Life....it's full of surprises

Last week, I read an awesome post that was both humorous and extremely thought-provoking.

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Her post really stuck with me throughout the weekend, inspiring me to elaborate a little more on my own feelings regarding this topic.

So, thank you Brit!

Basically, what she shared was that it seems that no matter how much we may sometimes dream and plan for our lives, life will unavoidably give us surprises; changing our dreams and plans.

She said, “If you think about it, life is nothing, but a series of surprises.”

Then asked, “So, is it dangerous to dream? And is our happiness measured by the achievement of dreams, or plans? Or is the destruction of our dreams the way we truly live and grow? And if broken dreams are inevitable, how do we maintain happiness amid the constant challenge of rebuilding?”

I shared with her in my comment that I (for my own life) believe in destiny; knowing my life has already been designed on a higher level. But that dreaming and planning are valuable, because if I didn’t dream, plan or make choices, then I would never take action in discovering my destiny.

And this is where I think surprises come in.

I believe the surprises that my life gives me are the surprises I am meant to experience, because they are actually part of my destiny. Some of these surprises may take my life down a different path than what I had dreamed or planned; causing it to change. And as challenging as some changes have been in my life, these same changes eventually made me realize that THIS was where my life was suppose to go. And once I relaxed into these changes….I noticed that I grew in some way. I found that the challenge was not in rebuilding my life, but rather in accepting it for exactly where these surprises took me.

And quite often, my surprises ended up making me much happier and more fulfilled than what I had imagined for myself.

Therefore, I don’t believe my dreams and plans are ever destroyed.

They just naturally shift, as I grow.

Following my destiny……

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  1. Thoroughly enjoyed your rationalisation and, guess what, I agree with everything you said. I have never looked too deeply into the way my life panned out but I did always rise to the occasion and accept a challenge when it was offered. Have a pleasant day.

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  2. We "evolve" as we reach our destiny. I love the way you put this Ron. It is all in finding the estraordinary in the ordinary. I love this post...what you say and the way you say it. Kudos!

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  3. You and I think alike Ron!

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  4. Life is the suprise of getting what we think about. Life comes at us, to us and for us to grow learn and teach. When we love the suprises in life then we love the life full of suprises.
    The suprise is always a present to us; a gift so when you live in the present you live in the gift that has been given to you. There are times when the suprise is hard to handle but when you learn the reason for the suprise then it is a little less bothersome. Treat all things with love it is the gift wrap on the present.

    Namaste

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  5. Hi Ron - I did pop over there to read it and agree it was extremely thought provoking.

    I happen to believe in a perfect blend of destiny and sheer accident. There is beauty in both and life lessons to be gained from any experience.

    I like your perspective, the way you explain growing into your life and finding that balance with the lives of those on either side of you.

    Yes, I do like that. Thanks for sharing! :)

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  6. I tend to agree, that our lives were designed on a higher level but I also think we have free will do different things within that life to get us to where we need to go as humans and maybe our choices make the time here harder or easier. Some dream and plan more than others. Some might serve their purpose before others. A surprise may be a pleasant reward or it could be a devastating consequence. Who really knows?
    Thought provoking topic today, Ron. I really can't add any more until I've had some Starbucks. LOL
    Have a fabulous week.

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  7. Good Morning Valerie~

    "I have never looked too deeply into the way my life panned out but I did always rise to the occasion and accept a challenge when it was offered."

    Brava, dear lady!

    acceptance.....that's it! And as challenging as that can be, it has always brought me to a place of greater discovery.

    Thank you for stopping by and sharing on this post. You've added much!

    Have a wonderful week!

    X

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  8. Good Morning SuzieCate~

    "It is all in finding the extraordinary in the ordinary."

    OMG....I LOVE THAT!!!! Because it's sooooooo true! And isn't amazing how the surprises take us there?

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by today, Suzie! You've added much!

    Happy Monday, dear lady!

    X

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  9. Good Morning Akelamalu~

    ((((( M'dear )))))

    Thanks for stopping by today.

    Have a wonderful week!

    X

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  10. Good Morning Dave~

    "When we love the suprises in life then we love the life full of suprises."

