Love Reflection Day

I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day because of the commercialism and media, making those who are in a relationship or marriage feel like they have to do/buy something special on this day for the person they’re with. And also because I often hear how it makes many people who are not in a relationship or marriage feel like they’re missing out.

But I think we can celebrate Valentine’s Day without buying into the hype. And we certainly don’t need to be in a relationship or marriage to do that because what Valentine’s Day really means to me, is reflecting on and celebrating the love in my life.

So instead of calling this a Valentine's Day post, I’m simply calling it a Love Reflection Day post.

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I don't think all people are meant to be in a relationship or marriage. And I'm one of those people. I sincerely enjoy being single.

And for as long as I’ve been single, I have never felt alone, lonely, or that something was missing from my life by not having a special person to share it with. Nor have I ever felt unloved.

Yet I’ve known many people who were either in a relationship or marriage, and felt totally alone and unloved.

A relationship or marriage does not always fill the void of aloneness in someone’s life, nor does it quench the desire of feeling and knowing that you’re loved.

I honestly believe that love starts with self, and that until one truly loves and accepts themselves (warts and all), they will look to others to do something they haven't yet done for themselves.

Therefore whether you’re single or coupled, until one knows and believes how lovable and loved they are, love will always be something of a search in the eyes of someone else.

To me, love is love. And it doesn’t matter who I share it with, because it’s still love.

Love is like the air I breathe in order to live. It’s all around me and comes in many forms - it's just a matter of breathing it in and breathing it out.

So today, I ask that you simply reflect on the love that is present in your life, whether it’s a special person, marriage, friendships, family, pets, and celebrate that love.

Because it seems that the more aware we are of love, and share it, the more we feel its presence.

And above all, embrace and love yourself.


Have a beautiful weekend everyone!
X

58 comments

  1. Ooops Ron, I didn't know it was Valentines Day until I read your post. And what a beautiful post it is, written from the heart which is something you do so well.


    I wish I could write about emotions the way you can. Not sure why I can't unless it dates back to early years when treatment from my Mom caused me to hide them all.


    Have a wonderful weekend, my friend xx

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  2. This is an award winning post Ron! My brother feels exactly the same way as you do. He has never been married and is perfectly happy being single. A life long bachelor and proud of it!! I never get lonely and actually have a great time just being by myself. I have tons of hobbies. I am going to wish you a very Happy Love Reflection Day, my friend and hope you do something you enjoy today!! xo Jeanne and the girlz

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  3. LOVEly post Ron and spot on! MWM and I don't buy each other cards and presents on 14th February because every day is Valentines Day for us. We will be having a bottle of Prosecco with our meal this evening though, because it was half price at the supermarket! LOL

    Have a LOVEly day. xx

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  4. Great post for today, Ron. You are so right about needing to love yourself first. I hope you are surrounded by love today. Here's some from me: XO

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  5. Winnie the pooh!! Ahh I just squealed with joy! That is one of my fav quotes :)


    This is a perfect post Ronnie. Now being in a new relationship I enjoy the excuse to do something sweet for my guy but I agree the holiday as a whole is commerical and can make a lot of people feel left out. This post really helps make everyone feel just a little more connected. Love it! Thanks so much for sharing!

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  6. "A relationship or marriage does not always fill the void of aloneness in someone’s life, nor does it quench the desire of feeling and knowing that you’re loved." - very wise...too many people stay in relationships because they are afraid to be alone, to know themselves. Aloneness and loneliness are two very different concepts though many confuse them.

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  7. Ron, I L-O-V-E this post! Years ago, I used to feel left out on Valentine's Day because I am single too. And I think you're correct by saying it's because of the commercialism and media putting it into our heads that Valentine's Day is all about couples, but it's not. It's about LOVE period. And I think we can celebrate Valentine's Day everyday, not just today.


    Beautiful post, Ron. And perfect for today. I love the quote from Winnie the Pooh!


    Have a wonderful weekend x

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  8. Gooood morning Valerie!

    "Ooops Ron, I didn't know it was Valentines Day until I read your post."



