My inspiration for this post came from my dear, longtime blogging friend, Debbie @ Musings by an ND Domer's Mom, who is not only a gifted...
You know, I bet right this very second you could probably tell me about a dozen things you don’t like about yourself.
Whether it’s something you don’t like physically about yourself, or something about your personality that you wish you could change.
Tell me, why is it that we seem to have no reservations about noticing what we don’t like, but when it comes to seeing what we DO like about ourselves, we suddenly get self-conscious, insecure and shy about saying it - or even admitting it?
And also, why is it that we often get embarrassed and bashful whenever someone compliments us about something?
It’s like we can’t even take a compliment without wanting to push the compliment away, by telling the person who gave it to us, “Oh no….I’m not really a good singer, I only sound good when I’m in the shower.”
Instead of just saying, “Thank you.”
Personally, I was always warned as a child that saying something good about myself or admitting to myself (or even others) that I had a natural talent in a particular area or that I genuinely liked something about my personality or even the way I looked, would be perceived as vain and egotistical. And I was also warned that speaking well of myself or getting compliments might somehow bring bad luck.
*don't forget, I went to Catholic school.
I realize that many teachers and parents teach their children this with good intentions, so that they won’t get a swelled head and think they’re better than anyone else. But I think in a small, yet powerful way, it puts seeds into a child’s mind that celebrating who they are is not politically correct.
I honestly believe that all of us have the right to embrace, enjoy and speak openly about the things we like about ourselves. And if you really think about it, if we gave ourselves that right, then we would just naturally give everyone else that right as well.
Withholding or denying our ability to speak well of ourselves, often times creates a feeling of begrudge towards others because we feel, “Well….if it’s wrong for me speak well of myself, then nobody else should either.”
Allow me to interject here the difference between knowing in your heart that you are good at a particular talent or like something about yourself, and simply being a bragger.
To me, anyone who is constantly boasting or bragging about themselves is truly not confident. Egotistical people are usually the most insecure. And they’re usually people who are exhausting be around because it’s constantly, “Look at me! Look at me! And please tell me that I'm fabulous!”
No, that’s not what I’m referring to in this post. I’m talking about confidently knowing something that you genuinely like about yourself and being able to admit it, and graciously accept a compliment.
Because I see nothing wrong in that.
So, today I’m going to ask all of you in your comments to share things about yourself that you LIKE.
Please feel free to share 1-4 things that you like about yourself. Or more if you wish.
However, I do not want to hear anyone say, “Well, I like this about myself, but….
Just share things about yourself and do it confidently with no buts.
Okay, I’ll start it off by admitting things that I like about myself….
*I like my sense of humor, because I even make myself laugh. HA!
*I like my willingness to embrace my fears.
*I like and respect my sharp intuitiveness.
*I like my hands.
Alrighty, now it’s your turn. Admit it…
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