    OMG...I freakin' LOVE how you said that! And it's TRUE!

    "The suprise is always a present to us; a gift so when you live in the present you live in the gift that has been given to you."

    THANK YOU for sharing that because I truly believe that's the key...

    ...living in the present moment.

    "Treat all things with love it is the gift wrap on the present."

    Thank you for stopping, buddy. Once again, you've added so much!

    Have a wonderful week!

    Namaste
    X

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  11. Good Morning Diane~

    I'm sooooooooo glad you popped by and read her post. Wasn't it awesome??? She's such a gifted lady. She mixes humor with deep thought.

    "I happen to believe in a perfect blend of destiny and sheer accident. There is beauty in both and life lessons to be gained from any experience.'

    You said it! And it's in the unexpected accidents (surprises) that I find the most wonderful discoveries for my life. They can be challenging at times, yes, but looking back I see them as growth highlights.

    Thank you so much for stopping by and adding your thoughts and feelings to this post!

    Always enjoyed a apppreciated!

    Have a wonderful week!

    X

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  12. Gooood Morning Crystal Chick~

    "I really can't add any more until I've had some Starbucks. LOL"

    You've added MUCH to this post, my friend!

    "but I also think we have free will do different things within that life to get us to where we need to go as humans."

    Absolutely! Believing in destiny does not mean not having a free will. Actually, believing in destiny means I make choices in discovering my destiny.

    It's a dance, sometimes I lead and then other times I follow.

    "A surprise may be a pleasant reward or it could be a devastating consequence."

    Yup....and each surprise teaching me something as I discover my destiny.

    Thanks sooooooooooooo much for stopping by, M!

    I always enjoy our shares!

    Have a SUPER week!

    X

    P.S. hasn't this break in the heat been faaaaaabulous?

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  13. Ron if I have learned nothing else this year it is that life is full of surprises...which occur every minute of every day. We can only control some things in our lives and must accept that most is out of our hands...whether it is destiny or just life itself. Regardless, it is the way we deal with life's surprises that either make us happy or sad. Some of life's surprises are wonderful and some are not. But in any event, I will take whatever my life has to offer because it is unique and mine. Plus, I really don't have any choice. As far as I am concerned I would rather be here than somewhere else...living, loving and learning every day!

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  14. Ron, this post so resonated with me that my comment went on and on and on. So long, that I decided to make a post of it tonight instead. I love the delicious ways in which your posts inspire me.
    xoxo

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  15. Hello Grandmother Crone!

    Ooooo....ooooo....I can't WAIT to read your post!!!!

    You GO, girl!

    Thanks oddles for stopping by!

    LOVE your presence here!

    Have a super day!

    X

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  16. Helloooooooo Susie~

    Thank you! Thank you for filling in the spaces of what I've shared on this post, but never mentioned.

    "We can only control some things in our lives and must accept that most is out of our hands...whether it is destiny or just life itself."

    I so agree. And ironically, accepting seems to empower, doesn't it?

    "But in any event, I will take whatever my life has to offer because it is unique and mine."

    You said it!

    "As far as I am concerned I would rather be here than somewhere else...living, loving and learning every day."

    Amen!

    Yes, I know that if anyone can understand lifes' surprises, it's you dear lady! You're a perfect example of embracing your surprises and growing from them. Brava!

    Thank you for stopping by and sharing on this post. It's so appreciated!

    Hope you're enjoying a wonderful Monday!

    X

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  17. i like to think of life as a series of surprises and not destiny. surely, my life was not destined to be this * up! :)

    and i won't say it could get worse, because it does.

    happy monday ron.

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  18. Hiya Val~

    "i like to think of life as a series of surprises and not destiny."

    I actually think that's a super way to think of life...

    ..."a series of surprises."

    "surely, my life was not destined to be this * up!"

    Oh, girl...your life is not * up. You're faaaaabulous!

    (((( Val ))))

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, my friend!

    Happy Monday to ya, too!