    That's okay, dear lady, because I don't really know if you celebrate Valentine's Day in the UK. Here in the US it's very commercialized and hyped, so my feelings about it are mixed. I love what the day represents, I just think the media distorts the true meaning....LOVE.


    And it's funny because it's always been something that comes easy to express my emotions through writing. If I sometimes need to say something to someone or get something off my chest, I will often write/type it out first before actually saying it because my words seem to come out clearer, before actually say it verbally.


    Writing for me is not only something creative, but it's also something therapeutic.


    Much thanks for stopping by, Valerie. Have a LOVEly weekend!


    X to you and Joe!

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  9. Hellooooo there Jeanne!

    " My brother feels exactly the same way as you do. He has never been married and is perfectly happy being single. A life long bachelor and proud of it!!"

    As I shared, I honestly don't believe that everyone is meant to be a relationship or marriage. Some people (such as your brother and me) sincerely enjoy being single.

    "I never get lonely and actually have a great time just being by myself. I have tons of hobbies."



    You GO, Jeanne! And you know what? I can honestly tell that because of what you share on your blog about various hobbies and things you enjoy doing yourself. And I think that's healthy in any relationship to have things you enjoy doing separate from your mate, because it adds something to the relationship.


    Happy Love Reflection Day, dear lady. And thank you for stopping by!


    X to you and the girlz!

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  10. Good morning Pearl!

    " MWM and I don't buy each other cards and presents on 14th February because every day is Valentines Day for us."

    Brava! And thank you for saying that because I agree! EVERYDAY can/should be Valentine's Day!

    "We will be having a bottle of Prosecco with our meal this evening though, because it was half price at the supermarket! LOL"



    HAHAHHAHAHA! You GO, Pearl! And CHEERS to you and MWM!


    Thanks so much for stopping by and have a LOVEly weekend!


    X

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  11. Hey there Bijoux!

    " You are so right about needing to love yourself first."



    I had to learn that myself to understand its truth.


    Thanks so much for stopping by, my friend! Have a faaaaaaabulous day and weekend!


    (((((((((((( You )))))))))))


    XO

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  12. Hiya Shae!

    "Winnie the pooh!! Ahh I just squealed with joy! That is one of my fav quotes :)"

    Isn't that quote faaaaaabulous? I found it two days ago while searching online for LOVE quotes, so as soon as I spotted it I knew I wanted to use it for this post.

    ". Now being in a new relationship I enjoy the excuse to do something sweet for my guy but I agree the holiday as a whole is commerical and can make a lot of people feel left out."



    And I think it's AWESOME that you're in a new relationship because I know that's something you want and enjoy. So, I'm HAPPY for you, girl!


    Much thanks for stopping by today, and have a LOVEly weekend!


    X

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  13. Hey there Rob!

    " Robin Williams spoke about this very thing: "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”

    OMG...I had NEVER heard that before from Robin Williams, but I freakin' LOVE it! And it's so funny and ironic he said that after I just finished posting about him in my previous post - HA!

    "And you know something? I love them with all my heart and I thank God for bringing them into my life. I am truly blessed to have them."



    Beautiful Rob, and AMEN! And they are blessed to have YOU in their life as well because you're a GREAT guy!


    Much thanks for stopping by, buddy. Have a super weekend!


    X

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  14. Ron, what a timely, well-thought-out, well-written post! Thank you for saying what so many of us are feeling -- and would have said ourselves.

    I, too, dislike the commercialism of Valentine's Day. It's become almost like Christmas, hasn't it? The ads on TV, the stories in the newspaper, everything *demands* that we BUY LOVE, when in reality, love isn't for sale.

    Love comes in many forms -- from that of our family and friends to that of our pets and "special someones." And you're so right -- the ability to love others and be loved in return starts with a love of ourselves. And that, I think, comes from loving our Creator and knowing we, too, are loved!

    Happy weekend, however you choose to spend it!

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  15. "too many people stay in relationships because they are afraid to be alone, to know themselves."

    Yes, Suzi, I agree. And I've known several people who have done that.

    " Aloneness and loneliness are two very different concepts though many confuse them."



    THANK. YOU.


