to not only motherhood, but your two mothers as well!

    " motherhood does not always come from giving physical birth.

    It comes from a woman’s desire to give life." I so agree!

    Happy Mother's Day, Ron!

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  16. Thank you, Matt! I feel extremely blessed to have had these two lovely ladies as my mothers.

    Happy Mother's Day, my friend!

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  17. Ron, for as long as I've known you, whenever you speak of your mother(s), the bond and love you shared is so evident.

    My sister-in-law and her husband adopted a child, so that poem really hit home for me. This part brought tears to my eyes -- "One chose adoption. It was all that she could do. The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you."

    I will be sending her this post to read. She'll LOVE it!

    Thank you for you Happy Mother's Day wish, dear man. I'll be thinking of your today! xoxoxoxo

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  18. Gooooood moring, Elaine!

    Thank you for your sweet words.

    Isn't the poem lovely? As soon as I read it, I knew I wanted to share it on my Mother's Day post this year.

    Sending love to you (and your sister-in-law) today. So happy to hear she adopted!!!

    Happy Mother's Day, my friend!

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  19. Ron, I love whenever you post about your mother because the love, admiration, and closeness you shared just jumps off the page! I remember back in 2012 when she passed away and how you shared the journey with us who read your blog. I cannot believe it's been eleven years. It seems like yesterday.

    The photo collage of your mother's is so beautiful. They both had such loving, caring eyes.

    Beautiful tribute, Ron! Sending you much love. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  20. Hola Denise!

    Thank you for your kind words. You're a sweetheart.

    "I remember back in 2012 when she passed away and how you shared the journey with us who read your blog. I cannot believe it's been eleven years. It seems like yesterday."

    I know, can you believe that?!?! A close friend of my who lives in Jersey, and who reads my blog, said the same thing. She's couldn't believe my mother passed away in 2012 because it seemed not that long ago.

    I feel so blessed to have had those two ladies as my mother. I think of them as angels that were sent to me.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend. Happy Monday!

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  21. Hi, new to your blog. Wanted to leave a comment to let you know how much enjoyed this post. Your mother's were so beautiful. And from your words, Ann was meant to be your mother. I believe in reincarnation too.

    May I ask, being that you were so young, do you remember much about your biological mother? My husbands father died when he was very young as well, and he has a hard time recalling specific moments with his father.

    You have a really nice blog. I'll be back.

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  22. Greetings, Abby!

    Welcome, and thanks so much for stopping by and leaving your comment.

    Yes, I truly believe that. And do did she. We both felt on some deep level that we were meant to be mother and son. In fact she always said that I was hers; meaning, if was as if I was her biological son. And I felt the same about her.

    No, I don't remember specific moments with my biological mother, but what I DO recall is how close we were. My father said that I was always by her side. He said that I was like her protector. I have photos of she and I together when I was a baby and small boy.

    Thanks again for stopping by. Nice to meet you!

    Have a great week!

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