    X

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  19. This discussion immediately brought to mind The Matrix:

    Morpheus : Do you believe in fate, Neo?
    Neo : No.
    Morpheus : Why?
    Neo : Because I don't like the idea that I'm not in control of my own life.

    Although I enjoy the idea of destiny, I don't think our lives are decided upon birth. I'd like to think that we can, at any moment, change course and become whatever it is we want to be. Otherwise, what fun is there in life?

    Regardless, this is some great food for thought. Will be swinging by Blunt Delivery tonight!

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  20. Helloooooo Herman~

    OMG...it's been sooo long since I've seen The Matrix that I totally forgot about that! What a FABULOUS movie, was't it?

    "Neo : Because I don't like the idea that I'm not in control of my own life."

    I believe that "I" created my destiny before birth, therefore I do have control. But, the control comes in accepting it. Because once I accept it, I am empowered to make free will choices to live my life the way I created it before birth.

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic. Much enjoyed and much appreciated!

    And you're gonna LOVE Blunt Delivery. I'm so glad you're gonna stop by!!

    Hope you had a great day, my friend!

    X

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  21. I find that life is full of surprises, but there's an old saying "luck favors the prepared man." You have to plan for certain things and "act as if" you are already successful, or whatever you want to be. For me, dreams are essential. I just let my thoughts flow. Dreams are what keep you motivated - even when things look bleak. But, when things don't go your way, alot of times that is meant to be and something good will come along, if you simply go with the flow. http://Back2Brooklyn.blogspot.com

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  22. Hi GFB~

    BRAVA!

    You shared the perfect balance....

    "Dreams are what keep you motivated - even when things look bleak. But, when things don't go your way, alot of times that is meant to be and something good will come along, if you simply go with the flow."

    Simply go with the flow....

    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and feelings. Much enjoyed and appreciated!

    Have a great day!

    X

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  23. First, when I read your questions part I had like this vision and a voice: Carrie Bradshaw asking questions... pondering away... Chic Ron!

    More seriously, Ron, this is very good stuff. Also the post you recommended. I think that we should dream. Dreams don't always come true the way we imagined them, but life is about being inspired and finding your "job", your reason to be here. Dreams mean to me a person who is excited, lack of dreams signifies depression and loss of interest.

    I want and need to dream!

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  24. Bonjour Susu~

    OMG, I can't BELIEVE you said that about the questions resembling Carrie Bradshaw's voice because that's EXACTLY the same thing I thought when I read it. Actually, Brit wrote those questions, not me.

    I wholeheartly agree with your entire comment.

    "Dreams don't always come true the way we imagined them, but life is about being inspired and finding your "job", your reason to be here."

    Dreaming, planning and making choices are (like I shared) valuable, because if I didn't do these things, then I would never discover my life.

    My destiny.

    Destiny is a discovery. A journey in remembering WHY I'm here.

    Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing on this post, beautiful lady!

    You've added MUCH!

    Have a great day!

    X

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  25. aw.... i do not deserve such kind words my dear!!! thank you so much.

    and yes, i think no matter what age you are the topic of broken dreams is applicable...

    i am trying to embrace the surprises... unfortunately it's just hard to wrap my mind around the bad ones like, "hey, he's been sleeping with someone else and now i need to restart my life again." etc. ;)

    still dealing with how to navigate those.

    but again, i agree my dear that there is plan for all of our lives. Always have.

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  26. You have touched upon one of my exposed nerves, Ron! I'm constantly asking myself the question of the meaning of destiny as my life has taken a million different paths in love, career, friendships which are forever changing! Is destiny the day I die, e.g. am I destined not to be unproduced which is the case today? Or do I have years to wait until I am produced, and thus, my destiny...or dream be fulfilled! Such metaphysical questions are so discombulating that acceptance as you mention is so necessary! Or to quote a line from the film the "Big Chill"...rationalizations are more important than sex! ;)

    A wonderfully thought-provoking post, Ron!
    Buona giornata! :))

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  27. Hola Brit~

    Oh, yes you do....because you're faaaaaaaaabulous!

    "i am trying to embrace the surprises... unfortunately it's just hard to wrap my mind around the bad ones like, "hey, he's been sleeping with someone else and now i need to restart my life again." etc."