    You can be alone, but not feel lonely. Yet you can not be alone, and feel lonely.


    Much thanks for stopping by, my friend. Have a LOVEly weekend!


    X

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  16. David OliverFebruary 14, 2014

    Many years ago when my wife and I divorced the first thing I thought was "I have to find someone, I can't be alone!" It took many years to realize being single was exactly what I did need and being alone is not always a bad thing.


    You can't make an unhappy person happy. You can give them the illusion of happiness for a few hours with candy, flowers, etc, but reality begins about 12:01 AM February 15.


    I have been single for 20 years and I never want another live in relationship! Thanks for making that sound perfectly okay.

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  17. Hola Denise!

    " It's about LOVE period. And I think we can celebrate Valentine's Day everyday, not just today."

    Thank you! Yes, Valentine's Day can be celebrated everyday, not just today. I think it's a good thing to have special days to remind us of things, but I also think that the meanings of those days can be shared throughout the whole year.

    " I love the quote from Winnie the Pooh!"



    I found that online about two days ago and smiled when I read it because it's so true!


    Thanks so much for stopping by, girl. Have a LOVEly weekend!


    X

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  18. " It's become almost like Christmas, hasn't it? The ads on TV, the stories in the newspaper, everything *demands* that we BUY LOVE, when in reality, love isn't for sale."

    Yes! You are spot on about that, Debbie!

    "the ability to love others and be loved in return starts with a love of ourselves."

    Thank you for sharing because it reminds me of one of my favorite songs, Nature Boy. I don't know if you're familiar with that song, but it's beautiful. I'm leaving you the link to the You Tube video, sung my Natalie Cole. If you feel like it, please watch it.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWLbc0e7DUk

    "And that, I think, comes from loving our Creator and knowing we, too, are loved!"



    Yes, and I think that's one of the main reasons why I feel so loved and never feel alone.


    Much thanks for stopping by, dear lady. Have wonderful weekend!


    X

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  19. " they will look to others to do something they haven't yet done for themselves."


    I have an aunt who said something very similar. She said that you can't expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself first. And I believe that.


    Profoundly beautiful post, Ron. Well said, dude! Love the quote.

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  20. "She said that you can't expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself first."


    I agree, Matt! And I think that's something I had to learn through living life. And also that I love is present in my life, always.


    I found that quote about two days ago and thought it so sweet and simple, yet powerful.



    Much thanks for stopping by, bud. Have a most excellent weekend!


    X

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  21. Mark PetruskaFebruary 14, 2014

    "And for as long as I’ve been single, I have never felt alone, lonely, or that something was missing from my life by not having a special person to share it with. Nor have I ever felt unloved."

    You're fortunate, Ron. Because a lot of people who are single do feel those emotions. I know there were times when I was single that I was terribly lonely. By contrast, there were other times when I embraced my singleness, and wouldn't have traded it in for anything. Like the tides, these competing feelings ebbed and flowed.

    "Yet I’ve known many people who were either in a relationship or marriage, and felt totally alone and unloved."



    Another excellent point! So have I. There really is a lot of truth to the axiom "you make your own happiness."


    Happy Love Reflection Day! (I think this could catch on)....

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  22. Happy Valentine's Day, Ron! <3

    The post is so beautiful & so true. Love can take so many forms. On this Valentine's day, I just feel so very thankful for all the love I feel from family, friends-especially fellow bloggers & those on social media whom I have never met but yet have a very strong connection.

    I wanted you to know I have been thinking of you with all your wonderful snow (:p) I was just hoping that your power didn't go out. Always happy to read your posts (when I ever get around to reading). Enjoy your igloo!!

    Love ya, my friend,
    Collette

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  23. Ron, this is so beautiful and powerful. And as I've told you several times before, I just love the way you write. You always say how you feel, and you say it honestly, straightforward and eloquently.


    What you said about loving yourself first is so true, and that if we don't do that, we will always be searching for it in the eyes of someone else.


    I don't think love is something we can even search for because love, like happiness, must come from within and be acknowledged. And as Pooh said, you can't spell it...you feel it. So the more you feel it, the more it is.


