Friday, February 14, 2014

Love Reflection Day

I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day because of the commercialism and media, making those who are in a relationship or marriage feel like they have to do/buy something special on this day for the person they’re with. And also because I often hear how it makes many people who are not in a relationship or marriage feel like they’re missing out.

But I think we can celebrate Valentine’s Day without buying into the hype. And we certainly don’t need to be in a relationship or marriage to do that because what Valentine’s Day really means to me, is reflecting on and celebrating the love in my life.

So instead of calling this a Valentine's Day post, I’m simply calling it a Love Reflection Day post.

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I don't think all people are meant to be in a relationship or marriage. And I'm one of those people. I sincerely enjoy being single.

And for as long as I’ve been single, I have never felt alone, lonely, or that something was missing from my life by not having a special person to share it with. Nor have I ever felt unloved.

Yet I’ve known many people who were either in a relationship or marriage, and felt totally alone and unloved.

A relationship or marriage does not always fill the void of aloneness in someone’s life, nor does it quench the desire of feeling and knowing that you’re loved.

I honestly believe that love starts with self, and that until one truly loves and accepts themselves (warts and all), they will look to others to do something they haven't yet done for themselves.

Therefore whether you’re single or coupled, until one knows and believes how lovable and loved they are, love will always be something of a search in the eyes of someone else.

To me, love is love. And it doesn’t matter who I share it with, because it’s still love.

Love is like the air I breathe in order to live. It’s all around me and comes in many forms - it's just a matter of breathing it in and breathing it out.

So today, I ask that you simply reflect on the love that is present in your life, whether it’s a special person, marriage, friendships, family, pets, and celebrate that love.

Because it seems that the more aware we are of love, and share it, the more we feel its presence.

And above all, embrace and love yourself.

Have a beautiful weekend everyone!

X