    Me too. I mean just because I believe that surprises are part of my destiny, doesn't make them all easy to accept. Trust me, I STILL struggle with navigating them. However, I've always seen (eventually) that they were for the best.

    Thank you again for inspiring me to write this post, girl!

    You da' BOMB!

    Have a super-duper day!

    X

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  28. Hellooooooo Petra~

    Oh, I LOVE you dear lady!!!

    "Or to quote a line from the film the "Big Chill"...rationalizations are more important than sex!"

    HAHAHHAHAHAHAHA....that's flawless! I totally forgot about that movie. Wasn't it the BEST? I need to rent it again.

    I think what you shared is what I truly believe...

    "Such metaphysical questions are so discombulating that acceptance as you mention is so necessary!"

    And trust me, I don't always find it easy. But, eventually discover that it was meant to be.

    I too dreamed, planned, and actively worked towards being an actor. And I DID become an actor, however it didn't happen exactly the way I thought it would. I thought I would be acting forever. Then, something shifted inside me and my life took me away from acting; onto another path. It was tough letting go, but I eventually found the same fulfillment on that path. And now, my life is taking me down another path. Yet, exactly what it is...I don't know. I just have to see were it takes me. For me, it seems to works best if I just follow my life.

    I'm realizing that my life is suppose to travel down MANY different paths. So, that's my destiny.

    Thank you so much for stopping by; adding your thoughts, feelings and guestions to this post, dear lady! You've added SOOOOOOO much!

    Have a vunderbar day!

    X

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  29. Part of our growth is to learn to accept what life presents us. Our mind lives on expectations. this is the reason why we humans resists unanticipated changes. The truth about life is that it does not evolve around what we want. While we believe that happiness is the ideal state of existence, we don't understand that it will not exist without the experience of misery.

    Good or bad, happy or not, life is all lessons. The more we let go of our resistance and accept what is, the more we grow in spirit. :-)

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  30. Greetings Walter~

    Welcome....nice to meet you!

    "Part of our growth is to learn to accept what life presents us. Our mind lives on expectations. this is the reason why we humans resists unanticipated changes."

    Yup!

    "While we believe that happiness is the ideal state of existence, we don't understand that it will not exist without the experience of misery."

    Thank you!

    "Good or bad, happy or not, life is all lessons. The more we let go of our resistance and accept what is, the more we grow in spirit."

    And thank you, again!

    Thank you for stopping by and sharing your comment!

    Much appreciated.

    Enjoy your evening!

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  31. good morning darling, this post is timely in my life just now......i have so many broken dreams, so many hopes unfulfilled, so many lost loves...sometimes my heart seems like it left my chest and took wing over the sea, to some faraway place where pain does not live...thank you so much for your sweet words-as always-on my post about Modigliani...they are my own words, what i would hear him say if i was listening hard enough...see the movie, it will speak to your soul in the deepest way...thank you, ron, for being a light for me out there in that vast darkness....it means the world you are there. xo

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  32. Good Morning Linda~

    As soon as I read your post last night I thought, "Isn't it ironic how the two of us posted about the same thing - destiny and dreams?"

    I LOVED your words, dear lady! I truly think they spoke for so many artists and creative-type people.

    Yes, I will definitely look for the film. I was amazed at all the really great actors that were in the clip! I can't believe I missed this film.

    Thank you for stopping by, dear Linda!

    Always sharing much good energy with you!

    (((( Linda )))))

    Have a wonderful day!

    xoxoxo

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  33. Dang, it must have lost my comment again? I think I said something about everything always happening for a reason.

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  34. Hiya Peg~

    I can't understand why that keeps happening to you!?!?!

    Anyhoo....thanks much for stopping by again!

    Yeah...everything happens for a reason.

    Have a wonderful day, my dear friend!

    X

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  35. Hey there Ronaldo,
    How are you today? Iam OK, and I hope that everything is fine with ya.
    Oh yes,oh yes...Life! There's an expression:
    "Expect the unexpected".