    I'm single too, but I've never felt lonely or alone. And I have a lot of love in my life, so I've never felt unloved or uncared for. I consider myself very blessed man.


    Thank you for sharing this reminder today, Ron!

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  24. Hey there Collette! Great to see ya, my friend!!!!!

    "On this Valentine's day, I just feel so very thankful for all the love I feel from family, friends-especially fellow bloggers & those on social media whom I have never met but yet have a very strong connection"

    Good for you! And doesn't blow you away how much camaraderie, support and love you received from the people you blog with? That in itself, is a whole lotta love!

    Yes, we've gotten a TON of snow this winter, and I for one am loving it because for the past three years we've virtually had none. And no, we haven't lost power, thank god, but with the snow storms we've been getting, I'm surprised we didn't. We're getting more snow tomorrow and next week....:)

    Hope all is well with you and thanks SO MUCH for stopping by and saying hi! Have a super weekend!

    X ya!

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  25. Thank you, Robert :)

    And I freakin' love what you said here....

    "I don't think love is something we can even search for because love, like happiness, must come from within and be acknowledged. And as Pooh said, you can't spell it...you feel it. So the more you feel it, the more it is."

    You said a cotton-pickin' mouthful of truth there. Sooooo true! Love, like happiness, must come from within and be ACKNOWLEDGED.

    " I consider myself a very blessed man."



    And you ARE! And just the fact you know that, is a blessing!


    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, bud. Wishing you a fantabulous weekend!


    X

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  26. Howdy Mark!

    "You're fortunate, Ron. Because a lot of people who are single do feel those emotions."

    You know, for as long as I can remember I have always felt loved. It's odd, because I always feel watched over, cared for, and loved by some "energy" that's around me. It's something that has always been there (even as a child). So perhaps that's why I never feel alone or lonely. Plus, I receive so much love from the people in my life.

    "There really is a lot of truth to the axiom "you make your own happiness."



    Yes, there sure is, because if someone isn't already happy with themselves, a relationship is not going to fix that.


    Much thank for stopping buddy! And Happy Love Reflection Day to you! Have a faaabulous weekend!


    X to you and Tara!

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  27. So beautifully said! I, like you, am perfectly content being single. I don't feel alone or lonely but I remember the days when I did. I was insecure and needed the love/attention of someone, anyone, really to feel validated. I'm so much happier now because I've learned to love me.
    Happy Love Reflection Day, my friend! xoxo

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  28. Hey there Chrissy!

    " I'm so much happier now because I've learned to love me."

    Brava! You GO, girl!!!!!! And then if a relationship does come into your life, it will have nothing to do with validation. It's because you simply wish to "share" your life (and love) with someone special.

    But in the meantime, you're enjoying being single!

    Thanks so much for stopping, Chrissy. Happy Love Reflection Day and have a super weekend!

    xoxoxo

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  29. Ron, as usual, you have such sound, wise, beautiful, and well-said advice, all I feel qualified to say is: hey, everyone, listen to this guy! But I will keep talking anyway:

    Speaking as someone who is in as committed of a relationship as could be, I will only say this: I love you, Ron, but there's a reason why I'm blogging even though it's Valentine's Day and I do have THE love of my life in my life.

    Don't worry, though: the doghouse isn't comfortable, but I know as well as she does that you gotta let the dog come back in sometime!

    On a more serious note: I searched frantically for years to find someone, but it wasn't until I decided I was comfortable being single that I was able to let love back into my life. I'm not saying "oh, there's someone out there for you, too" - but you never know. You really never know.

    Happy Valentine's Day, Ron, and to all of Ron's readers!

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  30. I'm afraid I don't go for any of these commercial bonanza days, I'll occasionally get Elaine a card but she's not bothered either.
    Anyway, flowers and chocolates are all very well, but we shouldn't lose sight of what Valentine's day is really about......Dead Gangsters.

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  31. Dianne WilsonFebruary 15, 2014

    I love that Pooh quote
    I read an article that said Valentine's Day was becoming more of a holiday for children, where they bring treats to their friends or get gifts from their family. As long as it doesn't leave some poor child feeling unloved that's cool.
    I saw a great Grumpy Cat pic that said. It's OK that no one loves you today, no one loves you the other 364 days either.
    Made me laugh and laugh


    Me and the girls and the kitties send love

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  32. Gooood morning Lady Dianne!