    You can nevver get it down pat and all neat in a gift package. And I don't know how you feel about the exciting slighride that they call "mid-life".
    I feel like this is only the start too.. And yet, for the first time in several years,there is an element that is exciting and new.New starts and I think a new life further down the line.

    A big hug to you ((((((Ron))))))

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  36. Bonjour Barbara~

    Great too see ya! Yes, everything is great here, just can't wait for Fall!

    "Expect the unexpected."

    You said it! And you're right, because we can never get it down paT in a neat gift package, but it certainly makes life interesting, doesn't it?

    "Mid-life" For me, life really started midway. I love where I'm at right now.

    There is an element that is excitement, isn't there?

    Thanks so much for stopping by, Barb!

    A big hug to you too (((( Barb )))

    xoxoxo

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  37. I love the notion of shifting dreams, rather than dreams lost
    that's lovely Ron

    and thanks for being such a good friend during this crappy time for me
    it is appreciated beyond what I can express in a comment box

    Hope sends hugs

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  38. Hello Lady Dianne~

    I LOVE being your friend!

    And YOU being mine!

    ((((( Dianne )))))

    Thank you so much for stopping by today, dear lady!

    X and hugs to you, Hope, Siren, and Isadora!

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  39. I knew there was a reason I LIKED you so much....besides your wit, your charm, your humour and your intelligence.

    Oh.
    And your good looks.
    And your trolls.
    And your love of Halloween.
    And your passion for the kittie accessories of life. LOLOL

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  40. Gooood Morning Mel~

    (((( Mel ))))

    Ditto to you dear lady!

    To all of the above.

    Oh.
    And to your love of all things childlike.
    Like, sidewalk chalk, bubbles, penquins, and of course....rubber duckies!

    So glad we met in our destiny!

    Have a wonderful day!

    And mucho thanks for stopping by!

    X

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  41. I read Brit's post a few days ago too. I told her that unfortunately the bouts of existential angst never go away. I'm 41 and I still have repeat performances regularly. I really liked how you said about your dreams that, "They just naturally shift, as I grow." I like to think of it the same way.
    And, really isn't part of staying sane keeping the right spin on things? I just went through a horrible ordeal with my horse trainers and had to move my horses to another barn. They were so disappointing as people but I decided to change the outlook. I learned a lot because of the experience and I've moved on to a better situation. It's all good.
    At least that's what I keep telling myself.

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  42. Hi Jen~

    Yes...I read your comment on Brits post last week and LOVED it. I totally agreed!

    "And, really isn't part of staying sane keeping the right spin on things?"

    You said it, my friend! It's all in how we look at it.

    "I learned a lot because of the experience and I've moved on to a better situation. It's all good."

    Brava! That's how I like to look at every situation. So, for me, they're are no mistakes. Just growth.

    Thanks SO MUCH for stopping by and adding your thoughts to this post, Jen!

    ALWAYS enjoyed!

    Hope you had a great day!

    X

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  43. Hi Ron!

    This is the first serious side of you that I have seen since finding your blog. I kept reading waiting for the punchline, but then realized there isn't a punchline here. No poop throwing, or cell-phone boobie holders...Ron has a serious side, and it is just as thought-provoking as his funny side. Nice, you are a well-rounded individual after all--hahahahaha....

    Sometimes I think life is pre-destined but I also think that we can screw it up, intentional or not, we just have to be ready and willing to go against whatever is causing us fear or hesitation, then we alter destiny.

    Great post Ron, as always....

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  44. Hellooooooo Finally Getting To Even~

    OMG, that's right...you just started reading my blog, I forgot.

    Yeah, a few times a month I enjoy sharing the more thought-provoking side of myself. When I first starting doing this my readers were saying, "OMG...WTF?...you have another side, Ron!"

    HAHAHAHAHAHA!

    "Sometimes I think life is pre-destined but I also think that we can screw it up, intentional or not, we just have to be ready and willing to go against whatever is causing us fear or hesitation, then we alter destiny."

    You're absolutely right! Destiny can be altered as we live it. I don't think everyone realizes that. We have the freedom to make choices.

    Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend!

    ALWAYS a delight!

    Enjoy your evening!

    X

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