    I found that quote online, and when I saw it, I thought it was
    magnifique because it was so simple, clear, and true!

    "Valentine's Day was becoming more of a holiday for children, where they bring treats to their friends or get gifts from their family. As long as it doesn't leave some poor child feeling unloved that's cool."

    Wow...I had not heard that, but I agree with you...as long as it doesn't make some child feel unloved, that's cool!

    And I loved this...

    " It's OK that no one loves you today, no one loves you the other 364 days either."

    Bwhahahhahahaha! CRACKED ME UP!

    Thanks a bunch for stopping by, dear lady. Have a LOVEly weekend!

    (((((((((((((((((( You )))))))))))))

    X to you, Hope, Athena, Siren, and Isadora!

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  33. Nathaniel, thank you for your kind, sweet, and supportive words, buddy.

    And I am sooooooo happy to hear that you have THE love of your life in you life. That is AWESOME!!!!! And I'm sure she feels the same way about you.

    This made me laugh....

    "Don't worry, though: the doghouse isn't comfortable, but I know as well as she does that you gotta let the dog come back in sometime!"

    HAHAHA! My father used to say something very similar to that!

    And I loved your last "on a more serious note" because it's full of much wisdom....

    I searched frantically for years to find someone, but it wasn't until I decided I was comfortable being single that I was able to let love back into my life."

    Yes, that seems to be the way it happens for many people, isn't it? Because when we discover that comfortable single self-love within ourselves, the love we share with with someone else is a love that's "shared"; not frantically needed to complete us. Because I don't think two halves make a whole, but rather two "wholes" make a whole.

    " I'm not saying "oh, there's someone out there for you, too" - but you never know. You really never know."



    You're right, you never know! And it's ironic you mentioned that because I have always had a strong feeling that I will meet someone when I when I hit 60 years old (in two years). I don't know why I know that, but I just do.


    Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing on this post, Nathaniel. You're a very wise man.


    Enjoy your weekend!
    X

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  34. "Anyway, flowers and chocolates are all very well, but we shouldn't lose sight of what Valentine's day is really about......Dead Gangsters."

    HAHAHAHA! Dale, that cracked me up because I hadn't thought of that. Too funny, man!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, bud. Have a SUPER weekend!


    X to you and Elaine!

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  35. I generally boycott all Valentine's posts, but since yours isn't a mushy couples one, I'll make an exception. Sometimes it almost seems like an attempt to make single people feel bad about themselves. There are an awful lot of relationships I know to be unhappy who still put on a show this itme every year.

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  36. Ron, you are awesome as usual - I can't say I'm out of the doghouse yet, but there's a reason we are together. Love doesn't mean always getting along; it means staying together even when things aren't 100%. Of course, as you said before, it is hard to tell when you are in a relationship whether you are staying with the person out of love, and whether they are staying with YOU out of love. Maybe it is impossible to tell; that's why I don't blame people for staying single! But I think you are right about something else; if you meet the love of your life at 20, 40, 60... it doesn't matter. What matters is that you lived your life the way you wanted. Otherwise, you'll never meet the love of your life, because they won't recognize what is in you that is worth loving.

    So stay single as long as you can - I'm sure there are plenty of people out there wanting you to be in a relationship for all the wrong reasons!

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  37. "I generally boycott all Valentine's posts, but since yours isn't a mushy couples one, I'll make an exception."

    HA! OMG...I loved that! No, this is not a mushy couples one, to say the least. And you're right, it does almost seem like an attempt to make single people feel bad about themselves and they're missing out. When in fact, LOVE can be celebrated in many forms.

    " There are an awful lot of relationships I know to be unhappy who still put on a show this time every year."

    Thank you. Me too.

    Much thanks for stopping by!

    X ya, girl!

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  38. Beautiful sentiments.
    The best thing about Valentine's Day (in our household) is the 1/2 priced chocolates at Target on the 15th.

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  39. "Love doesn't mean always getting along; it means staying together even when things aren't 100%."

    You're right! And that pertains to family and friendships as well.

    "What matters is that you lived your life the way you wanted. Otherwise, you'll never meet the love of your life, because they won't recognize what is in you that is worth loving."

    Bingo! Again, you share such wisdom, Nathaniel!



    Thank you!

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  40. "The best thing about Valentine's Day (in our household) is the 1/2 priced chocolates at Target on the 15th."


    Bwhahahahahhaha! Jean, I LOVED that!!!!


    And hey, that just reminded me to get to Walgreens and grab their 1/2 priced chocolates today!


    Much thanks for stopping by, my friend. And thank you for being in my life. You're an awesome lady!


    X

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  41. I'm sure there were many broken hearts on 14th for men and women. Valentine's day can put so much pressure on people instead of being a day when you can simply express your love for someone you know without all the fake razzmatazz that goes along with it.

    Some people have chosen to turn it into a really nice day to share with their children and I think that's a great idea. We all need to promote love more throughout the entire year, as when it's gone, you can't get it back.

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  42. Rum Punch, you summed it up PERFECTLY!

    " instead of being a day when you can simply express your love for someone you know without all the fake razzmatazz that goes along with it."

    Exactly! Simple.

    "We all need to promote love more throughout the entire year, as when it's gone, you can't get it back."

    Amen!

    Much thanks for stopping by today, buddy! Hope you're having a super Sunday!

    X

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  43. Ron, my favorite thing to do is come back and read everyone's comments on your posts. I love to read what everyone else shares and how you respond. Have a great Sunday!

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  44. Hey Robert!


    Yup...it's the dialogue that's my favorite part of a post. The interaction. It's the BEST!


    Have a grrrrrrrrreat Sunday too!

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  45. This might sound strange Ron... but to me, and I guess it is from bad experiences, it almost seems unnatural for people to be married forever. My Mom and Dad had a GREAT marriage... I lived all my life seeing an amazing example of marriage. Of course there were ups and downs, but all in all they loved each other and worked together. But my own experience was oh so different. And so many people fall out of love... so many people can't live together after a year... so many people cheat... it makes you wonder if we were MEANT to be "MARRIED." I don't know.. I guess I am jaded from some bad things that happened in the past. Things I didn't deserve.



    OH OH I wanted to tell you! Totally different subject. I thought of you last night... I was flipping through the channels and came across The Birdcage with Robin Williams. I remembered seeing it in the theaters but didn't remember the movie at all. I ended up staying up WAY too late... it was HYSTERICAL. I sat in bed with the lights off laughing out loud through the whole thing. Robin Williams was GREAT in that... I thought about your Mrs. Doubtfire post. The Birdcage was nothing but laughs after laughs... what an amazing movie!

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  46. Hiya Katherine!

    "it makes you wonder if we were MEANT to be "MARRIED."

    You know, I often wonder that myself, I really do. As you said, some people either fall out of love or sometimes they just stop growing together and their relationship is over. I don't think all relationships (and even friendships) are forever. Some people are together for a certain period of time and then they move on.

    And I have to say, I'm not big on marriage, I'm more about making a 'loyal commitment' to someone. I don't have to be married to be with someone.

    Yet, many people love the idea of marriage.

    "The Birdcage with Robin Williams."

    OMG....I LOVE THAT MOVIE!!!! In fact, it was one of my mother's favorite films. She watched it over and over again, anytime it was on cable. Yes, Robin Williams was GREAT...and so was Nathan Lane!

    Thanks so much for stopping by, girl. Hope your weekend was FABU!

    X

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  47. well you know how i feel about holidays and the commercialism, so...

    "I don't think all people are meant to be in a relationship or marriage. And I'm one of those people. I sincerely enjoy being single."



    very true, tho' i do appreciate some of the benefits of being in a relationship. i'm cool with or without someone, not preferring one over the other but simply know how to enjoy whatever state i'm in.

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  48. "well you know how i feel about holidays and the commercialism, so..."

    HA! Yes, I do, Val! And I'm pretty much the same way. I don't mind the holidays, but the commercialism is waaaaay too much.

    " i'm cool with or without someone, not preferring one over the other but simply know how to enjoy whatever state i'm in."

    BINGO! That's it! Enjoying WHATEVER state you're in!

    And yes, there are benefits to being in a relationship, but like you....I like my space. And I have a feeling I will meet someone when I hit 60. I have always felt that for some reason.

    Much thanks for stopping by, girl. Hope your weekend was super!
    X

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  49. Ron, I forgot to say in my first comment that even though I am in a relationship and enjoy every minute of it, I wouldn't be one of those single people who felt alone or lonely too because I also my own company.

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  50. "I wouldn't be one of those single people who felt alone or lonely too because I also my own company."


    You GO, Matt! And me as well. In fact, I can even travel to places by myself and never feel alone because not only do I enjoy my own company, but I can also makes friends anywhere I go with strangers. And talk to anyone.

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  51. Oh my, this may be the best post I've ever read on this topic. Well done Ron! I 1000% agree.

    Therefore whether you’re single or coupled, until one knows and believes how lovable and loved they are, love will always be something of a search in the eyes of someone else.



    Brilliant.

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  52. Thank you, Lisa. These were some of my thoughts and feelings that just came to me the day before Valentine's Day about LOVE, so I thought I would share them.

    Much thanks for stopping by, my friend! Hope you had a super Monday. Enjoy your week!

    X

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  53. I thought I missed you're comment to my comment....and then I realized I had no comment, which is a good thing because I thoroughly enjoyed everyone's comments and your comments to their comments. ROFL. Unfortunately that sentence only makes sense to a few, rare folks, bless their hearts for helping me feel sane!
    I'll just self report that he-who-is-horribly-mushy made me an all veggie casserole (with cheese) for dinner, gifted me with flowers and gave me a gushing mush card. Of course I have gushy cards stuck in secret places that I pull out and gift he-who-likes-cards-AS-much-as-pressies. If I space 'em out and let time work in my favor he-who-is-at-the-forgetful-stage forgets I handed it to him 2 years earlier......LOL THAT kinda says how I feel about the commercialization of a holiday for profit, huh. Now, if I could just talk him into dried flowers.... :-/


    I do adore your wisdom...and it took a bit of stretching for me to come to understand the difference between solitude and loneliness...and it's all about enjoying the company you're keeping. You know this cuz you live it. Content....at peace...this is where I found myself when the Big Guy dropped Mr. Mush-bucket in my life.
    He has a funny sense of humour like that ... So I won't be surprised if 60 happens and you find yourself stashing Valentine cards to regift. ROFL

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  54. Hiya Mel!

    "I thought I missed you're comment to my comment....and then I realized I had no comment,...."

    Wait...so did you make a comment and it just didn't get published? Or did you not make a comment but thought you had made a comment. I'm confused - HAHAHAHAA!

    Anyway, no worries dear lady, because you made a comment now.

    And I LOVED this...

    " If I space 'em out and let time work in my favor he-who-is-at-the-forgetful-stage forgets I handed it to him 2 years earlier......LOL THAT kinda says how I feel about the commercialization of a holiday for profit, huh."

    Bwhahaha! Cracked. Me. Up.!

    "the difference between solitude and loneliness...and it's all about enjoying the company you're keeping."

    Exactly, there is a difference. And it's also about enjoying the company you keep. And honestly, my life is so full of love and good company, that I don't ever feel alone, lonely, or unloved. I truly love my life.

    "So I won't be surprised if 60 happens and you find yourself stashing Valentine cards to regift. ROFL"



    HA! And you know what? I bet you're right! And I'll be sure to let you know in two years, okay?


    Thanks so much for stopping by, dear lady!


    (((((((((((((( You )))))))))))


    X ya!

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  55. Aww, this was so sweet Ron! Belated Happy Love Reflection Day! I value your friendship!

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  56. " I value your friendship!"

    And same to YOU, Benze! I'm so glad we met through our blogs. I look forward to blogging with you this year!

    X

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  57. Ron, that's because you pick such interesting things to talk about. It makes us interact with you!

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